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The Healing Power Of Forgiveness

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The Healing Power of Forgiveness

@Sarah Marie, @egoeimai, @Loreena



This week I've been primarily focused on healing my past and I came up with this really neat technique using forgiveness!   It has been working really well to help me move forward with my life!  I feel such a sense of freedom and liberation!  Many of you on the forum that have been following my posts, and may know me a little more personally, would know that I worked in adult entertainment and was sexually and verbally abused during that time by various people.  When I left the industry- I was drugged, and had a mental break down, and a near death experience.... I was placed in the hospital twice because of this and later received repetitive hypnosis and life coaching sessions to heal from my experiences.  If it wasn't for the hypnosis and life coaching, I probably would not be in any kind of functional state to interact with other people or cope with society.   I've taken my healing several steps further, and have completely let go of the situation, with no regrets!!!  I feel completely free form my past now and can now look at it from a new perspective!  I am so thankful for the changes I've accomplished so far, and I want to inspire others to further their healing and personal development.    Much LOVE, PEACE, and Violet light to you my friends!



My forgiveness technique that worked for me:    What forgiveness techniques have you used that has worked for you?

Step 1:  Forgive the person - whether it be yourself or someone else (do this internally).  - keep it simple and just forgive the individual without trying to think about "HOW" you are going to heal from this. 

My Real Life Example:  Dad I forgive you for verbally abusing me and calling me stupid.  (Yes this really happened to me, and with a lot of self reflection I realized it was one of the contributing factors of why I went into adult entertainment)


Step 2 :  Express Gratitude to the individual.  This is done internally. (Yes I'm perfectly serious with this! This is not a typo).  Give thanks to this person/ or even a particular situation for what they taught you and how you have grown from the experience to become a better person.  

My Real Life Example:  Dad thank you so much for teaching me that I deserve way more love and respect.  Thank you for showing me how I shouldn't be treated by a significant other or anyone else.  My sexuality and self worth is priceless. 


*If you break things down into smaller pieces it will make it easier to let go and forgive. 

My Story:  My dad was verbally abusive and called me stupid.  He was an alcoholic and treated my mom and I like crap.  He threw things when he was drunk and punched holes in the wall.  I went looking for fatherly figures in relationships and because the only thing I knew was abuse from male figures, I continually attracted abusive relationships and friendships.



* Now taking My Story and breaking it up into smaller pieces for forgiveness and gratitude purposes.

- My dad was verbally abusive and called me stupid.

- He treated my mom and I like crap.

- He threw things at me and punched holes in the wall.

- My dad caused me to look for male companionship incorrectly.



*Now I used the forgiveness technique and applied it to the smaller pieces.

-My dad was verbally abusive and called me stupid
step 1: Dad I forgive you for being verbally abusive and calling me stupid
step 2: Dad thank you for showing me that I deserve love and to be treated better.  Thanks for showing me that I shouldn't believe what people always tell me.  I am intelligent and smart.      * optional...but you can take this a step further...and it really help with facilitating healing a lot faster..... And I got good grades in school.  I may not have been smart in the ways you wanted me to be, such as in math or physics or chemistry.  But I was smart, and I am proud of my accomplishments and who I am.   I was an excellent writer, I excelled in art.  I loved health and human anatomy.  I've done a lot of wonderful things in this world.  I have been called wise for my age by various people.    Thank you for giving me this experience because now I am a successful hypnotist and holistic healer.  Because of my experiences I have more compassion for my clients and can better relate to them!  THANK YOU!!


-He treated my mom and I like crap.
step 1: Dad I forgive you for treating my mom and I like crap.
step 2:  Dad thank you for showing me that when I'm in a relationship or when I'm married that I should never under and circumstances be treated this way. Thank you for showing me that I really deserve to be loved and treated with respect.  Thank you for showing me that I can make smarter choices when choosing a romantic partner.   *optional- thank you because of this experience with you, I have taken it upon myself to do extensive research on how to have healthy relationships with other people. I have used this knowledge on myself and to help other people on the actualized.org forum and in my hypnosis practice to help promote healthy relationships.


-He threw things and me and punched holes in the wall.
step 1:  Dad I forgive you for throwing things and me and punching holes in the wall.
step 2: Dad thank you for showing me that there are much healthier ways to deal with anger. I've learned to be quick to listen, slow to speak and to anger.  optional- Anger is a fleeting emotion.  Nothing is ever good or bad in life, except what we give it.  I've learned to control my emotions.  Love is the answer and the most powerful emotion in the universe.  I will work everyday to express love and gratitude to others.   *taking it even further- and looking at it from the other person's perspective and why they were hurt  I understand your pain and why you were angry and how you were treated at work and how upset you were at moving to California and being away from the majority of our extended family.  I forgive you and I understand.  And I have learned that family is important.  I understand that your father treated you like crap too, and this is all you know and understand.  I forgive you and I forgive my grand father.  I understand that my grandfather had no mother and was not shown love from a female figure thus creating this line of abuse.  I forgive you grandfather, I forgive you and I love you and I understand!


- My dad caused me to look for male companionship incorrectly.

step 1: If it is a situation you can forgive the people involved and or you can skip over to what you learned from it in step 2.
step 2:  I learned from this situation that I need to love myself before I love anyone else.  I took the liberty to read books about what a healthy relationship is between a father and a child.  I learned that abuse is never acceptable and that I attract relationships based off of how I feel which can be determined by past experiences.  If I change the way I feel about myself and my experiences I can change the type of people I attract into my life, whether it be friendships or relationships.  I've learned that boundaries are a healthy form of self love and are guidelines to show others how you deserve to be treated.




*I took these steps and reflected on all the people in my life.  I went through every last boyfriend and romantic partner, to people that bullied and made fun of me in school.....and even to every last guy that hurt me physically and sexually in adult entertainment....no matter how hurtful or graphic it was!!!!    This is really important and especially important for people that are sexually abused because it can prevent you from having fulfilling sexual romantic relationships.  If you are into energy and healing you will literally feel a blockage in you "sacral chakra" - the chakra that is closely related to your sexual organs and glands.  You may even have sexual pain!   Such as I did!  If and when you release these fears, and forgive yourself and others, and reflect on what you have learned from your experiences, you will find that satisfaction and relief to move on in your life!! 

I had a lot of personal shame and guilt from my adult entertainment experiences.  Even though there were some positive experiences from working in adult entertainment I repressed them because I thought it was wrong to feel this way!!  I used this technique and this is what I learned.... I learned to be comfortable naked and with my body.  I learned how to be attractive for myself and the opposite sex. It built my confidence and my self esteem.  There were a lot of men that came from broken relationships and were sad, angry and confused.  I learned to listen to them and show them compassion.  I literally played sex therapist and was a huge contributing factor of why I chose my career to help others!     I did this last night, and I literally kid you not!! I felt a release in my sacral chakra.  I felt a warming sensation down there from the balancing of my emotions and forgiveness. I noticed a healthy shift in my sexuality.

@Sarah Marie  I went to see a shaman and had an akashic record done and I found out I had a history of sexual abuse and adult entertainment in multiple past lives. I decided to also forgive and let go of all of my karmic past lives, even though I don't remember any of it.  Yes I really did  forgave my past lives too!  And now I learned my lesson in this life time!  I am an infinite being and I can move on to a higher vibration of love and enlightenment.

  Yes! You can use this on past lives, if you believe in those sorts of things.  You can even use this on beliefs or feelings or situations, even if you don't even know where they came from.  Just forgive yourself and state what you learned from this situation.






 

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I also wanted to share this book that talks about forgiveness:  You Can Heal Your Life   by Louise Hay



RIP- Louise Hay, She just recently passed away a few days before creating this post.

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/louise-hay-passes-away-at-90

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pg 8   All Dis-ease Comes from a State of Unforgiveness

Whenever we are ill, we need to search our hearts to see who is we need to forgive.

The Course in Miracles says that "all dis-ease" comes from a state of forgiveness,"  and that "whenever we are ill, we need to look around to see who is that we need to forgive".

I would to that concept that the very person you find it hardest to forgive is the one YOU NEED TO LET GO OF THE MOST.  Forgiveness means giving up, letting go.  It has nothing to do with condoning behavior.  It's just letting the whole thing go.  We do not have to know HOW to forgive. All we need to do is be WILLING to forgive.  The Universe will take care of the HOWS.

We understand our own pain so well, How hard it is for most of us to understand that THEY, whoever they are we need most to forgive, were also in pain.  We need to understand that they were doing the best they could with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge they had at that time.

When people come to me with a problem, I don't care what it is -- poor health, lack of money, unfulfilling relationships, or stifled creativity -- there is only one thing I ever work on, and that is LOVING THE SELF:

I find that when we really love and accept and APPROVE OF OURSELVES EXACTLY AS WE ARE, then everything in life works.  It's as if little miracles are everywhere.  Our health improves, we attract more money, our relationships become much more fulfilling, and we begin to express ourselves in creatively fulfilling ways.  All this seems to happen without our even trying.

Loving and approving of yourself, creating a space of safety, trusting and deserving and accepting, will create organization in your mind, create more loving relationships in your life, attract a new job and a new and better place to live, and even enable your body weight to normalize.  People who love themselves and their bodies neither abuse themselves nor others.

Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the main keys to positive changes in every area of our lives.

Loving the self, to me, begins with never ever criticizing ourselves for anything.  Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change.  Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it.  Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for many years, and it hasn't worked.  Try approving of yourself and see what happens.

In the infinity of life where I am,
all is perfect, whole and complete,
I believe in the power far greater than I am,
that flows through me every moment of every day.
I open myself to the wisdom within,
knowing that there is only One Intelligence in this Universe.
Out of this One Intelligence comes all the answers,
all the solutions, all the healings, all the new creations,
I trust this Power and Intelligence,
Knowing that whatever I need to know is revealed to me,
and that whatever I need to know is revealed to me,
and that whatever I need comes to me
in the right time, space and sequence.
All is well in my world.

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Thats great 🙌


  1. Only ONE path is true. Rest is noise
  2. God is beauty, rest is Ugly 

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