Rishabh R

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    Owen. An advice from an internet friend -Rishabh.

    Try to listen to her compassionately , support her on her mental health journey and remind her that her last doesn't decide her future love life potential.

    Try to make her understand that it is better to detach past traumatic circumstances from future potentials.

    Overall it seems wise to me that she is taking professional help ,sorting this out by talking to you. It speaks me about healthy processing of emotional pain and symptoms rather than supression which many people do by addictive substances to numb their negative emotions.

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    @eTorro Your doing great work by Mastering your mind since mind influences action,living,emotions etc.

    My thought is that consider mind mastery more important during failure,adversity and suffering. For example applying Growth mindset during failure (I personally applied it for more than a year when I was facing rejections constantly in my campus placement and finally I got into corporate sector ),reframing your experience during suffering and adversity . Final take of mine on this impressive post is - Consider questioning your thoughts for checking their accuracy and validity. They all are path of mind mastery since, bullshit thoughts and assumptions are the mind's default way of operating in the world which create problems since mental and physical world are intimately connected.

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    @Leo Gura So is life's problems as they change from one from to another. By the way I am feeling a little unease for you. Actualized.org was and is a great catalogue for personal transformation alongwith other genuine self-help advice which took me years to understand and apply. 

    I hope that you see the depth of content you have created which not only includes ordinary self-help but transcends it . Thanks Leo.

    However,have you read books like Enchiridion by Epictetus ? I bought a couple of years ago in my college and read it. It is profound.

     

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    I had this insight at workplace, when I and other friends of mine were using mobile phones and I was trying to watch videos that would make me look like sort of a cool and wise person who watches self-help videos, listens to particular songs. I choose it to do it for a brief time but the insight hot me when I was thinking about the book Models at that time by Mark Manson that it's better to prioritize my opinion/perception of myself rather than others perceptions/opinion of me.

    Insight : I am needy and people smell neediness from a mile. So, I need to do things for myself rather than others. 

    After which I started listening to songs and watching videos which I liked rather than that persona of an attractive me would watch. I felt a little sense of joy for sometime.I also think that having a goal of being myself is better rather than performing as if I am an attractive male.

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    2 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

    Ruminating and re-playing out the interaction over and over after the fact, and re-igniting and perpetuating all the negativity surrounding it? 

    Yup. I remember replaying harsh rejection from a girl in the past in my mind. I have tried acceptance of suffering , cognitive reframing and they helped as well help me to a large degree still.

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    @IslandWild In my experience to reach the mountain one must keep moving forward ,sometimes pivoting to a different direction is good but most times including adversity trying again and again is a necessary part of growth. Also, with each time recalibration of one's approach to a thing or multiple ventures is necessary so that one is not just failing but failing better and becoming better with each iteration.

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    17 hours ago, trenton said:

    would strongly advise that women not bully unattractive men in this way.

    Thanks dude at least someone is concious of this pattern. Even though it is unhealthy for me to count myself as unattractive but I have been bullied by females in the past for hitting on them in school and college. 

    However, I don't think that all women are like that. Majority of them could be good people even if they don't like me.( By the way I read your whole post but this point resonated with me as a 25 year old single male )