Lucasxp64

This is what I feel so far: She seems willing to become a better person because she looks up to me as a person She engages with my humor, which makes her fun I like the sound of her voice and the way she speaks, she sounds so warm. This is very important to me. Her taste in music seems great. But we didn't talk too much, I'd say 50 engaging messages back and forth and 15 minutes of conversation in person. I'm just concerned that she came into my life in the wrong moment, I'm so broke. She is probably the kind that wants to be going out a lot, but that's an assumption. Considering that she stated that she likes in me is intelligence, logically it will be a massive turn off for her once she realizes I don't have my shit together and she will feel like I can't provide on the leadership she seems to crave. I feel like we might go out on a date on the shopping mall just for sitting there, but even then, I'm afraid she would mention going by Uber or on eating something, and I'll have to stand on my frame of some excuse why I can't be spending not even 5-10 dollars right... Of course I'd try to lead and say "we are going by bus", "we are going to just sit somewhere there to talk". But even the girl I did date last month was like a 5/10 would have wanted to be going out to places that requires spending some money. It would have been an issue. Now I imagine a solid 8-9/10 like her, the dudes that she dates must pay her even expensive dinners, and driving her around. I wouldn't mind spending money going out if I had the resources. Hell, if I was making enough money I'd even gift her this month the expensive medicine her dog needs to show that I'm generous. Maybe a simp move, but I'd only do that after she dated me and we made out at least.

Trying to get her on a date somewhere outside of our neighbourhood where we live so she doesn't feel shy for making out with me, to build emotional and physical comfort in person. Also I hope she lives on her own (I didn't ask yet), so we could make out and fondle, and have pillow talk, and spend quality time together completely in private. But so far she didn't seem bothered by me living with my parents, even though I know that reduces her perceived value of me. I suspect that she thinks that I'm somewhat rich because I'm intelligent verbally in business theory... Now the frame I must hold is one of potential, sell her my potential, like I always did before. I can't let our communications stay just friendly, I must keep building our intimacy. At least yesterday we teased each other, today I expect the text teasing to get heavier, but I'll keep it classy and go with her flow in text, what matter here is getting her as private as possible to spend quality time together with physical contact.

For me, rejection was hell, but the worst was not rejection itself. It was when someone acted bipolar about me, switching on and off, leaving me corroded inside. I would rather face an honest “no” than that toxic uncertainty. I learned to reframe rejection: sometimes the conditions of success are simply not there. Maybe she is not in the mood, maybe she is already in a relationship, maybe she is not my type, or we are so incompatible that forcing it would only make me miserable. Rejection can be a blessing, opening space for the right woman. Dating feels random, frustrating, yet it is also our advantage. Action turns probabilities into reality. My seven-year streak of "failure" was not fate, it was inaction and clinging to toxic chances. (I did get content with toxic long-distance relationships, because I don't have my things handled yet). When I finally acted the right way more frequently, I had some success with women I never expected, even if yet it didn't lead to a girlfriend. Rejection frees energy for the right woman, who might appear right after the last “no.” But if rejection shakes me emotionally, I risk losing her before even trying. We feel pain for the losses we see, yet ignore the unseen ones, the women who never entered our lives because we froze. Imagine those alternative realities that you lost, not just in dating, but in your career, in personal development, in your own emotional development through journaling and meditative practices... There is work to be done here about those feelings, action and experience is supposed to improve your inner life after setbacks. Adapt, even if adapting means letting go from the burden of feeling pressured to have a girlfriend right now, so you can focus on your inner life and career. But emotionally, in your inner game, you're also growing for dating better. I've seen the mistake of many guys out there, they are so defeatist that things such as spirituality becomes poisoned to them because they are so hyper-fixated on getting women, they inner game is rotten, they have no inner peace, getting rejected by one random girl affirms all of this psychotic defeatist inner mindset that knows nothing of probabilistic mindset.

🤯 Bro. I just got a 9/10 interested in me on a walk outside simply because I managed to train myself reduce my approach anxiety. I barely do approaches, my energy is what made her attracted. I'm a average looking dude. AND SHE SAID WHAT CAUGHT HER ATTENTION WAS MY INTELLIGENCE and my laid back funny personality. I attracted similar looking women before online, but they lived way too far to met. I didn't think I could replicate that in person. I can barely believe it, I go into more details in my post.

🤯 WHAT THE HECK. She did admit to me yesterday that she likes me, that she found me intelligent and likes my personality. I'm in awe, even if this doesn't even go anywhere. But I'll keep treating her normally like any other girl. All the time I wasted doing chatting with women that lives too far to met has paid off, but I could have seized so much more opportunity in person, my assumptions were so wrong.

Find an excuse to hold and look at her hand like if she has some ring, or do a bullshit palm reading about her future, that can be a reason to keep holding it. But of course that needs to be very calibrated contextually. Look up "kino escalation ladder", but physical escalation comes very natural, but I remember when I did that at some point, I already knew they liked me, so I went much more confident with my physical advances. I have great chat/phone game, so ever date that I went it was already obvious to both of us that we liked each other.

She was the one that wanted to close me. But I think she's just being friendly, but that's progress for me already. Looks wise and personality so far seems wife material. I just went for a walk without any intentions of doing approaches, last approach I did was a month ago and I had got laid but she broke up due to reasons outside of my control. I basically just did chit-chatting about her dog and said I had a similar one, and she already asked for a photo to see her. She was proactive to ask me what I did (study, work, etc) and I just began showing authoritative knowledge in business/marketing, and she was interested in improving her career and when we got back home she ask for my contact info to continue talking and handed her phone to me to find myself on Instagram. We have been having some light chit-chatting. But regardless of any kind of results, I'm so glad that I was able to do that so automatically without thinking twice because I found her attractive from far away and went towards her direction and tried to find a good approach angle that would be natural. I didn't display nervousness, I was super chill. I even let myself stare into her eyes for 4 good seconds several times while trying to recall some information saying absolutely nothing. Even if she is not interested and attracted, I feel like it's a win that I was able to make her feel safe and interested in at least talking to me. That's a good base level to work from going forward. I actually did groom my beard and my hair was all messy for 2 weeks now, and I had groomed myself to go to a church event but I got there too late, and I just decided to take a walk instead, and this opportunity came. I wasn't even meant to go out of my house and I was feeling kinda like crap, but it happened. Last time I got laid similarly. I'm not good looking, I'm average at best, skinny, not muscular, suspicious curly hair, patchy beard, sneakers looked dirty, and my clothing didn't look stylish. I'm not sure that overtime the house of cards would go down because I basically have the same clothings and I'm completely broke if I showed up for dates (last time the date was just to talk sitting on the bench and we went for her house within the same day lmao). But it was nice not to feel like I'm repulsive lol. But I can just be chill and carry a conversation, tease and make a few jokes.

His ego is limitless. He will use that money to destroy our democracies. I doubt he will use it for good. And that's on the hopes Tesla reaches several times its current evaluation. It might as well be that Trump buys from him millions of Tesla cars for government agencies, and right there we have the one of the biggest corruption scandals in history right there alongside colonialism on a scale similar to literally empires with a king.

Rockstar has had a bunch of internal issues that they were going through. One of them was the overworking culture. Another one was the toxicity boys dorm kind of stuff. And something to do with management changes. We hope at least that the GTA VI won't have lost too much of its personality due to those culture changes, like becoming too politically correct and losing its dark humor. GTA 4 had the best personality I think. The protagonist Niko Bellic was a great character. This one was a side mission where he helped a drug addict prostitute get back to her family

👿🔥 To burn some karma. Indulge in some little unhinged fun. 😇 I hope I can become a Übermensch to kill God himself in GTA VI for such a wait. Making Nietzsche and Freud proud.

😎 Godlessness is gone! God is not dead no longer, we brought him back to life! 😎

What I also see is that... When I focus on the core most important things such as my emotional regulation, self-control and clarity of strategic decision-making and I'm able to act on it. It improves my self-esteem even if the results didn't come yet, it makes my mind shaper and more well-rounded because it's not so much of the specific skills, but how it puts me on a better mental state as well, and that transfers. I definitely right now should focus more on getting stuff done than grinding out trying to find a girlfriend considering I don't have yet that fulfilment from the financial freedom I need. That will allow me to free my mind up from all the stupid petty survival concerns (i.e. that makes us feel like a loser, because we are actually handicapped financially to have high quality free time and money for logistics, for going out, for free up our mind to think of high quality strategies to find the women we want, etc) That "loser" mental state that we are in is very real, and it improves with first "believe it until you make it" kind of attitude, we got have high conviction that focusing on our most important things and work, etc, will get us in a better situation and trusting that we will figure it out over time.

You're welcomed! I kinda wrote it because I feel like I'm in a similar situation and I've fallen for the same mental traps. I think that our minds are very predictable, time and time again I see in me the same mental mechanisms playing out in others. Here is a system prompt I like using with ChatGPT/Gemini 2.5 PRO inside of Google AI Studio: It helps me deconstruct everything and it questions even what I say to find flaws in my thinking.