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This is by far my favorite movie ever.

Lots of judgment and assumptions in this thread. It's pretty wild that some would see a grown man cry and immediately doubt or ridicule him. It says quite a lot about the state of development of these people who would claim to be self-actualizers or intellectuals. Please, my friends. Let's not laugh at people who are sharing their life experiences and breaking down as a result of it. There is a lot to learn from this man, the mistake is thinking you're so far ahead of him that he doesn't have anything valuable to give you. Spiral Dynamics wise, you might be, but if that's actually the case, then you know better.

@something_else @NoSelfSelf Thanks lads, this is the right advice.

@NoSelfSelf This is absolutely what I'd like to sort out. I don't want to give it too much attention though. I would just like to find out if she's young and naive, or actually just a player who probably isn't worth a relationship.

@NoSelfSelf The ideal form of "success" in this situation would be to eventually go on a regular date with her while we were both single. @JonasVE12 I was thinking of this. I was wondering if I should just do it in person. I don't want to send a really wordy text.

Don't use Facebook, no one uses it. Use Instagram if you're interested in casual social media posting. This is the only thing you really "need." (You of course don't need any of this shit, but you want to use it, and I understand that.) Add Twitter into the mix if you're interested in sharing dialogue-based thoughts. Use TikTok if you're interested in creating videos. Go out with some friends and take photos of each other. Fewer to no more selfies. This is a recent unspoken rule of social media.

I approached the girl at a cafe I go to and asked her if she wanted to hang out outside of the shop ever. She said yes, that she thought I was cool, but that she had a boyfriend. In hindsight, I'm worried this could be a shit-test, but that seems optimistic. She told me if we could be friends, that she would be down to hang out. Oddly enough, before I asked for her number, she asked for my phone and offered to give it to me. I do find this girl extremely attractive. I do not want to be a homewrecker so I'm not interested in hanging out with her if she has a boyfriend, but I do desire to get my interest across in case she is ever available. I would like to find out if she was a shit-tester, a player/cheater, or a genuine girl who could be friends with a guy, but I find that hard to believe because I don't understand why a girl would give her number out if she had a boyfriend no matter the circumstance. What do I do in this situation? Do I text her with intention of finding something out? Do I not text her and just carry on with my normal interaction with the cafe? How do I set myself up for success with this woman if she's genuine, or how do I learn if she's not? Thanks guys.