Relationship Green flags 🌱🏁

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Let's have a wholesome thread. Gimme your earned wisdom! Behavioural signs that are a proxy for good character or trait!

I'll start:

He makes me want to be a better woman. Not because I need his approval or to earn love. Because I genuinely admire him 

Doesnt confuse vulnerability with weakness.

Accepts no with no retaliation.

Doesn't mistake independence for rejection.

Can navigate relational ruptures without throwing out the relationship or abandoning themselves.

I got more, but these are to get us rolling !

Edited 2 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Valach]

Nice thread, thanks for that!

For me it is (in addition to yours):

- Accountibility for their own actions/mistakes

- Desire to understand the other party. Curiosity about what is going on when the other party is becoming emotional or acts out.

- Being able to formulate their emotional needs well without playing games around that.

- General liking of the other gender (not the "I like men/woman because they provide me with validation/stimulation/sex" but truly seeing them for people they are firstly and for their gender as second).

- I am personally not too much into gender roles. So I dislike when people say "men/woman should be like this" (but that is more personal to me). The whole masculinity/femininity is also not my jam.

- Seeing and respecting individuality of the partner, their free will.

- Self esteem, positive view of their bodies and themselves.

Edited 2 hours ago by Valach

[LastThursday]

Nice thread.

She accepts that I'm a different person on different days.

She just enjoys my presence rather than needing something from me.

She doesn't need me to be fixed or saved and vice versa.

We can talk or be silent with each other without feeling neurotic about it.

We let each other know what's on our mind and accept each other's way of seeing things.

We're actually interested in each other.

Edited 1 hour ago by LastThursday

[Olaf]

@Natasha Tori Maru what do you mean by not mistaking independence with rejection? I don't understand

[Rishabh R]

@Natasha Tori Maru If she respects herself ,treats me with respect .

If she is honest/vulnerable in her interactions with me .

She doesn't tries to control ,manipulate me but rather accepts me along with my flaws and all. 

 

[Valach]

22 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Natasha Tori Maru what do you mean by not mistaking independence with rejection? I don't understand

A lot of codependent people will feel rejected when their partner wants to pursue some of his/hers interests on their own.