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Lmfao, bro your in high school, life 100% gets better once you get out if you self-improve, high school kids dont have a "filter" because they haven't had enough life experiences yet to teach them otherwise. When people get older you out grow that "roasting" stuff and move on. Start lifting and clean up your diet, pick up a martial art like boxing, jiu-jitsu, you need to raise your standards on who your friends are and that can only happen if you respect yourself. If you dont improve college will be worse

Give yourself time to heal, go to the gym, get better, make sure you dont come out of this hating women and developing a toxic ideology, there's better to come in the future man

Thank you for being vulnerable with us, just let it happen, get intimate with him and whatever happens happens.

@StarStruck From my experience theres so many reasons why a girl might ghost you, sexual availability is one big one either she isn't open to dating right now cause of life stuff, or maybe she has so many options and just chose her best one, keep meeting new women and try to reschedule with this girl 1-2 weeks later if she doesn't respond drop the number. Add a little more personality to your texts when you set up logistics and also make sure you get a solid number close. When I do an approach and I sense it's going good I might turn the set into an insta-date but if time is an issue ill set up our next meet in person and verify over text. Getting a number isn't as big of an accomplishment once you get used to it. When you get more experienced screen harder for more compliance so you can get a solid number. Your rejection rate is going to increase but flakes won't happen as often. Good job out getting out there and going after you want.

@fopylo You're on the right track man, if your not constantly doubting yourself and questioning whether your gaslighting yourself, especially when your starting off it means your not doing it right, keep asking questions and always ask "am I really growing or am I deluding myself?" and adjust.

You sound pretty young, set aside the spirituality except for mediation and focus on Foundational self help, like making money, making friends, getting girls, fitness, diet ect. This is the real foundation not sitting around contemplating about stuff and mental masturbating to different topics, this is called spiritual bypassing which will turn you into a hippie with no substance. Spirituality is supposed to come after you've transcended you survival needs or at least burned out through a majority of it, take it easy thats why you got 80+ years to live

I'm sick of all this shit going on, I try to avoid the news for this exact reason literally every single day this week my social media feeds and Youtube have been flooded with some guy getting shot over bs or some dude going out and killing innocent people for no reason, I know this stuff is like 1 in 100,000 odds of happening in "real life" but this constant broadcasting makes the world feels so grey man...

Not a woman so you can take my opinion with a grain of salt but after talking to some of my past partners, female friends, and other couples who've been in long term relationships they all agree that a girl should have a "hoe phases." They way they explained it was that chasing the bad boys and the players teaches them how to be more confident in their body and views on sex in general, but realize they are emotionally unreliable and not a practical option long term. Women who surpress this side of themselves usually have these insecurities show up in their relationships especially if their inexperienced and can lead to cheating. You dont have to sleep with like 20 dudes but maybe have a year or two were you just explore your options, (if your not in realtionship)

Dont know what the "bond approach" is but in reality even if your top 10% in looks with great game if you approach strangers your conversion rate will be really low. Top guys can expect to close 8-10% of the time and regular people who understand how to approach can expect 3-5% success rate. Cold approach is not the most effective way to sleep with women but its very important to learn.

You should have looked at all three of them in the eye and started grunting to assert your dominance over your territory...

@IAmPaulQuinn Get bloodwork done or check T-Levels kids your age should have a high sex drive, if you have low libido there could be an underlying issue you should start addressing. But I feel like thats not the case you just dont know how to go about get laid or finding a quality gf and your just repressing it. At your age you should be focused on building social skills and getting a handle on this. Just take it easy and learn bit by bit on how to get better with chics, don't make a big deal about it

Weird haven't watched this dude in a while, used to be really good as he interviewed some great guests and asked thought provoking questions, even liked his documentaries. Did he have this in him all along or was it something Dan Pena awakened and fueled because he was nowhere near the person he was now like 2 years ago

@Ander Tomsen Setting up your boundaries is important you dont have to drop the gay bomb all the time but when someone says something ignorant about gay people, try to ask some questions on why they feel that way about it (if you want them to be your friend) or stand up for yourself and say I'm gay and dont appreciate it when people say things like that. But I would be creating a plan to move out the city and move to a more accepting environment if I were in your shoes.

Dude its time to make a plan to exit that relationship, typically id advise to be be open about how you feel and communicate that with her but it doesn't seem she's even willing to listen. Putting up with this behavior for 5 years says more about you than her if you guys are always fighting petty arguments and stuff like that. Assess why your in that relationship and why you cant seem to move on, this is a you thing not a her thing

I can come up with a few reasons, Societal construct that women have to look pretty to be taken serious Covering up Insecurity's Wanting to feel "beautiful" or look their best Wanting to be desired by men they find attractive Self amusement Validation from other females/guys

Give it time man, one of the most important lessons I learned doing this work is that if you do the "right things" your bound to reach a paradigm shifting insight that changes the way you see the world, embrace the suck and take breaks if needed.

From a guys perspective I always thought this was common sense, its ok to cry sometimes but you can't cry over everything.

Recently woke up with with a pounding headache 2 days ago which has slowly progressed into full body soreness, sometimes feeling cold and exhausted throughout the day. I suspect that this is just body fatigue as ive been woking out hard in the gym but have have been getting poor sleep (around 5-6 hrs a night). I was wondering besides getting more rest is there any foods I can eat to help speed up the recover process?

Thanks for the advice guys definitely going to try some of this stuff out

Would like to get @Michael569 take on this as well

look at all of us non-rich people speculating how rich people would feel

Hahaha thats interesting, what's the name of the anime?

In a holistic perspective yes everyone is beautiful but in a realistic sense, no everybody is not attractive, can't really control who your attracted to after a certain age as social conditioning and natural desires have already been firmly set on what you find attractive.

Understanding your partners boundaries and honest communication are some of the most important aspects in a healthy sexual relationship, also attraction ofc

@Jaccobtw Don't do pick up anymore went through a heavy pickup phase about 2 years ago to properly learn attraction and get hotter girls, got great results, got tired of the limitations of the community and focused on other aspects in my life. Yes you will struggle your way through getting better at pick up, there is no "system" or one product or teacher that you can use that will solve your dating issues, at the end of the day your reference experience will be your best teacher no matter whose advice you follow. You must study different teachers and splice together their best techniques into something of your own. This involves being heavy into the community to get these good insights. Pick up is one of those skills that have such a high learning curve because of the amount of iterations it takes to take good. In a nutshell this is the path I took 1. Started off with YouTube watched a bunch of teachers on the subject and used my intuition on which teacher felt best for me. 2. Approached a shit ton of girls and applied those teachings, some worked others failed 3. Joined a dating forum to talk about my field reports and get criticism from others who were doing pick up as well 4. Found friends in my area who could go out with me to practice game, (approached even more girls) 5. Did a bootcamp with some PUA vets (this one skyrocketed my results but I was already 1 year deep) 6. Relied on teachers less and less as I started to create my own believes on dating and attraction that worked very well for me 7. Ended up leaving the community as I felt I've developed a deep core understanding of how the game works and went to improve other aspects of my life