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@lostmedstudent My partner and I moved in together after only 10 months. A lot of potential conflict has probably been avoided because we made some simple ground rules when we moved in together right away, like within the first few days as we were decorating/moving furniture. We love living together, and never really conflict about anything! We like to think of living together as a permanent sleep over ! - Come up with a simple schedule for chores. Not too rigid, but just the stuff that HAS to get done. Have some free days in there as well so neither of you are overwhelmed. Don't know why this image is so big haha; - Although you live in the same house or apartment and may be splitting costs 50/50 (I hope it's 50/50 or there might be resentment/power imbalance built up) you should each have designated "spaces" or rooms for yourselves. I get the office for my work/alone time, and she gets the living room more or less. Of course neither of us are banned from spending time in either if we want when the other person is there, it's more of a "vague agreement" so we can get alone time. - Have certain standards for cleanliness where you are living. Don't point fingers or shame if someone leaves a mess or slacks off, just be kind about reminding them and help them clean up if they ask or don't have energy. You want to encourage each other to build the habits up individually. Having a nice space you can both enjoy raises overall baseline happiness. - Do nice things around your living space for them once in a while on top of what you do for your role, but don't expect the favor to get returned like you're counting score. - Be willing to compromise on style/decorating. Give each other some leeway in how the place should look. - Be very sensitive about noise when either of you are waking up/getting ready for work, etc. - Even though there is lockdown, try to have chunks of days and time where one of you leaves the apartment/house for whatever reason so the other person has some true alone time. It makes a difference. Just build up that honest communication early so things don't bottle up and blow up later. Living with someone can be challenging but it's also amazingly fun. Hope this helps, cheers! - Roy

That's a really good quote @LfcCharlie4 nice find! That's an amazing summation if I've ever seen one. It's kind of interesting seeing that conclusion from another perspective. I remember reading Sam Harris' book on Free Will a number of years ago and his definition is remarkably similar. Obviously he's coming from a more scientific paradigm but he came to the same conclusion almost through meditation, introspection and thought. Though he talks a lot about the "no-self" concept and advocates for people to discover that truth, I still feel like he hasn't got past the whole physically of the body/brain yet. Free will is simply an illusion, but a convincing at that! Even someone just willing to honestly take a simple thought experiment like this will notice it's comically evident free will doesn't exist; Whoever is reading this right now I want you to immediately say OUT LOUD the name of the first movie that you think of, no deliberation just say it out loud. Notice that whatever content came up was completely random? Perhaps if you do some tracing from past experiences or your environment you could come up with a reason for why you said it, but if you're honest you'll admit you still had zero anticipation of what movie it would be, it simply happened. Now also notice that if you hesitated and thought of a small list of movies, and then felt like you "chose" one of the movies to pass this experiment, that choosing also just happened. It's like this for all thoughts that arrive in your mind, choices that you make, and even physical actions you do. It is all just constant and relentless happening. No matter how much you try to feel "prior" to anything that is happening, you'll never arrive faster than the happening. Even the deliberating is part of the happening hahah! Once you break through and become aware of this it's very chilling. There are even scientific experiments that prove the brain has activity that determines the experience before the person is even consciously aware of it, if you're looking for that kind of explanation. Free will is just a comfortable illusion.

No matter how much you don't like it or how much evidence you provide to how dangerous "porn" is, it will never be viable to regulate how people choose to use their bodies. It's preposterous.

Awareness is like a muscle. It must be exercised constantly to maintain and reach higher levels. It's like your legs. If you stopped using them and sat around all day they would wither away and lose muscle, and get weak. On the other side of things if you ran or cycled every day, and did weight training you'd get strong legs that serve you well. There is no way around it, it's constant work. Then more work, then if you want to get even more of it......... you gotta work some more.

Of course governments need to step in to regulate big tech, especially when they censor regular people without good reason. ALSO realize the contradiction that it's the "muh freedom" attitude that even allows for an environment where a company can grow that big to get that kind of power to censor people. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Reality is too vast and complex for that. You don't want pure "freedom", it's a fantasy. In fact most people aren't even aware of just how selfish they are being when they advocate for the idea "freedom". They just want to be able to do or say whatever they want, and if other people they don't like can't do the same then tough shit! Even if people are logically, ethically or legally correct on their own personal scale, on a large scale they could have no idea what's good for them in the long run. Of course they are going to be too selfish to see it even after the time has passed. I want you to consider something; perhaps we should sacrifice some free speech in the midst of a pandemic. It's a very sprawling and dangerous situation. The last thing we need is a bunch of angry/confused people and conspiracy theorists stirring up unrest and violence. Is there going to be collateral damage? Probably. But you need to look at the big picture and stop expecting everything to work out perfectly to your principles.

Things to avoid deterrence would be don't be so judgmental of other people and cultures. Practice being open to things even if they make you initially uncomfortable. Try to accept and understand the emotions of others more frequently, and most importantly yourself. Don't be so argumentative and scientific, once you slow down on this need you'll notice it's not necessary the majority of the time. Unless you are an actual scientist or engineer or whatever most "facts" don't actually matter to regular people having regular conversations. Simply pursue discussion for the enjoyment of learning even if it isn't accurate all the time. Those are some things to get you started. - Libraries. The people that work there are usually quieter type women, most of the ones I met are great stage green people. Also look for clubs and other events going on for like minded people. - Garden centers, flower shops, organic food stores, alternative medicine stores. - Environmental volunteer events like garbage pick-up, tree planting, etc. - Concerts & parties are great for meeting stage green young/middle-aged people. Get there numbers, make friends! - Meditation retreats, healing centers, etc.

Go to his YouTube page and then click on his video list. You see the immediate contrast from what he's posted the past day compared to scrolling down through everything he's posted over the years. The abruptness of it is almost comical! Whatever he took completely shattered his paradigm. He must have had a very painful night of reflection realizing how shallow and vain most of his life had been up until that point. I'll be curious to follow and see what kind of 180 he does in his life because of this. It would be pretty radical for him to quit YT with 2.5 million subscribers, most people wouldn't be able to let go of that attachment. If he starts posting meditation and enlightenment content it'll be amazing to see how far over his audiences heads it'll be. His sub count is going to plummet.

It's going to be sooo long until psychedelics are taken seriously and legalized by society, with people like this representing the sphere. Too many irresponsible idiots and not enough clear information and warnings on the gravity of most of these substances.

@Chumbimba It's totally ok and common to be "mediocre" and content with life. The real definition of happiness is the ability to be content no matter where you are. But still what you consider success for yourself vs what "society" considers success should be 2 totally different things. Don't let other people define what you think you need to make yourself successful and happy. You need to spend some time considering what you really want. I'll ask you you a simple question - Without being greedy or fantasizing, what would be the bare minimum you need for your living situation and lifestyle for you to be happy (whatever happy means for you)? - What size/quality house would you be content with? - Where in the world/what kind of place would you want to live? - What kind of lifestyle would you be living there? Sedentary or active? - What would be the comfortable/minimum amount of income to have those without stress? - Would you want a partner or children in that picture? - What would you be doing day to day? Answer these kind of questions as specifically as you can and you'll start to shape the parameters of what you authentically consider "successful and happy" for you.

@Peo The only thing causing you to have 0 chance is what you're saying here and your attitude about it. Take massive action and pride in making the best profile you possibly can, and be prolific about it after you have it, talk to as many girls as you possibly can, and you will get results. It's guaranteed. So what if there is a pandemic and that ruined your plans? Take responsibility and adapt. See this post;

@Max_V I was a Starcraft player back in the day so I used to see Destiny and his content a lot. It's been remarkable how much he's transitioned over the years, but I would still peg him as firmly Orange. He entertains some green/yellow ideals but it's very minimal, he seems extremely stuck in debating, arguing, semantics, and being "right" all the time. It doesn't take much observation to notice he's an extremely neurotic person. He is fully engaged in the whole Youtube circle jerk of platform wars, judging others, and "VS" debates. Not the behavior of a systems thinker.

There has definitely never been a better time to be alive than now, but it's not going to last. Our current systems and standards of living have stretched the planet to the brink. Soon we're going to have to voluntarily sacrifice and simply our material existence. The alternative is an impending recoil, and yes it's going to be violent.

Hahahaha omg man stop you're gonna make me cry . It's no wonder communities like this can look so polarizing from the outside when you have people saying hilariously arrogant things like this. It's like Leo the other day, "I can give a girl the best orgasm of her entire life through text messages." suuuuuuuuuurrrreeeee lol

Do not do it. You are cheating yourself out of an important authentic experience, literally. Being able to attract someone and have sex with them is like a coming of age thing. Have as much paid sex as you want after, but DO NOT let your first time be like that. You will end up regretting it down the road.

Before Enlightenment - Chop wood, carry water. After Enlightenment - Chop wood, carry water. Whether you pursue it or not it won't matter anyways. It comes full circle and you'll always end up where you started. That leaves you with but one thing to do - live your life

Well, that may say more about them as people, or you might have done something wrong. Regardless, that's all in the past now. This mentality you have towards women is not a good one. Consider taking a step back from dating in order to re-frame your relationship to the other sex. Try to limit (or stop) all your exposure to modern dating culture and media. It is just reinforcing toxic ideas in your mind. Perceptions can be changed, but you need to be willing to fight back against your ego. All it wants to do is stay in homeostasis by continuing to judge women. Spend the next week observing and noticing your thoughts in this matter. Anytime they arise, just pay attention to their existence. How do they make you feel? Don't worry too much about changing them right now. Just get good at noticing them.

@Chumbimba You gotta drop ALL the labels right now if you want get anywhere man. They may feel good to say now, but they will hold you back. You have to realize that most people aren't really motivated to be authentic all the time, a lot of those girls are putting up "hoe" pictures simply because of peer pressure. They are doing it cause that's what their friends are doing. Once again you simply never know until you meet them in person. I'll give you the example of my own relationship. Her profile said "feminist activist" and had pictures of her at rallies and all that. I didn't think in a million years I'd date a feminist. I thought it would never work and we would clash on politics and that I would be too "logical" for her. But I gave it a chance........ Fast forward 1.5 years we are now living together, have excellent communication, and never get in fights about anything. We adore being together as much as possible. See what I could have missed if I let judgement have control?

Online dating is brutal as a male if you don't have model caliber looks, still there are some things you can do to help even the odds. - Spam swipe right and match with as many people as the apps will allow you to. It doesn't matter if you'd never date most of the people. You can always sort through it after. It's important to cast as wide a net as possible to increase your chances of landing an actual date. It's simply a numbers game. You need to be talking to as MANY girls as possible, even if conversations hit dead ends, which many will. Don't take it personally. If you want to get good at chatting up women........ you guessed it - you need to chat up a LOT of women. - You need to take your profile seriously. They will have no idea how awesome you really are from just your profile, it's all surface appearance online. You might be this "cool self actualizing dude with all these cool ideas and views about the world", they won't know ANY of that shit if they don't swipe to match with you. Make your profile quirky, interesting, and mysterious, but don't reveal too much that will make you seem too invested. You need to withhold stuff to get a conversation flowing later. Don't post egoic "bro" pics. Women hate that shit. On Tinder books are judged by their cover, so don't look like that douche-bag with his shirt off beside all his frat friends, or holding up a severed deer head and rifle in the woods. You want to have wholesome pictures of you with your close friends and family, and doing hobbies you enjoy. Show that you are an active person with things that keep you busy in life. Nobody wants to date a boring person. If you don't have the pics to make this kind of profile, go out and get those pictures. If you want results, you gotta take responsibility. Consider looking up guides on profile creation or some cheap coaching for modern dating. It can help a lot. - Very important point. Don't fuck around talking endlessly. Women will never ask you out 99% of the time. The ball is in your court. Once you start chatting and you notice a bit of a spark, simply ask her out on a simple fun date. Women love it when they see decisiveness in a man. Once you talk to a good number of girls you'll start to know the right time to ask is, but even if the language of the conversation isn't steering towards it. It works to just be blunt sometimes and say, "hey you are interesting, you are pretty, want to go do X?" Hope this helps cheers - Roy

Don't "choose". There is no right or wrong answer. Simply embrace your sexuality as it comes to you, naturally. Whatever it happens to be. All of the thoughts of shame, guilt, and confusion are cultural conditioning dictating what you "should" or "should not" do with your body. How absurd! You can deconstruct those thoughts and realize they are just egos trying to control other egos because of fear of the "other", or what they may have in themselves.

thank you @Villager Albert @RawJudah Any tips for quitting coffee? I'm addicted as fuck, been drinking it almost daily since April of 2011. I've gone without it for many days/weeks before but it's so ingrained within me. Like I can physically go without it and not have withdrawal, but mentally I'm like "my day would be more awesome if i had a coffee right now" lol

Although I don't necessarily agree with all the content and messages of some of the people that have been censored over the years. I can sympathize with their positions. YouTube, Google, Facebook, and other big tech companies are practically public utilities by all metrics, it would be intellectually dishonest to argue otherwise. Therefore they have a larger (but mostly unspoken) obligation to abide by certain freedom of speech laws of whatever countries they are operating in. It's a huge problem that they can completely crush peoples livelihoods because they don't feel the need to shore up extremely vague guidelines, or because it goes against their political affiliations. Most of which are clearly liberal/left leaning because they are based in silicon valley. It's just a power game that needs to be balanced a bit better, at least the European Union is doing something about it to protect their democracies. America on the other hand is in full fucking meltdown lol.

I know you just asked for Leo but an overall effective way to improve speaking skill is to watch a LOT of different speakers online and reading books from many authors. TED Talks and non-fiction books are great resources. Hearing all the variety of ways people use your language in written and oral settings will subconsciously imprint and develop a well rounded idea in your brain of how to speak. You'll notice your vocabulary becoming more diverse and your articulation will flow better without so much thinking about what you're going to say.

Because they sound cool and mysterious and make you feel like you have things figured out. Like most things people believe in them because it makes them feel good.

Don't necessarily need them.

Leo has obviously thought about this himself, and how he wants to portray his message and content. It looks like he has opted for not really filtering his language or putting huge disclaimer sections in the videos (though it would probably do them some good, it's not like the videos are short anyways lol). It's just the way he's chosen to go about it. I know people may not like it but let's be honest, it's doubtful it's going to change unless there is some kind of serious drama or backlash, but even that is unlikely because he's insulated himself from the world pretty heavily. It all comes down to the individual - are you getting value out of the content and is it working for you? Depending on the answer to that question you either leave or stick around.