Natalya

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  1. @egoeimai yes, some women are not looking to settle down. I'm talking about the majority of women who want to meet a guy that's right for them.
  2. @electroBeam You're not getting my point. Think of it as a one-time test that's temporary and is conducted to simply determine if the guy she's dating has serious intentions. It's not for everyone, but it works well for those who need answers.
  3. @electroBeam it has nothing to do with manipulation. It's about protecting oneself as a woman with a filter that helps avoid wasting years away with the wrong people. You'll be surprised to what lengths guys go to get laid. You'd need to be a woman and go through what we go through to understand.
  4. @egoeimai, just 2 young guys (possibly one with 2 profiles) trying to get attention.
  5. @S33K3R, it's true some people do such things for fun because their moral values are twisted, but I think the majority is just living a low-conscious/low-integrity life and is driven by their basic needs without thinking of others. Rarely people harm other people intentionally. Most of the time, it's pure selfishness and sometimes stupidity that leads to disasters.
  6. @egoeimai, have you read The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider? Or He's Just Not That into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo? Highly recommend these.
  7. It's not really about stating your expectations clearly. Especially with men. One of the differences between men and women is that women talk, and men don't hear. Guys seem to only understand action. In my experience, men don't get motivated to change until they have to face the harsh reality (like you leaving him). By the same token, guys usually don't feel the need to step up as long as they already have everything they need - your warmth and sweet support and being there every time he needs you. Unfortunately, the more you try to make it work, the more he pulls away. This is why couples that move in together are less likely to get married -- they already have all the convenience they need! So why bother with a wedding? You could try this: start pulling away. Don't initiate phone calls/texts and don't answer his every call/text, don't be available for him. Go out with friends more, and keep yourself busy - without him. If he doesn't realize he's losing you and if this moves the relationship closer to its end, be it - it wasn't meant to be.
  8. @Natasha Privetik, I'm originally from Russia (St. Petersburg). I live in NY. If you're ever in NY, I'd be happy to meet up with you!
  9. @PretentiousHuman Despite all the useful information the internet throws at you, it's perfectly fine to take breaks from it. It's ok to take a break from TV, news, books, music, people, forums (including this one!) etc. I periodically deactivate my FB account when I need to focus on my job or studies. Take the time you need, then come back when you miss it.
  10. Depends on what you use social media for. I never post anymore, I've unfollowed most of my friends, except for some that post some really awesome stuff. But I'm subscribed to many useful pages that show up in my newsfeed, like cooking, art, professional development, etc. I've also joined many groups of interest on FB. Besides, it's a good filter for the important news, since I don't have the time to keep up with what's going on in the world. If it's important, you'll see it posted multiple times. Twitter is best for professional/career development and for keeping up with the latest trends in the areas of your interest. Facebook is more for keeping in touch with old friends and making new friends through FB groups and friends of friends.
  11. @dan seeker it's always best to talk to the boundary violator first before going to a supervisor. As you said, people don't always realize they're doing something wrong.
  12. It's not a disorder. It's the lack of discipline. You want someone to tell you it's a disorder, so that you can relax and continue living a lazy victim-minded life. But I'm here to tell you: you're not sick, and you need to lift your butt off the couch and start making serious efforts before you find yourself being 60 years-old and having missed all the opportunities.
  13. Sounds like a bad case of anxiety to me. Practice catching every negative thought in your mind and turning it into a neutral or positive one BEFORE it turns into a huge pile of disaster. Talk to yourself in a compassionate calming way to slow down your thoughts and dissolve some of them. Tornadoes don't happen out of nowhere, they start slowly. You need to learn how to turn your thoughts around. For a temporary but quick relief, give this video a shot:
  14. I get apathy from overexertion. Perhaps, you should take a short break (say, one week) and see if you feel any different?
  15. I feel the same way. And the more self-developed you are, the less topics in common you find with people who don't work on themselves. But you can't just exclude yourself from everyone's lives, so you have to maintain your basic social skills. For example, you can't skip meetings and happy hours at work, unless you want to become an obvious black sheep and eventually get fired. But even though it helps to have a wide networking circle because it means more opportunities, you don't have to connect with many people and you don't have to try too hard to be everyone's friend. At least, that's what I was trying to do for a long time. Eventually, I've learned that long-term relationships with most people should be low-maintenance and even shallow enough because it's when you get too close to people or try to develop meaningful connections, you get disappointed. The good news is that eventually, you do meet some people who you do find some common grounds with, so the conversations are not as boring. What I'd suggest is try to be selective about who you're willing to give more attention to, and only if you must or if you truly like to. Otherwise, you don't need friends. Most of the time, friends hold you down, anyway.