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  1. Hey, thanks for sharing your experience. What are the most important actions and activities you did to get yourself to this point?
  2. @thisintegrated The belief is formed from my experience with masturbation. Perhaps it’s more accurate to call it a mental model. Since I experience negative effects from masturbating, my mind creates a mental model (belief) that masturbating does not serve me. Similar to how if you were to try to put your foot on lava, your mind will form a belief that it shouldn’t step on lava because it is painful and burns your foot. To be clear, I’m talking about masturbation, not having sex. Do you honestly ‘feel great’ from masturbating? I have three questions for you: 1. How often do you masturbate? How many times a day or week? 2. How much time do you spend per week masturbating on average (a range is fine)? 3. How do you feel immediately after you masturbate? How are your energy levels?
  3. Less energy Less motivation Less drive @StarStruck What sacrifices can I make? I don’t know what sacrifices there are to make. Isn’t thinking that not masturbating is a ‘sacrifice’ a bad thing? Because then you think you’re missing out? Man I wish I could just care more about quitting this shit. It’s like I’ve become a numbed creature. @UnbornTao Why do you think this is a natural impulse? I never had an ‘impulse’ to masturbate before my first time ever masturbating. I should look out for this trap. How can I know if I am doing this? I’ve been having a lot of self-defeating thoughts lately like “You’re so dumb” “You’re pathetic” “How are you still alive?” “It’s too late, I should just kill myself” How?
  4. @thisintegrated Yes, because it makes my life worse. Do you hold negative beliefs about stepping on lava with your bare feet? I can’t answer that because I don’t know what it’s like to be a girl. I only have an idea.
  5. @Osaid It’s making my quality of life worse every time I do it. To defeat the monster that wants me to keep doing it. The monster getting defeated means I no longer masturbate. Okay. “I am starting to believe I’m a lost cause. I believe I am hopeless.”
  6. @UnbornTao So the difference between wanting to raise your arm and intending to raise your arm is the outcome (whether your arm gets raised or not)? I’ve tried the starting small thing with meditation. What happens is once I work my way up to about 7-8 minutes (over the course of a few weeks), I end up not sticking to it. It doesn’t get any easier despite doing it every day and incrementally increasing the duration. It’s like I lost my ability to build momentum in habits. @StarStruck Thanks bro. I know I’m weak. That’s what I’ve been telling myself for the past couple of months. I believe I’m too weak to do anything. I can’t care about anything for some reason. I should be caring more about how weak I am but I just don’t care. How do I care more? And about the push ups, I can’t even do that many. That’s how weak I am. I want to “want to stop”. How can I “want to stop”? How can I care more about stopping? It seems like I just don’t want to stop bad enough, but I don’t know how to make myself “want to stop” more.
  7. Masturbation has ruined my life. If I knew I had ADHD earlier, I wouldn’t have even considered the thought: “I won’t get addicted just from trying it once.” - Which is what the people telling me to try masturbating were saying. I would’ve known that ADHD makes me more prone to addiction, and would’ve avoided that thought entirely. Now here I am, feeling hopeless, doubting whether I’ll ever defeat this thing.
  8. @Carl-Richard What are you currently doing? A bachelors? A masters? A doctorate? What do you want to do in the future in terms of your career? Will this be linked to your Life Purpose?
  9. @Razard86 Do you think it is a waste of time? Like, you could spend years watching it and have nothing to show for it (provided that you don't do anything else that is productive).
  10. @Carl-Richard So do you take psychology in university? Do you enjoy it?
  11. @Ima Freeman So are the heavy metal toxicity urine tests pretty much pointless?
  12. @Leo Gura What I predict, is that once I solve my health problems, all that's going to happen is that I will think of it as a setback. Something that set me back years and cost me irreplaceable opportunities. I don't know how it is going to deepen my relationship to life. Might I appreciate life more? Sure, for a little while. But then I will be back to being busy and working on my goals, trying to avoid wage slavery (which takes a lot of labour) and create a self-actualized life. I've watched those videos a while ago. They have been very helpful and you have given me hope, Leo. I remember feeling optimistic after watching them, I knew that there were still things I haven't tried. It's just that applying Requisite Variety in your life requires a lot of persistence and resiliency, which I used to have, but now I feel like I am lacking them now after getting disappointed so many times. @Rob06 How can you afford it?
  13. @mmKay I don't think masturbating and eating food are comparable. I've been eating food since I was born. I didn't masturbate at all until like 3 years ago, and I was doing not just fine, but better than when I started to masturbate for the first time. Do you see the difference? The former is a necessity, unlike the latter.
  14. @Carl-Richard That's cool. What did you write those academic papers for? Do you currently study in university? Just goes to show how passionate you are
  15. @UnbornTao I still don't understand the difference between intent and desire. Is it that action follows intention rather than what you want or don't want? I have cravings to masturbate, but I don't want to have those cravings. For example? How do I cheer up on command?