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So its all over when you turn 30?!?!

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Lol I saw @UDT comment on this... and I thought I'd give my opinion. And it's just that-- an opinion, we learn "new things" everyday so try to keep an open mind.

For the most part I'm actually quite the optimist-- one of my first business mentors I had who was doing 800k a month only made his first million when he was basically 50. At the time he moved into his parents home too...

But that said one thing about this guy---

He basically was like this turbo car his entire life, and all that happened was he got the right engine put in.

There's a saying-- im not sure whos wisdom it is, but essentially "it's easier to raise a kid right than to fix a broken man".... just a tiny bit harsher way of saying old dogs don't learn new tricks.

The book Happiness Hypothesis cites multiple medical and research studies that suggest that if you don't have A LOT of experiences (including a ton of traumatic) before about age 28.... you pretty much are behind the 8 ball...

Brain chemistry suggests that we learn the most and adapt the most openly between 18-28... its about a decade of neural development.

Once you get to be 29, 30... well you start learning from TRAUMA... as in you don't think about doing anything new, you learn and change moreso in response to events... which is like burning your hand on a stove.

So while your mind is at its most open and adaptable- (18-28) you should be working towards being the person you think you want to be. I honestly never see a scenario where you shouldn't be doing that, but honestly not everyone is blessed with a clear insight about who they want to be in life.

I'll tell you I'm just now starting to get to a point in my life where I'm starting to glideeee over problems... meaning that I have such an amazing heuristic understanding of a lot of different dynamics (personal and job related) that any problems I'm getting hit with now it's just like pssshhhh been there done that. EASY. (don't get cocky though, I also have heuristics for learning and tackling new and challenging problems-- that's all)

So in summary- is it all over when you're 30? No-- not at all, but if it takes 10 yearsish to be the person you always wanted to be that means you'll be 40 before you are that person (for better or worse age is just a number but it should incentivize you to really switch on more)

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Aaaarrrggghhhh, THE END IS NIGH!!! Lmao.

Oh man, I remember what it was like to be in my mid twenties and almost going insane over approaching the dreaded 30 year mark. Now, of course I can only speak from my own experience here - but man, let me tell you something right now: Life starts after 30.

Boy, I felt sooooooo much more grounded and at ease with myself after having jumped the 30 hurdle compared to how I felt during all of my twenties (which doesn't really say much given the fact that I was a complete basket case throughout my twenties, but still!). Looking back now, I can really just laugh about my grotesque anxiety back then. Thirty is still SO fucking young, you have no idea! Now, don't use this as an excuse to piss away your youth on loafing around and playing video games; but then again, my guess is that you wouldn't be a member of this forum if this were your actual five-year plan, lol.

Yeah, I can honestly say that the older I get, the more relaxed I am about my prospects in life. All these ideas about how you need to have "made something of yourself" by this or that age just seem more and more ridiculous to me with every passing year. Right now, my sole focus lies on doing what I enjoy doing - and make no mistake, finding out what exactly it is that you genuinely enjoy doing is difficult enough and takes a lot of trial and error! -; and if I am going to die destitute and penniless, well, then so be it. All that matters in the end is living an authentic life; the rest is just silly noise.

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1 hour ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

Aaaarrrggghhhh, THE END IS NIGH!!! Lmao.

Oh man, I remember what it was like to be in my mid twenties and almost going insane over approaching the dreaded 30 year mark. Now, of course I can only speak from my own experience here - but man, let me tell you something right now: Life starts after 30.

Boy, I felt sooooooo much more grounded and at ease with myself after having jumped the 30 hurdle compared to how I felt during all of my twenties (which doesn't really say much given the fact that I was a complete basket case throughout my twenties, but still!). Looking back now, I can really just laugh about my grotesque anxiety back then. Thirty is still SO fucking young, you have no idea! Now, don't use this as an excuse to piss away your youth on loafing around and playing video games; but then again, my guess is that you wouldn't be a member of this forum if this were your actual five-year plan, lol.

Yeah, I can honestly say that the older I get, the more relaxed I am about my prospects in life. All these ideas about how you need to have "made something of yourself" by this or that age just seem more and more ridiculous to me with every passing year. Right now, my sole focus lies on doing what I enjoy doing - and make no mistake, finding out what exactly it is that you genuinely enjoy doing is difficult enough and takes a lot of trial and error! -; and if I am going to die destitute and penniless, well, then so be it. All that matters in the end is living an authentic life; the rest is just silly noise.

This!


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@PetarKa Great answer, thank you. 

As I was reading it I felt the pressure lift from my shoulders.

I have to work with what I've got!

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@Sombra Awesome, thank you. 

Maybe I need some more life experiences? Good and bad ones? But I won't be making any REALLY silly choices... If Leo has helped me at all its knowing where the traps are. Some are worse than others.

How old are you? What were you doing at my age?

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@Bazooka Jesus Amazing post, thank you. I'm happy that you found what you love doing!

I won't be pissing away the rest of my twenties, although I have pissed away my early twenties. Glad I found actualised.org when I did...

I don't know if I'll ever 'make something of myself'. But I'm not so anxious as I was when I made the original post on this thread. 

Some days I wanna make something of myself and other days I just wanna relax and do nothing... 

LIFE IS FUCKING CRAZY! I don't want it to end...

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