Why do some women get offended when I talk about porn and others don't?

[Hardkill]

So, I've actually been using Wakie for over 4 year nows. In case you guys don't know what Wakie is, it is an app that not only lets strangers (from anywhere around the world) wake you up but also it is a social app for phone calls where you set a topic and get to have a phone call with someone interested in your topic. It also has a message section where you can send DMs to anybody like how you can DM anyone on Instagram. The app additionally allows you to respond via text messages to any topics posted by anyone on there like a message thread. Lastly, there are clubs you can join on there or create your own club where you can have make or participate in voice club calls, share messages in clubs' chats and discuss hot topics with members of the club. I've chatted with all kinds of guys and girls on there over the past 4 years now.

A lot of times, after I politely introduce myself to a new random girl (who is 18 years older or older) on phone calls, DM chats, in clubs, topic threads, etc. I would get right into asking them about porn and pornstars. A lot of them would say me that I asked such a weird random question or say that I made feel uncomfortable or tell me to fuck off and then immediately hang up on me or block me or report me. However, I have had several other girls who didn't at all mind me asking me about porn or pornstar right away. In fact, some of those girls who were okay with it got very sexual with me to the point where we would have phone sex. Also, some girls blocked me when I DM'd them porn pics and links to porn vids, while other girls didn't block me for doing any of that. Some of those girls actually didn't mind watching the porn vids I sent them. There have actually been a couple of girls I talked to on the phone who watched porn with me. What do you guys think about all of this?

[Leo Gura]

The definition of creepy, bro.

[Preety_India]

I don't think it's a good idea to do that. I would definitely be creeped out. I don't want to discuss such things with a stranger.I take liberty on the forum because I believe most folks have good intent here so it's okay for me to let down my guard a bit and joke, but in no way am I going to be comfortable discussing all that with some random dude. I'll just block him. 

[Ook]

The ones who don't mind watching porn with you don't even take you seriously or respect you just like you don't respect those girls. They're probably thinking to themselves: "Well i got nothing better to do today so why don't i watch it with this dumbass guy" 

[Hardkill]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

The definition of creepy, bro.

 

1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

I don't think it's a good idea to do that. I would definitely be creeped out. I don't want to discuss such things with a stranger.I take liberty on the forum because I believe most folks have good intent here so it's okay for me to let down my guard a bit and joke, but in no way am I going to be comfortable discussing all that with some random dude. I'll just block him. 

 

34 minutes ago, Ook said:

The ones who don't mind watching porn with you don't even take you seriously or respect you just like you don't respect those girls. They're probably thinking to themselves: "Well i got nothing better to do today so why don't i watch it with this dumbass guy" 

Okay, I get that this is all sounding very creepy, but a lot of girls actually watch porn and thought that these days people including girls have become a lot more sexually liberated and open to talking about sex and porn. I mean, people are saying that porn is becoming more and more mainstream. Also, isn't porn a form of art? Maybe we just still aren't there yet?

[SamC]

35 minutes ago, Hardkill said:

 

 

Okay, I get that this is all sounding very creepy, but a lot of girls actually watch porn and thought that these days people including girls have become a lot more sexually liberated and open to talking about sex and porn. I mean, people are saying that porn is becoming more and more mainstream. Also, isn't porn a form of art? Maybe we just still aren't there yet?

They can talk about it with guys they know, trust and have fucked. Not with a random guy on a random app as the first question of the day. It's all about context. 

Porn is a super weird opener and topic to talk about with a stranger btw.. Do you even talk about this with your friends lol? I think you try to use porn as a way into a sexual convo, not becuase it is a super facinating topic. And that's probably what the girls that call you a creep sense aswell. They sense your neediness and that you want something from them. Your approach is to take value from them without having to give anything back. You want something valueble and expect to get it for free without giving the girl what she wants in order for her to feel comfortable and want to have that convo with you.

Your approach is backwards.

Edited February 9, 2021 by SamC

[Chew211]

First off, not everyone's into porn. Myself included.

I wouldn't necessarily be turned off if someone were to talk to me about porn, but if that's the first conversation I have with someone, then I might not consider them worthy of my time. (Unless of course the discussion was on how porn influences society). 

What you're doing is polarizing. You get the girl who are into it, and drive those who aren't. And many aren't. But this is an effective filter. 

[Michael569]

2 hours ago, Hardkill said:

I would get right into asking them about porn and pornstars.

and this...ladies and gentlemen....is how to stay single forever

It is not about being offended or not. The signal you are sending is "I am in desperate need of a vagina so I'll skip through the formalities and ask if you are up for a shag"

tune it down bro, actually learn to be gentle, caring and a bit romantic, show some emotional stability, empathy and some non-toxic masculinity first. 

[Leo Gura]

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