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Hard work matters but smart work matters more. The 16-hour day hustle culture is often a cope for inefficiency. Owen's shift shows that. I've found that 35-40 hours of focused, deliberate work beats 80 hours of scattered effort. The key is consistency and strategic thinking, not just grinding.

I can relate to the appreciation for a non-judgmental approach, it was the key reason I stuck with therapy. I've been seeing a therapist through Manhattan Mental Health Counseling for a while now, and the change has been life-changing. They helped me navigate anxiety and depression, but also deeper issues around self-esteem and perfectionism that I didn't even realize were holding me back. The focus was always on practical coping skills and personal growth, not on labeling me

That's a heavy question. Wanting to die and surrendering to death are different things. The 5meo experience is about ego dissolution, not physical death. You're describing a spiritual surrender, not a desire to end life. I think there's a distinction worth making.

He said that years ago. Still waiting. At this point, I think it's either not happening or he's keeping it private. He's moved on to other topics. Wouldn't hold your breath.

If the transaction is legal, consensual, and without coercion, the ethics often come down to personal values regarding the commodification of intimacy. The legality and issues of safety for the worker are more concrete ethical concerns than the emotional aspect for the client.

The claim that feminist ideology is the root cause of relationship dysfunction is too broad and simplistic. Relationship success depends on many complex factors like communication and individual choices, not a single political stance.

That "removing resistance" part is the real draw. It’s a tool for perspective. The only reason to quit is if you lose control or if it starts making you passive, the classic cliché. But you sound like you have a handle on moderation, which is half the battle. If you ever decide to make your use fully legit for, say, sleep issues, dealing with the paperwork is the worst. I found that Leafy DOC is actually quite easy for getting the official doctor consultation done. Keeps everything above board, you know?

I'd like an upvoting feature for replies on forum posts. Being able to show agreement to someone's input without posting would keep threads tidier.

these go hard, great for meditation if you're like me and struggle to sit on the floor cos of tight muscles

I was gonna say I'm asking for a friend, but everyone here knows the friend is just me

My older brother's life is exactly this. He's in his mid 30's, living at my parents' place, being literally nocturnal sleeping from dawn to dusk and just playing world of warcraft and other games the entire night. He'll go live with friends in the city for about 2-3 months a year to work and earn enough money to go back to living this lifestyle. He is fully dependent on my parents to be able to do this, but let's say you manage to live this life through your own means. What are you going to feel on your deathbed? Do you think you'd ever feel a sense of lack creep up on you? A hunger for something deeper, the feeling that your life isn't the best it could be? If not, then go for it. Personally I'd begin to feel empty very quick, unless I was creating something big within the game, but there's only so many things I could build in Minecraft that would deeply fulfill me. I don't really know how my brother truly feels about his life. He has a very cynical outlook on society, though he's always thought of himself as an outsider. He seems content enough, but he's going to run into problems soon with health and money. Work towards living a life of video games and see how it goes for you I guess.

How do I access the character customization screen?

As someone living in a small town (max 3 degrees of separation between anyone), also very keen to hear some suggestions

Went out to a club last night with a friend who is actually a lot more shy than myself. I've just moved back to my hometown which is pretty small, but I was excited to see more of the nightlife. My goal was to approach at least one girl and make some new local friends, since all my good high-school friends have moved out of town. I had 4 drinks before hand, I feel like I could have had 1 less and been a little further out of my comfort zone. Definitely don't want to rely on alcohol. I checked the place out, lowkey danced for a bit still feeling a little awkward. I then approached a few people just with the intention of warming up, basic conversation opening with "how's your night going" etc. Really wasn't being bold at all but I feel like somewhat established my presence at the venue by giving off friendly vibes. I saw a girl on her phone and went for the approach but as soon as I got close she turned to talk to her friend. I just kept on walking past as I didn't feel confident enough to interrupt their conversation. I went out the back to the smoker's spot with my friend and sat next to a guy who was on his own at a table. I explained how I had just moved back here and was keen to meet more people. I got his number so he can let me know whenever there's a house party on. I met another person in that area and also got his number for the same reason. I danced with some guys that I knew from high-school who were with some girls. One of them was kinda cute so I approached. I felt confident but I opened with the same questions I had been asking everyone else, and she gave me short answers and didn't ask anything back. Short conversation. I should have persisted and lead the conversation with some more stimulating interaction. Another much more attractive girl showed up. I stared at her for a bit trying to make eye contact but she didn't look in my direction, so I eventually just approached her anyway. I asked her "what's on your mind?" and she replied "you " and started grinding on me. Well that was fucking easy. I told her to follow me out the back because I need to talk to her, but she said she'd rather keep dancing. To be honest I felt a little uncomfortable with her dancing with me while both her and my friends were watching, there were a lot of eyes on me and I got a bit in my head about how I should act. We made out for a bit and I told her she's gorgeous. "I know". After dancing for couple more minutes she broke away to the other side of the circle. She kept looking at me and in hindsight I think she wanted me to chase her, but I didn't want to look too invested, needy or tryhard. It was now 15 minutes from the venue closing, I left to go quickly find my friend without saying anything and thought I could come back and find her again. I left for what couldn't have been longer than 4 minutes, and then I saw her with another guy. Epic. Didn't see her again and then lights came on. She was obviously just really horny and there wasn't much genuine attraction. I was a little bummed, but in all honesty this is the most intimate I've been with a girl for 3 years. I exceeded my own expectations. Made some new friends and had a great night. Massive confidence boost. Next time I'm going to drink less and try be a little more bold (making my intentions known from the very start).

I've decided to focus more on improving my social skills and dating life, which has been pretty sad in all honesty. I never pursue women and I do feel like I am missing something important in my life. Even beyond improving my confidence with women, I'd like to break down my social inhibition. Since adolescence I have felt very vulnerable around strangers and it takes me a long time to open up around people and truly be authentic. I believe this shell came about from my experience as a kid where I had to go to a completely new school where I knew nobody and ended up being bullied because I was a weird kid. As far as school bullying tends to go, it wasn't really too rough but I've let that experience effect me a lot more than it should have (and for far too long). I tend to censor myself to avoid that same judgement of my character, but any fucking adult worth talking to isn't going to hate me for being interesting. It's about time I put in the work to actually believe this fact with my body and not just my thoughts. I've noticed that any conversation I have with people I'm very close to, 99% of the time I don't think before I speak. I say what I want before I even know it. I want to reach this level of natural self-expression regardless of the environment. I want to drop my shield and master the sword.