Rishabh R

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    @Yimpa Over time my values have changed from chasing happiness ,success ,getting a relationship to these values which I listed in my above post such as resilience , tranquility and connection. I mean I used to be outcome focussed but now I am more internally focussed after painful realizations like effort matters but you can't control the outcome, you will not get everything that you desire and that's good , more the struggle and pain more massive the victory will be .

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     @Ramanujan Man, you are asking this for ages. Stop chasing success , success is a lie. No matter where you reach ,what you achieve your will still feel that you are short of something. Instead honour your own progress and reading about a self -help book is very different from applying that book. Focus more on taking action than on theory. 

    By the way I appreciate your burning desire for success.

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    12 hours ago, trenton said:

    Ultimately, I'm miserable because I had the vision and energy and I failed anyway. Personal development for me is not about building a vision. It is about replacing an old one while reconciling the difference between a limiting belief and an actual limit. Clearly value exercises are not enough to actually guide me in life.

    Be persistent despite failure. That's all you need to succeed . It takes practice to live in alignment with your values .

  14. Posted · Edited by Rishabh R

    It has been proven to me over and over again that my top value is:-

    1.Resilience which involves engaging with challenges ,discomfort and difficulty of day to day life after accepting them . 

    2nd value is Tranquility which involves questioning the thoughts ,beleifs and assumptions behind the emotion when angry , hurt ,triggered or experiencing any negative emotion by - What if I'm wrong ?, What would it mean if I were wrong ? ,Would being wrong create a better problem than my current problem or worse problem for both myself and others? then arriving at a balanced conclusion.

    3rd value is connection by expressing myself honestly to others .

    And I have experienced progress by acting in alignment with them.

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    @Zenterus From your situation I think that having high standards and focussing on finding high quality of girl over chasing quantity is a ticket out . I have seen many guys falling into the trap of getting a hot girlfriend while completely ignoring her actions , standards only to found out that they break up in some time and the girl dating other guy. I found out that post rejection that rejection is a protection from girls who were wrong for me. Yes , I dodged several bullets in college by getting rejected over and over again. Which saved me a lot from those manipulative ,toxic relationships. All the best ,you got this man.

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    @Miguel1 Alignment is not something that one gets through one time reflection but rather using reflection as a starting point and then acting in alignment with your priorities over and over again.

    What I have noticed is that more I align myself with my values more I have the feeling of fullness. It must be practiced day to day . You can use Ai to create an alignment tracker too.