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  1. Posted

    3 hours ago, kinesin said:

    @Tim R "Leo can't be held responsible for anything his followers/listeners do, it's 100% up to them." is a cop out.  That may be legally true, but it isn't morally true.  In truth if Leo wants to be a responsible 'teacher' to so many people, his approach will need to change fundamentally.

    He simply isn't careful enough, considering the number of people out there who mistake him for an enlightened holder of absolute truth.  He's far too glib, he gives short superficial answers to questions which deserve far more care.  Just a few days ago I saw him post this, which at the time I called out as irresponsible.  It's a good example of the issue -

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    No, he's not irresponsible. When undergoing a metaphysical discussion we have to talk about life, death, meaning, void, etc.... It's not his responsibility if people misunderstand metaphysics as physics.

    Metaphysics is NOT physics.

    The fact that perceptions are imagined by the True Self does NOT mean that shooting a bullet into your head will make the body lively and happy.

     

    Going beyond life is dangerous. Of course. If you've had glimpses of awakening you should know that you are traveling beyond survival.

     

    Of course I'm sorry for SoonHei, and I want his family to be well and safe.

     

    But leave metaphysics out of the discussion, because that's becoming witch hunting.....

  2. Posted

    3 hours ago, L-H-Z said:

    I'm a 22 saudi girl. I need help with creating a strategy\plan to follow and realize my vision. I've been stuck for so long because I feel discouraged . I don’t want to know what’s the best thing to do in my situation. 

    I've been watching leo's videos since I was 18 I took leo's course\book list and ever since I've been working myself , and I've made good progress so far. However right but I'm facing hard time getting excited, motivated to follow my vision of my life because I feel I won't be able to ,

    also I feel so frustrated because the way I live my life, I basically have to fake myself, wear a mask all time I can't be authentic because if I did I might get killed or a get ostracized and abandoned or even get to prison for example : I’m not a muslim so but I have to pretend to pray \ fast during ramadan etc  andI can't think clearly ,my logical mind prevents me from creating plans and take actions (because of obstacles I’m facing ) most of the time I feel I won't be able to figure it out so why bother trying 

     

    I’ll not share my full vision here, but I'll share the things I need help with:

    I have one more year before I graduate as far as my life purpose\career I don't have any problems I have a plan and I'm working on it.

     I want long term intimate relationship:  

    The obstacle: I have to get married 

    - I don't want to get married 

    - I'd have to find someone that's not muslim and very openminded\conscious which is almost impassible ( there're some but it's hard to find them )  

    -I'd have to go on dates secretly and hide him from my family all the time and it's just add a lot of stress on my life.

    Right now I'm isolated and I don't have friends because the huge gap of consciousness It's so difficult to connected with other people and I always have to wear a mask be careful of what I say\share ,it's possible to find conscious people friends here but they’re so rare and it will require a lot of effort and personally don't want to spend a lot effort on friends , I’m an introvert don't mind being alone but sometimes I need support\someone to talk to during hard times 


    I want live by myself\ move to another country:

     

    I should stay in my parents house until I get married but families are different here ,some are very religious,close minded and some are not and they allow their girls to live move out and live alone ( very rare )  , unfortunately my family are villagers extremely religious, close minded , super low consciousness they're like children, but also dangerous I need to be cautious thats why it's harder to me to do whatever I want even with the new changes that took place recently ( I can travel , drive, my dad has no power on me anymore I can anything without his agreement ) it's impossible they will agree and allow me to move out unless I have a strong reason like work or something they can't even say no to or by force , if I did it by force there will be tough consequences my family's reputation will be affected, there will be a lot of conflicts and I might be abandoned. 

     

    I feel discouraged because I'd have to put extra effort than other people , sometimes I feel so hopeless and  thatI will not ever be able to realize my vision and live my life to the fullest and sometimes I feel I'm so strong for making it this far ,in this environment .. it's really hard :( 

     

    What would you do if you were me ?

    What would be the best\smart thing to do\focus on ? 











     

    You have our support :x

    I'm a man but I feel the injustice you are living as a woman. You have to get the hell out of that nation.

    The best chance comes from academia and studying/applying abroad. Create connections with professors, graduates, and expats from the west. You need to find a peaceful method, possibly through your university and career opportunities. Find a way also to convince your parents that it's the best FOR THEM. You need to be smart and change their mind. But don't expose your intentions. Your country is not ready to understand that you deserve your freedom.

    A lot of the replies up here are good :) 

    You will get out of there. Just keep believing you can do it :)

  3. Posted

    5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    Possible, but not likely.

    And even if you do it, it probably won't be a deep realization.

    The first time it happened to be on a meditation retreat, sober, I realized the divine, but I did not realize I was God. That came much later.

    What's your opinion on Ramana and Shankara stating that knowledge and self inquiry are the direct path to oneness?

    It must be possibile. I've had several realizations of the illusory nature of perceptions and identity with self inquiry. But not god realization. That happened with psychs.

    But nonetheless.... self inquiry is way more powerful than meditation in deconstructing identity.

  4. Posted

    15 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    I elaborated it to Charlie. God is Love and all of its will goes towards creating Love. So even God does not really have free will, although it does but it was all given to Love. In the end you have no control over anything at all, you just surrender to Love.

    What the hell?! Love should be an attribute of the True Self/God. Not the way around. From what I've experienced the Self is one and therefore has the property of Unity/Love/Completeness. And this feature exhibits itself in dualistic reality too. 

    But God is not a servant to love. God acts out of the will of self exploration and self expression. At least that's what is clear to my experience. God is the eternal "sense of existing", while love is just completeness/eternal oneness. :o

  6. Posted

    4 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

    Sadhus are more local and less popular, nonetheless can be just as wise as monks, rishis, munis, gurus etc. 

    Any person who takes up a Hindu spiritual practice is a sadhu. 

    But that doesn't mean they can't be exceptionally gifted, just that they don't have a huge reach because they are mostly local. It's like the most common denomination. 

    For spirituality, I don't think you need education or reach. You have to be a true seeker, a gifted wise person. That in my mind is enough of a qualification. 

    In India there is politics. Spirituality is deeply connected with politics just as religion is connected with politics in America. This makes things more ego based than purpose based. Some gurus are more popular than others because of political affiliation and not because they are true seekers. I would call them spiritual famewhores, especially the ones who are extremely preachy and act like "know it all. " I can't stand them. I would want someone who is more elegant and simple. Yogananda is definitely high on that list. 

     

     

    Thanks for the explanation :) 

    I thought that Hindu spirituality was more disconnected from politics.

    Well, from my personal studies and experiences, Shankara and Ramana seem to be the most outstanding spiritual characters in india, especially because of the incredible depth of metaphysical knowledge they reached. Probably Shankara was the most hardcore one, while most of medieval India was stuck on bhakti and useless rituals, he discovered the importance of removing the ignorance of the ego and focusing on yourself rather than on religion.

    Buddha, as an indian, is also very noteworthy for being the first one to codify and describe nothingness and the void of existence, even before hinduism. Probably he influenced advaita vedanta quite a lot....

  7. Posted

    11 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    @Leo Gura Gurus and Rishis, sadhus in India need the "It" factor. He doesn't have it. He will never reach that level. He is more like a PR stunt guru in my opinion. He does not embody the quality that ancient Saints in India had 

     

    Just my opinion. 

     

    I'm really interested in Hindu spiritual culture, your argument caught my attention :D

    Aren't sadhus generally less wise than hindu monks and rishis? I'm european but I've read that monks and rishis are generally exceptionally educated people, while sadhus are "homeless" gurus, not necessarily intellectuals.

    A lot of great Hindu teachers were monks and high intellectuals; Vivekananda is one good example of a top notch monk trained in metaphysics, languages and also skeptic thinking. Aren't sadhus generally a lot lower-level than that?

    I'm asking since you're indian :)

  8. Posted

    10 hours ago, Breakingthewall said:

    of course they are conscious, but they have no ego. They don't care if you cut them and dry

    Lifeforms have an ego, because ego is a limited imaginary structure inside the Absolute which enables survival of the Form.
    Formless Absolute can experience living in Form with the egoic structure. This can range from a virus/basic cells to a complex human nation with its collective egoic structures. Even viruses have egos, since they try to reproduce and attack other forms to stay "alive".

    :)

  11. Posted

    13 hours ago, Emerald said:

    There was an insight I had a year ago at a medicine work ceremony that the masculine is out of its natural alignment and that this, on an energetic level, is why it's somewhat uncommon to find a man with a fully integrated and healthy masculine side. This was part of the avoidance. It's either a lack of integration/rejection of the masculine side or an overextension into a very limited array of masculine traits that are learned from the outside. 

    That's so accurate. Thanks for pointing it out. 

    This is one of my major concerns when helping other people healing their polarities. And one of my life missions, especially for men. 

    Men are still very incomplete and damaged in their masculine and feminine sides (both). They have been like this for millennia. This is also the cause of female oppression. Since men need to be in touch with their feminine side, but were taught not to... They also oppressed the feminine in women. 

    Nondually speaking, men rejected women in the past, thus also rejecting themselves. This also happens when a woman rejects masculinity in men, thus rejecting herself. 

    Male and female completion/satisfaction is deeply related to the completion of the opposite sex. 

    The healing of humanity is deeply connected to the healing of femininity in men (also their masculinity). It sounds absurd but it's absolutely true. -_-

    Because a complete man sees no difference between men and women. That's also the absolute truth. Deep down there are no female/male polarities, it's just the Absolute appearing as opposites :x

  13. Posted

    4 hours ago, Emerald said:

    I'm not saying these people don't exist here in either of those categories.

    But the overall Shadow attraction point here is 'feeling not enough'. 

    And my wager is that everyone here has that in varying degrees... and I don't exempt myself from that. 

    So, the place you can go to get a look at that underbelly the very most is the "dating/relationship/sexuality" category. And that's because you have a lot of people with that "not enough" feeling, and this section tends to bring out the "not enough" feeling the very most. 

    And PUAs have the same Shadow attraction point. So, there is a lot of that here.  

    It's a collective community Shadow that both communities share.

    Yeah, that's accurate. 

    Of course self help communities attract losers/unsecure people. That's the point of self help. If you're complete you don't need it.

    But at the same time a lot of people here thrive on the long run, including myself and you. I've joined Leo' s teachings years ago while I was full of shadows, and now I'm such a more positive guy who likes good vibes. It's all thanks to this content (the spiritual one). 

    But the newcomers are always going to be hard cases. And that's good because they need to heal and find some helpful resources :)

  15. Posted

    4 hours ago, intotheblack said:

    @soos_mite_ah @Preety_India
    It’s all very stage red/orange dating on this forum. I don’t see the more spiritual men on the forum commenting in this section.  Would be nice if they did though so there would be more mature responses. 

    guys find the older pickup videos on YouTube and it is leading them here until this day. I still see people talking about those types of video, or people recommending them. Or maybe they found the forum through a different video but then found the pickup community here and got attracted to it....And yeah, Leo also interacts with them on the forum and feeds into those world views so they flock to him and take everything that he says as gospel...maybe because he himself still somewhat believes in those views I don’t know.  But he also sends mixed messages by promoting pickup but also promoting consciousness in the other sections of the forum.  Which makes me think Leo is still stage orange with dating. 
     

    Well yes, that's correct in my opinion.

    But it's also important to underline that the general male audience of this community is spiritual and advanced.
    If this forum had a female pickup section it would have a lot of female selfish content as well. Dating and sexuality are survival topics. It's always necessary to remember it.... judging actualized.org from the dating section is ridiculous. Just like judging Teal Swan's work only from her alien-obsessed fans.

    That's it. I will not continue the discussion, since this section of the forum is actually very low awareness :P You can tell by the aggressiveness here :D

  16. Posted · Edited by billiesimon

    6 hours ago, Preety_India said:

    That's why this forum is uniquely geared towards attracting thirsty men and secure women more interested in Self development. 

     

    I beg to differ ^_^ Leo actually tends to attract a lot of spiritual/advaneced self help men. This is not a scammy PUA forum/coaching.

    Actualized.org is generally targeted at advanced self help people. There's no difference based on sex. That's probably your own projection; maybe because you feel you are a woman who's putting a lot of effort into self help (and that's great. I appreciate that.) while men in the forum are not. But the latter part is just a projection. Men in this forum are working hard to change their level of consciousness and help understand society and existence at a very high level.

    It's not a flame reply :) Just a more positive perspective.

  17. Posted

    14 hours ago, Bacher said:

    @Leo Gura I myself have had experiences where I was transformed into a page in a book that some child in a kindergarten sat and flipped through. I have also had experiences where I have become furniture such as a chair, sofa or a bed. It's full blown ego death. Not as serotonergic psychedelic.

    May I ask some questions about it? 

    I've had several experiences with classic psychedelics and even ketamine. And my sense of reality just shifted from dualistic to nondual, but still from the "point of view" of a human.

    But never tried a deliriant psychedelic like this one.

    How did you view and feel the scene? Furniture doesn't have eyes nor sense organs. What kind of visual point of view did you have? From the seat of the chair/sofa? Or from above? What kind of perception senses were active? How can you experience this? 

    And how do you shift from humanness to object-consciousness? Even though I've had nondual experiences, I can't understand the perspective of an inanimate object. 

  18. Posted

    Well, if you had experience of oneness, you would understand. 

    But... You don't even need that. 

    You can notice the nature of science even from a human perspective. Science is just a label, a mental description of a collection of activities and texts and lectures. Science is the same as philosophy, human imagination and mental talk. 

    The material products of science are just gadgets and activities resulted from mental speculation.

    And at the end it is just perception. Even going to the doctor is just perception. Using a computer is just sight and touch. 

  20. Posted

    Just DROP the belief that you need to work hard as hell for centuries to become awake. 

    DROP IT. 

    If you set the clear and absolutely PURE BURNING FIRE DESIRE to awake, you will awaken FAST. 

    The ego's will is the BELOVED WILL OF GOD. I AM THE EGO THEREFORE IF THE EGO WANTS TO AWAKEN I WILL GRANT IT QUICKLY. 

    Just drop that useless belief of pain and suffering. Just follow the burning intention to awaken and it will come fast! 

     

     

    Be like the orange robes of monks. 

    They have a hot desire for awakening. But they also have resistance to awakening, because of dogma and fear of LOSING MEANING. 

    DESIRE TO DIE AND I SHALL GRANT. 

    YOU WILL NOT DISAPPEAR AS FORM, BUT YOU WILL LIVE AS EVERYTHING ON EARTH. 

     

    Sorry for the post, much love ??????

  22. Posted

    6 hours ago, Nahm said:

    @billiesimon

    If I need something, I am recreating the experience of an “I” which “needs”, and that is the lens upon all else. 

    You can’t possibly have something you believe you need. If you already have it, you’re not believing you need it.

    If I want something, and have no need for it, I experience it. 

    You = the present moment. Moment = the present. 

    It’s all quite FUBU. 

    Thanks for the help :)

  23. Posted

    1 hour ago, Nahm said:

    I think if you read this, and then read your op again, you’ll see it’s all Mind in every case.

    Thanks for the very nuanced reply :) I had to read it multiple times to really understand the self deception here.

    I guess that what you're saying is that I have a limiting belief about the hardship of reaching the feeling of oneness "sober".

    Yes, I notice that there's a belief that it's really hard and it needs a lot of work and frustration. But I also realize that for some people it was very spontaneous and natural. So I'm pretty sure that there's a way to naturally let go and feel it in "everyday life" :o

     

    The method? I guess I should also let go of finding a method, otherwise I would revert back to the belief of needing a "powerful tool", like psychs.

    Probably the method is just learning to completely let go of Mind and let reality BE without interference/resistance.

    As Eckhart says, we have to let the present moment totally free to be, for us to become conscious of consciousness itself.

     

    At least that's what feels right for me now :/

  24. Posted

    5 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

    Yeah, first time 1 month ago and after that many times... maybe too many but Is there  some...thing, or no thing, that I can't to see or like that. I have to change the roa, I smoke and it's too fast. It isn't hardcore, in 1 second the mind explode in atoms and it's the void and the no time, and later the mind come back and it's like a software reinstalled, and Maya come back in another second. First time was trauma because I didn't expected that void . After first time with a small dose the no time is, but too short. After the first breakthrough the meditation is different, the void is close the surface

    It seems really powerful! :o

    How long does a smoked trip last? Leo says that plugged ROA is longer lasting.

    You mention the disappearing of Maya. What happens to physical reality when you smoke it? Does everything disappear or do you still perceive the room, the sounds and the senses of normal reality? 

  25. Posted · Edited by billiesimon

    8 hours ago, VeganAwake said:

    @billiesimon ❤

    "Mind contemplated "What is Mind?" for several days and this is what Mind found"

    Yes, that's another way to put it. 

    The contemplation was done by Mind unto itself, but to be more exact it was Consciousness exploring its own facets and features through the ego, or avatar. The avatar is created by the mind, and it is just a costume, a playable character for Consciousness to inquiry about itself.

    Well, the True I is not Mind, it is the One Absolute. When "I" becomes defined by shapes and characteristics, it becomes the False I, the Ego.