Women shaming men for being attracted to/dating younger women

[Hojo]

@Recursoinominado we need to add mental violence to violence so we can even it out. Woman are mentally violent.

Civilized men have stopped using their violence against woman but woman still use their mental violence towards men freely.

Edited 15 hours ago by Hojo

[Recursoinominado]

11 hours ago, Hojo said:

@Recursoinominado we need to add mental violence to violence so we can even it out. Woman are mentally violent.

Civilized men have stopped using their violence against woman but woman still use their mental violence towards men freely.

Both can practice mental and emotional abuse, but those are women's best weapons in relationships because they are physically weaker; it's an evolutionary adaptation. Women are much more savvy and subtle at manipulating their partners to get what they want, and this can be extremely toxic. At best, this is emotionally/mentally draining; any straight men who have had long-term relationships have experienced this. Of course, this is ignored because men's suffering is usually downplayed; nobody cares.

At the same time, I do agree that physical violence is always worse, so, in comparison, women do get the worst end of the stick here. However, in an unbiased discussion, men's suffering and women's toxic shenanigans would be taken seriously, which they aren't because of bias. We are still in an overcorrection phase in feminism due to women having the shittiest end of the stick since forever. Men will have to take some hits to the chin for a while until this karma is burned through.

[something_else]

16 hours ago, LordFall said:

80 is pretty extreme but I don't see why a man in his 30s and a woman that's 18-21 couldn't have a functional relationship. Why do you think that's close to impossible?

Because a man in his 30s and a girl who is 18 have essentially zero shared life experience upon which to build a functional relationship.

Imagine the 18 year old going to high school or college parties and bringing her 35 year old boyfriend along? Or the 18 year old coming along to weddings with the 35 year old? The typical social lives of these two people is quite incompatible. You would struggle to merge your lives together in a way that is required for a healthy relationship to blossom.

If they wanna fuck and it’s consensual without any fucked up power dynamic? Sure, go for it.

But building a functional relationship with that kind of age gap, where both people are at such fundamentally different parts of their lives? Very hard to make it work.

On top of that it’s pretty likely that the 35 year old trying to date 18 year olds is aiming to abuse the power and development disparity, so there are potentially ethical concerns too.

When you fully enter the adult world around 23-25 it becomes more doable. A 25 year old and a 40-50 year old for example is more doable despite the age difference being larger. It certainly wouldn’t immediately raise red flags purely for the age difference like it would with an 18 year old. Though it obviously is still much more likely to be dysfunctional than a smaller age gap relationship.

[something_else]

12 hours ago, Hojo said:

@Recursoinominado we need to add mental violence to violence so we can even it out. Woman are mentally violent.

Civilized men have stopped using their violence against woman but woman still use their mental violence towards men freely.

Men are emotionally abusive too. It’s not unique to women.

And the rates of physical abuse towards women are still pretty high too.

Edited 2 hours ago by something_else

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, something_else said:

Imagine the 18 year old going to high school or college parties and bringing her 35 year old boyfriend along? Or the 18 year old coming along to weddings with the 35 year old? The typical social lives of these two people is quite incompatible. You would struggle to merge your lives together in a way that is required for a healthy relationship to blossom.

If they wanna fuck and it’s consensual without any fucked up power dynamic? Sure, go for it.

But building a functional relationship with that kind of age gap, where both people are at such fundamentally different parts of their lives? Very hard to make it work.

You think the peak of life at 18 years old is attending college parties? I guess it depends on which city you live in but when I was living in Toronto nightlife was pretty mixed in ages from 19 to 50(legal drinking age in Ontario is 19.) You would see 19-22 year old women in clubs, dinner parties, yachts, fashion events, etc mingling with women and men in their 30s and 40s. 

I think some smaller towns and cities operate with this idea that young adulthood is for idk taking shots and doing keg stands and your 30s are when you go to weddings and plan board games with your grown up friend circles but in big cities that's not what I've seen at all personally. Usually it makes many years to get access to upscale events and circles or a lot of money so dating someone younger lets them experience a fun lifestyle that they wouldn't have access to otherwise; it's not really about being the +1 at boring events. 

[Rafael Thundercat]

Last Date experience was with a 19 yr . I Am 45. So I can affirm that there was some people who got triggered, from her side of friends and from mine. From here side I could see some of the older friends trying to sabotage us. From my side the guys were not commenting a lot since they may not say a thing about something they also wish, a young woman. Overall my lesson in this relationship was that age may affect a lot of the dynamics. Of course there was some maturity clash between me and her. But we were able to have deep conversations. Some I dont even ever had with older woman. 

[Ulax]

There is an epidemic of infantalising women nowadays too.