Rishabh R

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  5. Posted · Edited by Rishabh R

    @Ramanujan Mostly not but remember that a woman who is receptive to you will not only treat you decently but also initiate a conversation with you in fact she will approach you. It happened to me a lot. Plenty of hot women gave me signals by not only having prolonged eye contact with me but approaching me ,talking to me by initiating conversations,treating me with decency. The key is to pick on those signals and capitalise on them.

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    1 hour ago, Someone here said:

    @Ramanujan Brother..you are not a retard at all . Unless there is something clinical you suffer from autism or perfectionist symptoms or abnormal self consciousness. I notice you have a thing for books. You are addicted to theory . I’m introverted too and I think most people who are active on this forum are also more likely introverted. However socializing with people is REALLY not that such a nightmare . Literally just dress nice and put on some perfume or something and go to a mall or Any place in your country where there is  mixed genders having fun in a secular chill flirty way and just strike up a conversation with a person . How to do that ? Just do it . Talking is an action step ..you do the action by doing the action . It’s like asking how to drink water . You can sit there theorizing about how to drink water until you die or you can just drink . Go to a social gathering or a party or a mall and find the most attractive girl there and literally just walk straight towards her and tell her that you like her dress …guess what will happen? She will smile. She is not gonna kill you. What if any person (male or female or anything in between ) told you randomly that they find you attractive? Isn’t that gonna Make you smile? . The rest is case by case . The point isn’t to make her your girlfriend..the point is you talked to her. Even if eventually she rejected you . It’s not the end of the world . You don’t expect to get that much lucky anyways. you have set proper expectations..low ones. But you talked to her. That means you improved . Baby steps and you will gain much more experience in short time and eventually you will have a girlfriend. It is not impossible. It’s your right as a man to have a girlfriend just as it’s women’s right to have husbands or Boyfriends. There is nothing wrong or weird or cringe or anything about that. Do not say I’m a retard again .

    I liked this advice @Someone here. But the part that as a make I have a right to have a girlfriend gave me emotional pain since, in the past people snatched my right. Even though I socialized a little bit. In fact I was bullied by both boys due to the fact that I hot on girls . Girls also bullied me because I hit on them. However , I have cold approached 58 girls in the past and combining it with warm approach it is more than 100. Maybe my pain has to do with the fact that I didn't eat my antidepressants yesterday night 😂.

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    @Natasha Tori Maru I have been treated badly in the past several times by different people in general but I think that personal development/self-help work has been a large part in my emotional well being. For example - Holding the perspective in mind that in life people come and go no matter how rude or how good they are.

    Also , I felt good by seeing the responsibility part of your response. In overcoming adversity radical responsibility instead of blame is extremely useful such as - I am responsible for everything in my experience no matter what the external circumstance.(This last line is not my own word but from a self-help book that I read 3 times from beginning to end).

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    @integral That's why I never ever smoked a cigerette in my life ,I mean I didn't even touched it . I think that people smoke to avoid or run away from negative emotions. In order to look cool they avoid suffering going through which is a strength in itself. Yesterday I was feeling bad due to a girl rejected me romantically in college in the past but I embraced it and a smile returned to my face for 2 times amidst suffering . Later the suffering was gone. By suffering I mean that I was reactively angry .

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    I think contemplation is becoming my favorite tool nowadays even though I have been contemplating since 2021.

    I contemplated for 31 minutes , 49 seconds.-How do I reduce my craving for external attention ?
    - By measuring my worthiness of bring loved by my past and present actions in dating 
    -By telling myself that it is superficial and fades away quickly 
    -By craving my values of resilience and tranquility amidst suffering instead 
    -By thinking that even if I would get all the love and attention I desire I would suffer badly and my present state is good

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    Owen. An advice from an internet friend -Rishabh.

    Try to listen to her compassionately , support her on her mental health journey and remind her that her last doesn't decide her future love life potential.

    Try to make her understand that it is better to detach past traumatic circumstances from future potentials.

    Overall it seems wise to me that she is taking professional help ,sorting this out by talking to you. It speaks me about healthy processing of emotional pain and symptoms rather than supression which many people do by addictive substances to numb their negative emotions.

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    @eTorro Your doing great work by Mastering your mind since mind influences action,living,emotions etc.

    My thought is that consider mind mastery more important during failure,adversity and suffering. For example applying Growth mindset during failure (I personally applied it for more than a year when I was facing rejections constantly in my campus placement and finally I got into corporate sector ),reframing your experience during suffering and adversity . Final take of mine on this impressive post is - Consider questioning your thoughts for checking their accuracy and validity. They all are path of mind mastery since, bullshit thoughts and assumptions are the mind's default way of operating in the world which create problems since mental and physical world are intimately connected.