Women shaming men for being attracted to/dating younger women

[LordFall]

25 minutes ago, Valach said:

You have completely ignored the point.

No, I didn't ignore your point; I'm rejecting the premise behind it. It's setting up a false binary where platonic friendship is treated as the noble goal, while sexual attraction and polarity are downgraded as shallow or hedonistic.

Like I said I think it's an interesting and valuable idea to think about if you truly appreciate this the person you're dating and would hang out with them beyond sex but overall subtracting attraction to test whether a romantic dynamic is valid doesn't hold up to scrutiny. 

Edited 15 hours ago by LordFall

[Never_give_up]

If it is legal then I don't care. Let them shame me. These evil people want to control you by shaming you, I won't do them the favour.

[Ulax]

2 hours ago, LordFall said:

That reaction is a classic tell. When people get aggressively moralistic about what consenting adults choose to do behind closed doors, it’s worth asking a simple question: do you actually have an abundance of high-quality options in your own dating life, or are you just masking your personal scarcity and frustration with righteous outrage?

Shaming people for building unconventional, fulfilling dynamics is usually just a coping mechanism for a mediocre dating market experience.

fr the cope is crazyyyyy

[Jodistrict]

This is a cultural thing.  There are other cultures that don't mak a big deal out of age.  My ex-wife is 20 years younger than me. 

[Lyubov]

yall I can see why you guys scared Emerald off 😭

Edited 13 hours ago by Lyubov

[something_else]

16 hours ago, LordFall said:

Yeah those are fair points, I'm sharing from what I've seen and others will have another experience of life and dating circles. 

I think it depends what type of relationship framework the younger person is interested in. Some people like the two soulmates figuring life together type of story and some others build their life more intentionally to reach the goals they have. I think for a lot of more ambitious younger women dating a more established man will be a more attractive option over a college bro. 

Right, but wanting to date a more established man doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship will be healthy or functional. Obviously, they’re two consenting adults so they’re free to make their own choices. The question is how likely it is to be functional and healthy in the long run.

Take an established 35 year old man specifically seeking out 18 year old girls. Or even flip the genders. Do you really think that’s likely to produce a healthy relationship?

Think Leo DiCaprio’s pattern of dating younger women, then dumping them for the next 18 year old once they reach 25. Many of those women may fit the description you’re giving, but that doesn’t negate the dysfunction caused by such a significant gap in maturity and power.

I’m not saying these relationships can’t work. My point is simply that consent alone doesn’t make a relationship healthy, and such a large age and power imbalance makes a healthy dynamic less likely.