tips for being less chaotic? less messy?

[PurpleTree]

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Was always pretty chaotic. In elementary school my desk was always a mess, probably the messiest, couldn't even find stuff in there

Also in every exercise book, in every file on every piece of paper there were countless drawings and writings.

My first apartment was a huge mess. sometimes people visiting me started tiding up my apartment.

In some ways it's much better now like my sleeping room is always good but i'll make a huge mess in 1 minute.

For example i was cooking vegetable soup almost daily for the last three weeks, but the kitchen just becomes a huge mess.

Also with paper work, bills taxes etc. it gets hugely messy in a minute. And then sometimes i pay bills too late or don't find them or whatever.

I kind of like tiding stuff up "sometimes" or even cleaning but it just gets messy again in a minute.

Also i feel like i have too much stuff, i'm annoyed by all this stuff, especially paper stuff but feel i need it or might need it laters for me it probably would be better to live with less stuff like some of the pictures from japanese places i've seen a kind of minimalist lifestyle.

[PurpleTree]

5 minutes ago, Loba said:

@PurpleTree Don't worry about getting it all done at once, start a daily routine and set aside a half an hour to start with, or even fifteen minutes, then an hour after a week to tidy up.  I have attention problems, too, and found keeping a journal on my progress to be very helpful.

https://youtu.be/FSZyzhi8C9o <-- how to program a new habit, you have to hack your dopamine.  Get a treat or something fun for right after to give your brain the reward for doing it.  I found that crossing off or highlighting my progress throughout the day gives me that reward, find what works for you, be it a snack, time online, ect.

Start off small and work your way up.

Don't forget to add meditation.  I suck at it, but still do it, 15 mins each day.

often do have "good resolutions" and changes 

but easily get bored with them after a while and they fizzle out

although i try to keep a meditative lifestyle often-ish

[PurpleTree]

[rounder]

@Michael569 sweet!! I just started reading this because of you. Thanks!

@Loba such good info. I pm’d you but It’s not in my box. Idk if you got it disabled my phones weird 

[Spence94]

I've just started a daily 5 minute minimum clean up and organising habit commitment. Just 5 minutes, that's it. No excuses. 5 minutes every day cleaning and organising.

Sometimes I do a lot more than 5 minutes but it's just bonus, when I'm done i'm done.

Today I literally just swept up for 5 minutes then I stopped cleaning.

There is something very powerful about being clean and orderly and making a simple daily commitment to keep the place clean and organized. 

Edited March 7, 2022 by Spence94

[Aquarius]

Try cleaning up your place twice a day. That could be a good start. Not set to a particular hour or time of the day, but maybe daytime and evening, when you're free.

For me self-help apps helped a lot. It doesn't really matter which one you use, I'm just saying that apps that gamify tasks can be very useful, but only if they are minimalistic enough for you to easily use them. I use Finch to manage most of my self-care habits.

Try to associate the activity with something pleasant, like putting on meditation music or lighting a scented candle or incense stick. 

You could put the paperwork in a drawer or buy a folder for them that you keep in a safe place.

Maybe make a habit that you only rest or work when the room is tidy. But you need motivation for this. You can make it work though.

Make the activity fun, maybe buy a cloth/fabric freshener, so then you look forward to getting your stuff nice and organized and fresh.