Rishabh R
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@Rafael Thundercat Ok but I am already over it and what let me get over the rejection is that sitting with the sting of rejection rather than escaping it .I am antifragile.
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43 minutes ago, TheGod said:. If women see that them rejecting you doesn't result in you feeling bad or sad it creates attraction. This one was a big surprise for me. I approached some women and when they rejected me I smiled with gratitude and geniune energy of not giving a fuck and I could clealry see that this one thing created attraction in them lol
I underestimated my non-fuckery after a harsh rejection. I mean when I was rejected harshly by a girl , I stood up for myself - faced threats ,cruel pushback. But I moved on. Later I rarely paid attention to her and guess what she approached me twice asking questions each time.
Later again I was worried that I will feel bad after seeing her with her make best friend but guess what - her make best friend engaged with me in a respectful manner and I didn't gave a Fuck about her and it's liberating.
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@Inliytened1 You have unlocked this thread and started a chain of thread within the thread. 😂
@Mellowmarsh Yup I saw that you locked your DM. Hope you find someone on the forum or in real world .
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@Asia P Same experience with my relatives. I apply a general rule by asking myself - Are their opinions worth giving a F--- about ? Most of the time answer is - No it doesn't matter.
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@Joseph Maynor Rishabh . You follow me as a connection on this forum.
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@Joseph Maynor Congratulations in advance for you.
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2 minutes ago, LordFall said:Got it. I think that comes from the self-esteem aspect. You should always love yourself unconditionally no matter if you're currently reaching your goals or not.
This in the form of self-compassion is important. As per self- worth keeping it detached from self-worth is indeed the cornerstone of healthy dating .
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Just now, Joseph Maynor said:I'm not an expert in this area at all.
But you can be with time and effort .
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@LordFall Achievement part . I mean it lead me to a lot of dark places which included huge deal of emotional suffering ,eating antidepressants ,going to a psychiatrist when I understood getting a girlfriend as achievement . When I stopped treating it such my neediness dropped and I realized that I can't control weather someone will like me or not.I can only put myself out there and that's all .
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Asper confrontation @LordFall I have noticed that it's better to engage in conflict and move on rather than avoid or supress it.
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2 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:Alright let's just all take a chiill pill. I'm gonna back off and have a drink. I'll see you in a bit. It's all good man, no matter what the disagreement we are still on the same team.
Ok that's maturity backing off is maturity. Since we are from the - Actualized.org team.
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1 minute ago, LordFall said:Achieving your goals is an achievement. If you want to have sex with beautiful women and you achieve it then that's success. If you don't want to and you accidentally get laid then you're failing yourself.
I don't agree with this.
2 minutes ago, LordFall said:I notice this in men that are not successful with women is they're afraid of confrontation. Intentional confrontation is good and usually leads to growth. The point is not to pick fights for the sake of it but to push the limiting beliefs of people that seem to be stuck in them to further the quality of the discussions on this board and also lead to insight for people that need them to be able to surpass their current limitations.
I agree with this . The confrontation part .
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@Inliytened1 Ok ok even though I disagree with you but I appreciate the fact that you acknowledge me being virgin single in the begining and that's ok.
@yetinetiI appreciate you too.
Both these men are different they have different perspectives ,life and all.
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@Ulax Nope I don't dislike sexual topics but I am concerned about confrontation. I mean people on this thread are trying to participate in a sexual arms race.
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@Inliytened1 All the best man.
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And guys I have noticed that this thread is getting more disrespectful not to women in general but also to men . I mean - Sex is not an achievement - it's alignment guys. Stop treating it as such.
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1 minute ago, Inliytened1 said:Personally, from what I've seen, I wouldn't ike you either.
So there's that. but you keep on trying.
Ok that's fair but even if you don't like someone atleast you talk to them in a respectful manner. I mean don't give them the feeling of disrespect .
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@Inliytened1 But women complain about this place a lot . I mean not only that but you can engage in healthy dating / relationship discussion. Also I noticed something unusual about your behaviour earlier you used to be more active on other sections on the forum but why such as sudden shift lately . Are you ok ?
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@Inliytened1 Read this man .
I pasted this after copying it from forum guidelines .Read the point title hate speech ,racism , Sexism .
What’s NOT Allowed:
Self-promotion
Coming here to start your teaching/coaching/guru business by leeching off this audience
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Doxxing
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@Inliytened1 Nope I'm not talking about that. You can talk about it privately , with your romantic partner , with your guy friend but not here in public . The forum is a casual chat room not a casual sex room.
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3 minutes ago, LordFall said:I love beautiful women with big boobs, it brings a lot of joy and peace to my existence. They are the muse to my masculine essence.
Man , there are ladies on this forum too. Don't generalise your intimacy .
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@Inliytened1 I hate to break it to you but regardless of the fact weather @Leo Gura is pro pickup or anti pickup . I have observed it in a huge number of guys.
Guy reads pickup theory - then approaches a lot of women - then get's laid/relationship/sex whatever from the woman. Then breakups with her and again back to 0 still suffering like he will remain single his whole life. Again back to where he started .
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@Leo Gura Sorry Leo if it goes against the forum guidelines if my comments feel off .
@Mellowmarsh Yup vulnerability also includes apologizing when necessary .
@yetineti I hope so. 😂
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@Mellowmarsh Thanks for the appreciation .
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Sorry @Asia P today I realized today that I lied to you regarding this . By the way I do apply this rule few times while facing disrespect from my relatives however I have made my values more important than their respect or disrespect .