Rishabh R
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Guys , the thing is that I have immense anger against girls who didn't loved me /rejected me and because of that I couldn't sleep whole night. I am cursing them , praying that something bad befalls on the girls in my batch who have boyfriends. I am acting as tough those girls are present infront of me and I am beating those girls who rejected me and then went to some other boys of my batch. It is happening right now. I know that it is bad but I don't understand how to control anger. Is hoping that I will find some other girl and I need not care about those girls who treated me badly the key ?
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@Ben2204 same here dude I am also a 23 year old guy but I have never punished innocent girls . I have been abused , bullied by girls too. Threatened by their friends , boyfriends. Never had a girlfriend. I think that the solution is to realise that you are already worth of love wether girls love you or not.
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@Lyubov thanks . Currently , I read the hardcopy of a self help book that I bought - The courage to be disliked and it said that my / one's worth ifor love and respect is inherent irrespective of external circumstances.
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To all those struggling with mental health -- we will make it through , best of luck.
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I have frequent thoughts of past like how people hurted me , bullied me and by remembering that I either say nasty things to themselves in my mind or feel angry. How do I overcome it or do I have to do self reflection which is feeling inwards?
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@Leo Gura yeah hope your health improves.
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@Applegarden8 yeah but her profile is showing that she last visited the forum on May 2 don't know that will she return or not
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I have frequent thoughts of past like how people hurted me , bullied me and by remembering that I either say nasty things to themselves in my mind or feel angry. How do I overcome it ? @Leo Gura any upcoming video on emotional mastery or anger or do I have to do self reflection which is feeling inwards?
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@Rafael Thundercat yeah that's right. And also I need to limit my exposure to them .
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@Rafael Thundercat yeah I must not expose them to my personal development materials.
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@Nilsi I understood it a little. One of my friends told me that you are not Oppenheimer and you can't practice philosophy if you are a student of science.
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Hey everyone ,it is difficult to walk the path of personal development . My friends insult Western philosophy like stoicism ,Greek philosophy they say that it is not rational and they insult me for watching these kind of videos. They say that God Krishna (Hinduism )has got a superior philosophy than other philosophies . Whenever They see me reading a self help book they say that to read Bhagavad Gita . I appreciate Indian philosophy like Bhagavad Gita besides Buddhism and Western philosophy .I can say that Bhagavad Gita gives the freedom to believe in any God they betray their own philosophy by misunderstanding other religions. They never watch personal development videos but rather Instagram reels , YouTube shorts etc. Some of my friends who are not in my group and who give me advice to read Bhagavad Gita smokes cigrete while being college students , spend hours watching reels , YouTube shorts, playing video games. Even tough different philosophies talk about different things but the function of these things is to improve one's life isn't it ? They themselves don't read Gita .And psychology has taken a counterintuitive route such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which integrated Western stoicism to mindfulness of Buddhism ? Recently I ordered a book Tao Te Ching on Amazon Kindle. So guys you can share your thoughts on this.
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So I couldn't eat my antidepressants medicine one night. I was suffering (thoughts from the past like how girls treated me badly ), that I don't have a girlfriend , girls of my batch in college are dating other guys etc. Then after some time ( I guess 2 hours) I had an insight like I had a memory from much more before -- which I was telling my father to buy me a toy and when he denied I was angry, stressful, full of intrusive thoughts suffering for the thing which didn't matter .So I put that analogy to now like I was suffering for not having a girlfriend ( analogous to toy in my childhood) which is silly and it does not matter. I also like did self reflection ( feeling inwards) and I big smile came on my face .
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@MarkKol yeah I have fallen into that trap . You will find someone as you have just 2 years gap of dating whereas I never dated in my life. I was only rejected , heartbroken , girls whom I liked got committed to boys other than me . However I think the solution is to realise that there will be new opportunities in the future.
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@ryandesreu yes.
@Leo Gura yes I asked to myself and the answer was yes absolutely.
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@Max_V hurrah you are overcoming a huge obstacle.
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@Someone here😂😂😂😂 but my story is real .
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@Leo Gura I posted my life story on Claude and told it to rank my resilience(ability to bounce back from setbacks) on a scale of 1-10? Here's the summary.Is it true , am I not deluding myself with these prompts but the story that I have provided of my life is real.
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@Leo Gura is negative self talk a trap . I have found that during suffering when I become concious or live in present and do positive self talk it improves my mood .
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@Leo Gura does game/pickup apply to India. If I am an Indian and I am being rejected by girls always then what's the solution. Can warm approach/friend circle work ? I once said I love you to a girl online , she rejected me and the next day her friend gave me a threat over phone. Is it true that I can find someone else despite not having an initial relationship experience in college ? But how to do it because cold approach doesn't work in India. When you approach a random girl you get threat from either her boyfriend or her friend. And I don't understand even tough it's an issue of past and is gone why does my mind keep bringing that issue again and again . Also it is true that rather focussing on getting a girlfriend, I must focus on finding a girlfriend?