I'm doing nofap 2022

[Someone here]

I fapped. Twice this morning. No longer doing nofap 2022 .the new plan is to reduce it to twice a month  

[BirdNerd]

On 3/16/2022 at 9:46 AM, Someone here said:

I fapped. Twice this morning. No longer doing nofap 2022 .the new plan is to reduce it to twice a month  

You made it pretty far. What benefits or drawbacks did you experience while abstaining completely?

[Someone here]

4 hours ago, BirdNerd said:

You made it pretty far. What benefits or drawbacks did you experience while abstaining completely?

More clarity and more energy .

But also sexual frustration. 

[mojsterr]

52 minutes ago, Someone here said:

More clarity and more energy .

But also sexual frustration. 

This is because you are forcing yourself to NOT do something. That means in your mind you will only want it more. What you resist, persists.

So this has to come by itself. That's whyI see no reason forcing yourself to do something you don't really want to do. In your mind you think you want it, but deep down you know you don't really.

When I had my longest streaks of not masturbating it was because something in me just let go of it and I didn't search for it. Mainly because there was something more important in my life then, I had a focus to something which I wanted to achieve and I forgot about masturbation. And when the urge did come I tried to prolong it even further because I wanted to break some internal record, but at that moment I also started thinking about it a lot more. Until I just did it.

 

So the best advice for no fapping would be a strong passion for something else. For example if you really PASSIONATELY wanted to achieve some higher states of being, then you would understand it on a deeper level that masturbation is going to hinder that. You wouldn't have to think or question about it, the need to do it just wouldn't come up.

When the WHY is strong enough, the How is easy.

You just haven't found a strong enough WHY at this time.

 

My passions at those times were different, sometimes it was making music, other times was some other major life goal that I worked for, some totally different area of life. But it consumed my whole being and overshadowed everything else. So I didn't even remember about masturbating. And when I did remember, the need just wasn't there because all of my energy was directed towards my goal.

 

Right now you are just trying to trick yourself, because you know in your mind that no fapping has benefits. But your deeper side still loves it and you're in conflict.

They have to both want it.

 

 

Edit: To me it's like some people going to the gym. They see other people looking great and having muscled bodies and they want to look good like that, too. But the passion is not really there. They just want the same thing as others do, because they were conditioned this is what socieaty wants. So they go to the gym but it doesn't last long and they eventually quit. While the people who are really doing it for themselves, just the thought alone of working out ignites them.

I don't know if this is a good analogy, but I tried.

Edited March 19, 2022 by mojsterr

[Someone here]

@mojsterr thank you for the advice .really helpful ?

[mojsterr]

I think that all (or most) of the people that didn't masturbate and achieved something, it just came to them by itself, they didn't really search for no fapping. Then they told other people what happened and others wanted to recreate it too, but the internal drive was not really there.

Perhaps some people just have a calling for it and they do it because it pulls them there effortlessly. And people who don't are trying to forcibly push there, and should rather find their own calling, which might be totally different. We try to copy others but then forget to live our own lives.

This is just my theory, though. You might still try to overcome this obstacle and you do find the correct way to not fap. Who knows. Don't take my words as gospel. Just ramblings of another soul. One of the possible perspectives on it.

Perhaps you have something other in your life that pulls you to your highest self and you should do that. And perhaps no fapping would help or perhaps it would not.

 

 

 

[lmfao]

Hm, so I see you gave up. On another note Idk what happened but your thread you made about Schopenhauer got deleted. Idc about porn or masturbation specifically though, but I think it's a waste of time to fight urges like this. It might just be because I've started medications and so my system is out of whack, but my libido and orgasms are "bigger" from masturbating more frequently then when I did it only did it once a day. 

But forget about porn, there are bigger fish to fry, like "the will to live" which Schopenhauer does

Here's something to consider about demons which plague us, addictions being an example. Someone might say that your growth lies in fighting them and approaching them. I don't think this is always the case. From the matrixes' point of view, all a demon has to do is pre-occupy your attention and waste your time, regardless of whether you win or lose your battle. Someone spends 10 years struggling to quit alcohol and finally succeeds, but maybe the only thing they've really done is waste 10 years of their life. I know it sounds like such an anti self-improvement mindset I'm dishing out but here you go

For whatever reason I can't quite decide how I feel about life and existence. This constant chasing of things. But back when I was immersing myself in death a lot it made me unhinged and hedonistic in a way I don't like, and I eventually crashed. This isn't very easily understood 

[Michael Jackson]

On 16.3.2022 at 2:46 PM, Someone here said:

I fapped. Twice this morning. No longer doing nofap 2022 .the new plan is to reduce it to twice a month  

@Someone here Twice on one day haha

Don't demonize fapping. It's a natural process, even monkeys do it. Doing it a few times a week is healthy. Your body knows when it's appropriate.