Jon_Bundesen

I thought of smoking cannabis while going out with my friends for fun. I'm not addicted to weed nor do I use it to escape I would say. I've used it occasionally, probably once per 1-2 months but I feel guilty about doing it since it's just for fun use. This post is not just about weed but also other drugs and what your thoughts are on using them recreationally.

I'm a junior (11th grade) and have 1,5 years back before finishing high school but I hate it so much I just want to quit. Everyday I wake up and genuinely dread going to school, don't get my wrong I like being social with my friends and what not but I hate my class and I think there so boring I especially hate math which I think is very complicated and I don't really care about. I don't care about grades but I do care about not failing my exams and having to low grades to not be able to complete high school because you get kicked out. I'm going on quite a rant and in reality it's probably not so bad but I really dread it espically assignments which I feel take up all my free time. Any advice on how to get through high school would be much appricated.

This blew my mind

I've gone through a lot of the course and found engineering to be something I'm quite passionate about but lately, I haven't really been feeling it and not working on the course (for like 3 weeks) I guess it's because of the fear of how hard it's going to be to accomplish something great. Life purpose statement: To envision and design groundbreaking inventions Since I'm not working on the life purpose course I really got into producing music and I can literally spend hours doing that sh*t but I just feel like I could achieve something greater with engineering than producing music.

I recently got into creating music as a hobby because I really like writing lyrics but I get so demotivated when I look at the big music stars and how much time they have spent to get good. My life purpose is also geared towards engineering and creating inventions so I don't know if it's a waste of time doing a hobby that's not too related?

@Yarco I see

Maybe but related to engineering would be creating things like Elon Musk that's more what I'm envisioning. I have looked at the possibility of engineering something new related to music an example could be inventing a program like auto-tune which is a genius invention that got created out of already existing possibilities but, to be honest, I feel more intrigued by inventing things like Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Leonardo da Vinci invented more physical we could say.

The title is related to pick up since I'm not old enough to go to the club so instead, my friend group holds parties that I go to but the problem is there are no new women, and then once there I don't find that attractive. I really come there to get better at pick up but the main thing of these parties are drinking and smoking which I don't participate in. I don't feel like I'm able to make that much progress because I can't just hit on multiple women because there are none. From all of this would my time be better spent staying home or going out with them anyway?

So I've been getting bad grades at school because I want to use my time on other things but I have become really anxious about the fact that the bad grades might lead to me not being able to finish high school. I am currently in my junior year (10th grade) and still have to more years to go. As the question says how do I stop caring so much about f*cking grades!

Thank you all for the replies. I really think the problem is that I see if I can gain something from making music like approval, fame, money, etc. which truly ruins the fun of it because I keep thinking of all the other activities that would bring more value to the table and it just gets me frustrated and anxious.

I don't know how much time I've spent in total on the life purpose course but it's been a couple of months I'm at the making it the real stage where I'm writing down my limiting beliefs and why they're not real and doing this daily. The problem I have is that I'm so resistant to doing it, I normally schedule out 30 mins but that has gone down to 5 mins where I feel like quitting and don't even start. I'm in high school and have reasonably good time to work on the course when I get home but just can't. My question is how do I make myself less resistant to doing the work? Should I maybe do it every other day to be less resistant towards it? (I even heard of people finishing the course in like 2 weeks where they put a lot of time into it every day without procrastinating)

This video by David Maloney really helped: https://youtu.be/SuX_42svEz8 I found out through journaling why I felt resistance towards writing down why my limiting beliefs aren't true. The answer I concluded was because It was boring and tedious and I thought I had to be excited and really motivated about it but sometimes there are just things In life we aren't that excited about but still have to do. Hope it makes sense to yall that have the same problem <3

Related to the question he said something along the lines: He replied to this: I read a book about Pornography, it left me thinking: Why it's even legal?" "And what about people who eat 20 hot dogs per day and 1 gallon of ice cream and a 6-pack of Coke? Should we ban hot dogs and ice cream and Coke? There are far too many juicy things in the world to ban them all. Learn to control your cravings. You can install a porn filter on your computer if you really can't hold yourself back." - Leo Gura Link: I read a book about Pornography, it left me thinking: Why it's even legal?

Would there be any downsides of teens trying psychedelics? Been looking into Shrooms or THC extract (which is not a psychedelic but may be safe to start off with)

I want to drop out of high school to pursue my life purpose. I'm currently 16 and my plan is to get a job I can work at while I realize my life purpose. I'm in my sophomore year (10th grade) and school really doesn't feel right for me and I know that I'm not going to college or university after so why not just drop out now and earn some money for my work instead. In the life purpose course I only just finished the Me Sheet and I'm about to create my vision. Any experiences, pros and cons of dropping out and advice would be appreciated

@Medhansh: I guess I will go with high school mainly because of the social life plus I found out a lot about my shadow side through classmates. @Roy: Yes @bejapuskas: I think there is one program at my school but it's just about getting better and more advanced in the basic subjects...

@Kksd74628: I see what you are saying maybe it's because the real meaningful things school teaches you aren't direct and more indirect like being yourself and not trying to become popular and so forth. Btw l still got 2 and a half years left before I finish high school.

@Michal__: Do you mean study for 30 min every day or something else? @Yarco: I do see what you mean

@Michal__: I do get what your saying and it makes a lot of sense but would there be anything bad about getting lower grades to focus more energy toiwards stuff I really care about like my: values, principles, goals? To the quote: I actually felt like that would happen if I stopped high school. @Terell Kirby: Yeah that was also what I was thinking @Kksd74628: Most of the time I just feel so bored In school because I really don't care about the subject. @tlowedajuicemayne: In europe saddly I don't think you can get a GED but after I'm done with high school I will be 18 so that may be good because then I can do almost anything I want

My situation is currently that in two years I will be paying for a visit to the US and Dublin which is about 3500 dollars, I'm going with the school but I don't have the money for it right now and my parents will only pay the half (Which I'm grateful for). If I can find a job where you don't have to work that much and get a decent income I can afford the visit. I'm working on my life purpose right now and realized that I'm actually not using all my free time because otherwise, I will just start procrastinating. So I don't see a job as a compromise in order to work on my life purpose but also to gain some business skills etc. Any advice would be great! (or consequences that having a job will create)

@bloomer Video is not about small talk but might help with the social anxiety you have towards talking to people.

https://youtu.be/DaaZlo2qgs4 This worked for me and I would highly recommend taking his course on how to stop procrastination where he outlines the theory of why you procrastinate and also how to end it forever. Dr. David Maloney's website: https://www.drdavidmaloney.com

@hyruga It is my mistake and I acknowledge that the technique will possibly not end procrastination forever and I don't know if you took his course where he explains about procrastination more in-depth but from the course, he states: You don't take action because you're afraid that you won't do what's required to be successful. To calm this fear we say to ourselves that we can "do it later". So the consequence technique of going all-in now or never is supposed to be applied to the action towards a goal. He also has a video about what to do with external pressures such as studying for an exam.

@Nightwise Maybe not forever but his course and video will for sure give you some insight into why you're doing it and the tools to stop.

At my high school we sit down in every lecture and I'm thinking that it will cause me health problems later on even if you search up the effects of sitting down for too long there's increased heart attack and much more. At home, I have a standing desk and I'm fairly active. Just worried that I will get health problems later on in life from sitting down too much any advice would be appreciated