In practice you're gonna have to settle for some compromise. You're never going to find the perfect package. Try to make a list of everything you want in a girl, then rank it from most to least important, and then be prepared to only get 60-80% of that list (if you're lucky).
There will always be hotter girls. Attracting and maintaining 9s and 10s is very difficult in practice. The chances of attracting a 9 with a great and suitable personality is very low. And of course looks will fade too.
Perfectionism here will be disastrous.
But also, you gonna determine if she meets your basic quality standards. Otherwise you will never be satisfied with her and she will sense that off you, and it's not fair to her.
So ask yourself this question very honestly: "Is she good enough for me to settle down with? Or would I regret it in the back of my mind?"
In general you need to get very clear with yourself about what is and isn't good enough for you. You need to be clear so that you can better screen girls in the future. So you don't end up settling for something that isn't right for you. This problem is not with her, but with your lack of knowing what you want. So get more clear about that. What are the things with a girl that you're not willing to negotiate on? Make a list.
For example, I have a few basic rules that are deal-breakers: like if she smokes, drinks, likes to get tattoos, or is overweight. I just know that I will never be satisfied with that. So it's best to not even continue down that road. Physical attractiveness is more tricky because there are so many degrees of it. Sometimes a girl is right on the edge where it's not clear. Ideally you want her to be at least 30% over the edge. Any lower and you'll probably be too luke-warm about her.
I've actually invested quite a bit of time simply training my eye for physical attractiveness. You can go to the local mall and just walk around looking at random girls and asking yourself, "Would I fuck her? Yes or no?" And force yourself to quickly make that determination within a few seconds. Do this a thousand times. As you practice this more you'll get better and better at quickly determining if a girl is right for you on the level of physical attractiveness. Obviously there are many other factors beyond that. But since looks is the first screen, it's important to get clear about that screen. Self-clarity is the key.
As you become more conscious, looks will matter to you less and less and your ability to love will increase exponentially.
Determine which features of physical attractiveness matter to you and which ones don't: tits, face, ass, height, hair, legs, weight, skin color, teeth, eyes, nose, race, etc. Get clear about what your deal-breakers are. It's a lot easier when you can screen for this stuff up front. It's very painful to do it once you know her. This screening needs to be done as early as possible.

I don't know much about him. He seems a bit like Canada's Bill Clinton.
His brown-face scandal I think is pretty silly. I don't think he's a racist. People just behave in crass ways sometimes when they are young.
When it comes to fighting racism the important thing is to look at the politician's systemic policies and not get distracted by superficial scandals.
For example, Trump's policies are racist. I don't see that with Trudeau. That's the important difference.
Judge Trudeau by his policies. Honestly I don't know much about his policies. He seems neo-liberal moderate and somewhat corporatist. Stage Orange/Green. Similar to Macron of France.

The Buddha was a Bodhisattva, who's life purpose was to awaken mankind.
What you're missing is that a life purpose doesn't have to come from ego, it can come from God. And anyways, all ego is just a limited expression of God. So even if an LP is coming from ego, it's still seeking God, however imperfectly.

Correct

@K VIL You can zoom into a pencil forever and you will never reach its bottom.
The pencil has the exact same scale as the Milky Way galaxy. Because all objects have the same scale: infinite.
It works just like a fractal. Each scale of the fractal is the same.

This right here is your problem.
Take ownership of this problem and fix it.
Move to a city which has the kind of vibe and people you like.
Of course some backwater town in Latin America is gonna be filled with very traditional stage Blue people. Create a plan for moving the fuck out. Go where the cool peeps at Getting there will be a great growing experience for you. Don't do it for them, do it for you.

Yes, definitely.
There are phases in this work when you're doing lots of general research but not getting much tangible results. And there are phases where you're practicing a narrow set of techniques and seeing tangible results but not doing much research.
You can naturally cycle between these phases depending on what your life requires.
You'll need to dynamically balance between the two extremes.
Watching a bunch of my videos will fill your head will too much theory and not enough tangible results. And yet, that theory will serve you well in the future when you get stuck or lost.
Things tend to auto-correct themselves in the long-run. Too much theory should naturally drive you to crave results. And vice versa.

Not all things can be found through such naive direct experience.
Here's a counter-example which throws a wrench in your logic:
Sushi seems healthy and delicious. Eating it makes you feel good compared to many other foods. It's light and refreshing and not over-cooked. But if you take this as a sign of health and you start eating sushi 4 times a week, eventually you'll discover it gives your lead and mercury poisoning. Your brain will start to function poorly as it fills with more and more heavy metals and you won't even know what's wrong with you until you get some medical tests which finally reveal the truth.
The moral of the story is that not all problems can be solved through straight direct experience. Sometimes you need an external source like an x-ray or a satellite photo or a Geiger counter to tell you something is unhealthy or problematic.
Also, some things are so dangerous that it's too risky to discover so through direct experience. For example, sticking a fork in the wall socket. In this case you just have to take people's word for it.

Which is why it will take some 100+ years.
Starting a significant cultural movement takes a long time.
We still barely have a cultural movement on climate change. And it's been like 50 years. And it's an issue that directly impacts all humans.
By all means, devote your whole life to it and transform society. If you dare
We have a better chance of simply evolving current humans. And anyways, you shouldn't be too worried about spiritual competition. There exist beings in our universe 1 million times more conscious and advanced than humans. So it's really not a race. We can only do so much so fast.

That's what I'm here for
It's not an ego-defense per se. It's just a lack of vision, leadership, and empathy.
Lots of people in society are suffering due to exploitation by those in power. Yet you don't care much about addressing that because you're in a relatively comfortable position yourself. If your daughter was raped, enslaved, or poisoned by some giant corporation dumping toxic chemicals in your water supply, you'd sing a different tune. All the sudden you'd take this stuff seriously because it now impinges on your survival agenda whereas before it was an intellectual abstraction.
You would feel very differently about global warming if you bought a $1 million house and it was sunk under water in 5 years. But so long as it doesn't personally cause you suffering, you don't care much.
That's perfect for the big oil companies. That's exactly what they want. While you sit around and wait, they will rake in $100 billion. Millions of people in 3rd world counties will be dislocated, famine and desertification will get real bad, wars will be waged, and new terrorist groups will form. But none of that will matter to the guys who rake in $100 billion.
And it won't matter to you until one of those terrorists blows up your daughter's school. But even then you'll probably just get angry at the terrorist group rather than connecting the dots and seeing how the terrorist group was merely an outgrowth of the global warming problem which lead to geopolitical stress in impoverished parts of the world.
In this way, root problems are never seriously understood or addressed.
That's precisely a recipe for disaster. The correct path forward is never an average of all the possible paths. Finding the right path requires careful judgment, research, contextual awareness, awareness of exploiters and manipulators, and ultimately wisdom and consciousness.
Finding the correct path requires a visionary. One who can look 100 years into the future and think in a non-self-biased way, aligned with Truth, Consciousness, and Love. Such a person must be selfless enough to sacrifice himself to show people the correct path, because he will be vehemently demonized and resisted by self-biased devils defending their self-interest.
Progress and innovation requires deep questioning of status quo positions and traditions. Nothing can be taken for granted. What's "normal" must be questioned and challenged without any concern for social norms. In a society where slavery is considered normal, it takes a radical to stand up and say, "This is not normal at all! This is devirly! You guys are selfish fucking devils."
Seeking to always be nice, peaceful, and "moderate" paradoxically leads to the rise of radicalism. When 100s of millions of people around the world are deeply suffering and deeply exploited, and you ignore this because you want to be "moderate" and congenial (because you are in a position of comfort), don't be surprised when those oppressed people organize and come after you with pitchforks. When they burn down your house, maybe you'll reconsider your moderate position.
Everything is intellectual until someone burns down your house or rapes your kids. Then you start paying attention.

What you fail to appreciate is that God CANNOT fulfill your wish because God has no form. It can only come through a vehicle, and this can always be denied.
By it's very nature God cannot force itself on a person in denial because the one denying God is God!
God explained this to you in the book. Yet you missed this important point.
God IS a closed circle. If you do not realize that God is talking through you, you're shit out of luck. Because you denied yourself, because you are God.
If God appeared in a glowing white robe and beard on the White House lawn tomorrow, and procliamed, "HEAR ME HUMANS! I AM YOUR GOD!" Most people would laugh, denying it, and some would even try to kill it and subject the corpse to scientific testing, at which point they would conclude: "this was just an ordinary human with some brain defects."
So it is imposisble for God to reveal itself to humans because humans are too stupid and closedminded to understand God.
This seems like a cop out. And yet it's precisely true. Because you are God denying you are God. If you don't get that you're God. That's it. You're fucked. Even God cannot help you now. This is the definition of devilry: you have cut yourself off from God by your own ignorance.
The truth is that God speaks to and through everything, but you must have enough wisdom to see it. And neither science nor skepticism nor proof is wisdom.

@Synchronicity I'd be more interested to know how this works in practice. Like how does it work to experience multiple lives at once? What does that feel like?
Even on high doses of psychedelics I don't get that. I experience infinity but always as my own one life.

@Hansu So what you're saying is, before the Civil War you would have been pro slavery.
Centrism just means you're basically going with the status quo, adding a little lipstick to a pig.
You have no vision for how great mankind could be.
And, see... as an centrist you're extremely easy to fool. All one has to do is stack the argument with extremist positions and you'll reflexively just adopt the half-way point.
So one side says: Abolish slavery. The other side says: let's get even more slaves. And you say: let's be reasonable and just keep the slaves we have.
Or one side says: global warming is a serious threat. The other side says: global warming is a hoax. And you say: who really knows? Let's wait and see.
All I have to do to fool you is fund a think tank which generates whatever serves my agenda, and you'll always split the difference because you don't evaluate anything on the merits of it by simply take the mid-point. So I just manipulate you by making sure to put forth such extreme positions that your mid-point ends but being exactly what best serves me and my interests. So if it serves me to own 50 slaves, I will set my position to be: I should be able to own 1000 slaves. And you as the centrist will go, "Okay, 1000 is too many slaves. Let's be reasonable. You can have 100." Deal!
What you're missing is that truth and rightness are not the average of any two positions.
You can't take a multiple choice exam, mark every answer "C", and expect to ace the class. If only life were so easy. Rarely is the answer "C".

I consider myself being twin of Leo... I have experienced all of the stuff he talks in his videos + have very similar personality.

My background:

30 y/old male, Europe

Many years of HARDCORE spiritual path.

- Clean eating, mostly RAW (no wheat, no dairy, a little meat)
- Being aware ALL DAY LONG - 16 hours a day
- Contemplation and Self Inquiry 3 hours a day
- Meditating in PITCH BLACK room 3 hours a day before midnight (strong determination sitting)
- Concentration exercises
- ejaculating max once per 2 weeks
- Psychedelics (often):

15x 5-MeO-DMT HCL trips
30x 5-Meo-DMT Freebase trips
20x 4-Aco-DMT Fumarate trips
35x DMT Freebase trips
8x DPT trips
60x Weed trips
5x LSD trips
10x 2c-b trips
+ some near death experiences

And some others. Many of my trips happened in pitch black darkness. Always WITHOUT trip sitter.

I have had many "TOTAL" awakenings + experienced many paranormal, mystical phenomena and Kundalini awakening. Third eye opening etc...

I have experienced many logically impossible experiences. Sober or under psychedelics.

I consider myself Awakened consciousness, yet there are infinite degrees of awakening more left. DO YOU GET IT? After MANY infinite trips you will get it.

YES, there are degrees to awakening.

I have experienced MANY lifetimes. In fact, I have experienced ALL possible lifetimes that have existed, exist now or will exist when having many of my mystical experiences.

I have had trips, where I experienced ALL POSSIBLE LIFETIMES OF ALL POSSIBLE CREATURES in 6 hours. Entire lifetimes... YES! All possible creatures. 5-legged ones, or just beings made of energy only, or creature with not 5 or 6 senses but 300 senses etc... Sounds impossible? Well... If you do HARDCORE practices, you can experience many hardcore stuff.

This story about Big Bang and Planet Earth IS JUST ONE OF INFINITE MORE STORIES in infinite more dimensions.

I attained THOUSANDS of "spiritual" insights. Most of them are impossible to put into words and sentences.

"You are God" is just one of INFINITE MORE SPIRITUAL INSIGHTS. I can't describe this statement more, because of the limit of language.

There is INFINITE deepness. In other dimensions I took psychedelics 10000s times potent than DPT.

There are infinite more colors than you can see now in this current dimension.

Be very open-minded reading next lines please.

After many years of being "spiritual"... After my last awakening, I realised that this whole spiritual path is just ONE story of infinite other meaningless stories.

Chasing this whole "who am I?" thing is just of many possible stories and is AS MEANINGLESS AS ANY OTHER STORY.

I awakened to total meaninglessness. TOTAL.

THERE IS NO OTHER PLACE TO BE. I can't escape THIS being.
There is only being.

I experienced that no matter what I do, even if I kill myself, I will be reborn infinite times more.

In fact I have literally physically experienced dying and killing myself in other dimensions just to realise that I can't escape this BEING thing.

After you die, you can choose to "enjoy" formlessness for infinity. BUT that infinity is so infinite, that is finite. Basically, that INFINITY will feel like blink of the eye, and you will get "bored" and will reborn "instantly", after you get bored being formless. READ THAT AGAIN.

In other words: HUMAN DIES, BABY IS BORN. INSTANTLY.

You can't escape... There is only Existence.

No form of suicide is enough. Thanks to this insight, this exact life that I live now, is exactly good as any other life. No life is better than other life.

Thanks to many mystical experiences I realised that businessman has his sufferings and joys, is the same as homeless man has his pains and joys. No difference.

And here comes my question.... Question that no one of you can answer... Because I have used infinite times more potent stuff than your tiny limited human mind, YET I am still searching for answer.

WHAT TO DO NOW?

The thing is, I feel like there is no higher "level" to reach.

I have experienced mahasamadhi in other lifetimes, I have reached TOP OF THE TOP levels of Existence... I have experienced toppest of the tops, I always ended up in some limited dimension. And Now I want to suffer again.

That is the reason I have chosen not to have mahasamadhi in this life (I had many opportunities to have mahasamadhi in this life)

You were God infinite lifetimes before, and now you forgot you wanted to experience being limited again. You forgot you have put yourself here just to limit yourself again. JUST CAUSE. Because you can.

I WANT TO BE HUMAN AGAIN AND TO HAVE ROLLERCOASTER LIFE OF EMOTIONS AND ILLUSIONS.

I want to forget I am God... But I know too much. Too much....

I am serious.

After TOTAL ENLIGHTENMENT, after THE HIGHEST HIGH, there is only a way down.

I just want to warn EVERYBODY:

THERE ARE INSIGHTS that will destroy your life, your motivations, your everything.

There are insights so shocking that will paralyze you.

You will lose interest for friends, movies, music, just about everything. It feels like know everything, have been everything, been everywhere, have done everything...

In every dimension I have lived, there is always this "OMG now I know too much, and there's no way back" level. After that insight, life in that dimension becomes very "meaningless"...

In every dimension there are illusions similar to "Maya", just to protect you. To protect you from "knowing too much" so you can continue enjoying the show.

It feels like the "secret" of Maya have its purpose here in this dimension.

Knowing too much (being awakened) in whatever dimension leads to being unfulfilled. It's like cheating...

Do you enjoy playing a game with "GODMODE: ON" cheat?

If I could choose again, I would not choose to awaken.

This world is made to be for unconscious beings.

Now I have a 2 choices.

Just watching everything, just observing this miraculous colorful explosion.

or

Put myself again into Matrix and forget who am I.

And I think I want to forget. But how?

How could I? How could I deceive myself again?

Basically, I want to warn you...

KNOWING "TOO MUCH" and being robbed of "mandatory" illusions will leave you unsatisfied...

TOTAL ENLIGHTENMENT leads later to total unconsciousness. It's a strange loop.

Even being infinite love will soon or later lead to infinite suffering. You are THE CHANGE. You want CHANGE. Don't ask me why...

YES, I am saying very radical stuff. I have experienced many lives in other dimensions being only "LOVE". But after some time, even LOVE will seem boring.

You will not enjoy your "total awakening" to the infinity... At one point, you basically get bored and want to enjoy being unconscious jerk again...

Soon or later, you may be interested in being Zen Devil just for the sake of doing it.
That's why you see many spiritual gurus having affairs and being zen devils.

There is something deep you can get from this post, but I don't know how to communicate it better, because I am not native english speaker.

Have a nice day.
 

1) Business's whole strategy is to strong arm and use enormous leverage to manipulate wages. An average person has little chance to negotiate for a fair wage. They are forced to take whatever offered, which usually undervalues their work. This is the core reason why a minimum wage is needed. To not address this point is to be naive about how business negotiation works. He with the most leverage takes the cake.
2) The idea that a living wage would hurt small biz is silly. A living wage could eaily be a requirement only above a certain number of empolyees. For example, all companies worth over $100 million or employing more than 100 people.
The whole point of using the "this will kill small biz" excuse is to conflate giant multi-national business with small mom and pop shops so that the giant multi-national can squeeze their employees dry.
A company like Walmart or McDonalds should be paying a living wage. This doesn't need to affect tiny businesses.
Living wage can easily be adjustable to cost of living per state and county. So in LA it could be $25/hr while in Alabama it could be $10/hr.
People make all sorts of bad arguments aboug minimum wage simply because they have an ideological position against it and no understanding of how corporations use leverage in negotiations.

A good way to make sense of it is to consider how video games work:
In a video game, like a first-person shooter, it seems like the player's view point converges on his eyes, but actually, the entire screen is rendered simultaneously. The avatar's eyes/body/brain in a video game is not responsible for what is seen on the screen, they are part of the screen. It's an illusion.

Reality has no beginning or end.
It has existed forever.
No matter how deeply you explore it, you will always be infinitely far away from reaching the end. No matter how far back in time you go, you will be infinitely far away from finding its beginning. Not because you are too limited as a human, but because a beginning and end simply do not exist.
God is endless consciousness.

I would actually say just the opposite:
All of your current dysfunctions in life are the result of past events.
It's not so simple as correlating some one horrid childhood event to your current problem. It's much more complex. All problems are the result of whatever the "self" you identify as. This "self" was constructed as a reaction to survival challenges in the past. The "self" is nothing more than a survival mechanism. So of course it's highly conditioned by upbringing, childhood, teenage years, and early adulthood. Whatever stuff happened to you between the ages of 0 to 30 has shaped your personality almost totally to the point where you cannot even know what your self would be without it. Of course your are not just shaped by bad events but good events too.
Of course none of this means you can't change.
It's a bad idea to listen to academic psychologists when it comes to understanding the dynamics of the self. Broad surveys and studies are not gonna cut it here. This requires existential level insight through direct work on oneself.
Ask yourself where your "self" came from? You'll see it was from the past. In fact, your entire mind came from the past. Every word you use came from your past. 99% of the ideas in your mind came from your past. You hardly invented anything new. You are like a snowball rolling down hill collecting more snow and dirt.
But the strange looping twist here is, the past is just a figment of your mind! There never was a past or a self or a world! You made it all up. You sneaky devil, you.
Survival has everything to do with your problems. Without survival there is no problem at all.

That's because "hot" is literally defined by that which is in the top 5%.
So it's not that most women are not hot. It's that what's hot is the top 5% of whatever is.
If women were donkeys, you'd still be like, "These donkeys suck. I want a better donkey."
That's survival. Always looking for the most you can get for the least amount of effort.

Of course corporations are a source of government corruption and rig the laws to serve their survival.
But the problem is far deeper than that. Complex technology and massive scales of life (human society in the 100s of millions) requires massive infrastructure and collective forms of organization. We cannot just go back to living in little tribes in some hippie eco-village. The whole challenge here is that individual humans are not the end-all-be-all of life. Life has surpassed humans to include corporations, organizations, religions, social movements, cultures, governments, nations, and beyond. Massive complexity and bureaucracy is necessary to sustain things like nuclear weapons, gasoline cars, airports, highways, currency, the internet, GPS satellites, regulation of pollution & deforestation, regulation of endangered species, modern medicine, modern food, modern electronics, etc.
None of that could exist without corporations or giant bureaucracies.
You cannot build a modern home by yourself, or even with a small group of your friends. Modern housing construction requires sophisticated supply chains, regulation, infrastructure, factories, shipping containers, airports, railroad, power plants, mining, logging, and a thousand other things.
Starbucks does better than a family owned coffee shop precisely because it solves complex organizational problems like supply chain issues, warehousing, etc. and it delivers a very reliable, high-quality product which people love.
You must always take into account the problem of scale. Scale! Scale! Scale! is what people underestimate. It's very easy to run a small coffee shop that serves 100 customers. It's a whole nother design challenge to serve good coffee consistently to 1 billion customers. What worked at the scale of 100 does not work at the scale of 1 billion. It's a whole new creature. And we live in a world were business is done in the billions, not in the thousands. If business is not done in the billions, say goodbye to your car, your TV, your house, your phone, your computer, your internet, your video games, your fave TV shows, your GPS, your vacations, your books, etc.

Concept and imagination is made out of being.
1st order reality is being, 2nd order is concept. 2nd order is made out of 1st order, like how a Lego castle is made out of bricks.
You are confusing those two orders.

LOL
Yeah, if you wanna bang hot girls you're gonna have competition. Welcome to the jungle.
You really expect hot girls for free?
You are way too entitled. Attracting hot girls is a lot of work, and it must be that way because hot girls are valuable & rare.
So either lower your standards or up your effort.
I got 400+ rejections before I slept with my first hot girl.

In light of Leo’s recent video on love, I’ve been contemplating what it might mean that reality is Absolute Love and that Absolute Truth and Absolute Love are really identical. During one of my recent meditation sessions, I had an incredibly powerful insight into the nature of this love and wanted to share and hear feedback from the community

What is love? What is actually going on in my direct experience when I experience love? I realized that that 1 common facet about this phenomenon was that love has always been accompanied with an overwhelming acceptance of whatever it is I am loving. That is to say, when I feel love towards someone, or something, there is also a full acceptance of that object necessarily. In other words, it could be said that loving and accepting are two sides to the same coin. When scaling this insight up to the level of Absolute Love, this should mean that there is also a component to Absolute Acceptance.
And this is where things get interesting – First, a bit of philosophical infrastructure: We are reality. I am reality. I am the whole of my subjective experience, while also not really being any of it. Sight, taste, touch, sound, smell, mind, emotions, ego, etc. are all contents appearing within consciousness. Consciousness is aware of an infinite field of distinctions, all of which may be identified or dis-identified with. Both of these perspectives being equally valid and invalid. But even to say this is too much, because all that really is going on is Being. The unified field of phenomena and the empty nothing underlying their existential nature is the essence of Being. I am Being.

What “I” noticed while meditating was that regardless of whether the ego is accepting the present moment or not, Being is always accepting. This is critical to notice – Being is ALWAYS accepting whatever is. While ego may not be able to accept the potential pain and suffering reality can take on (war, rape, murder, torture, etc.), the true I is always accepting whatever arises. In this way, Being is in a constant, harmonious moment of Absolute Acceptance with itself. I am that Being. I am Absolute Acceptance. So even when it feels as though there is resistance to whatever is occurring within consciousness (suffering), this resistance is in fact an illusion; the True I is in total acceptance.

When we can tap into this total, Absolute Acceptance, and open our hearts to understanding the sacred nature of all moments (really one moment), the infinity of form that consciousness takes, then we can understand what Absolute Love really is – a form of divine Acceptance and Being. You are infinite, and Absolute Love; no form can be denied, to deny any potential would be to limit Infinity, limit Acceptance, and limit Love. All pain, all suffering is being Accepted by virtue of the fact that it is Being. You accept all suffering. You love all suffering whether you’re conscious of it or not. It is a total mind fuck.

Key take away:
- Being (aka YOU) accepts all that is by nature of Being's very nature, and full acceptance equals love. You are Absolute Acceptance, you are Absolute Love, which is really Absolute Truth. 

I look forward to exploring this insight further.

You were never a child. You just imagine so.
There are no people here, just you talking to yourself.
That is enlightenement.
You are not fucking real! Anything that assumes you are, is imaginary. Your entire life story is a hallucination. History itself is a hallucination.

I here is a thought.
You are assuming I is real. That's the key mistake.
You are not real!
You ARE the misunderstanding.