Staying Clean or Going Fuck Mode As a Man? :)

[SimpleGuy]

I'm 19 man. I've been thinking about either not caring much about my body count and fucking girls whenever I want to or staying pure and having only 1 body count (as I have now) and looking for a 'that' girl that I can have serious relationships with.

Unfortunately, we live in a time when it's quite difficult to find 'wife material' (quality) girl. Most of the women, in my humble opinion, are hoes. And also I live in a town where there are not much of quality girls, so there's only one option how I can have fun with them - fucking the shit out of them and then leaving. Basically situationships.

But at the same time I'll look for a woman who had 0-2 men in her life. And if I would have 20-30 body count and she would have only 1, in example, that would be a hypocrisy as it seems for me.

So I don't know how to solve this conundrum. What would you advice in my situation and what's your point of view on this case?

[Atb210201]

If you go fuck mode you will be no different than the hoes you've described here.

You'll become a hoe yourself as much as a man can be.

I would suggest to you to stay clean as you've said and be patient for that one wife material that you want.

It will be harder but she will come into your life.

You just have to be patient and trust time and also fight your urges in this case.

But the fruit of it will be much more tasteful and eternal.

Edited 14 hours ago by Atb210201

[Heaven]

To attract your future wife, you should be good with women.

Socialize as much as possible. Be the man for that one.

You can’t be the man she wants if you’re virgin.

Learn the game and don’t commit too early as it will probably be a compromise.

It’s like working for your first job for your entire life. How would your life look like?

[LastThursday]

You're young. Go have fun. There's no conundrum, you don't need arbitrary rules and regulations about how to express yourself, just do what comes naturally. Treat every girl you meet as an individual in their own right with their own thoughts, feelings and emotions, rather than as objects to fuck - I know I know, you're 19 and horny. Have integrity and respect and you'll find quality in your relationships.

[Heaven]

Btw this “pure” mindset is coming from religion and you should probably develop yourself to transcend it as well.

[Atb210201]

Wow.

Such temptation whispering with no foresight.

I give up with this forum I guess.

There are too many of you "go have fun and be free and experiment and gain experience" guys here.

I would suggest you don't listen to them and listen to me but the choice is yours in the end.

You can choose sexuality or you can choose love and respect.

If you choose the first one the later are not gonna be in your basket and you would call your relationships "complicated".

But if you choose the later the first is also gonna be in your basket but with dignity.

Edited 13 hours ago by Atb210201

[LastThursday]

11 minutes ago, Atb210201 said:

You can choose sexuality or you can choose love and respect.

Or you can choose both.

[Atb210201]

1 minute ago, LastThursday said:

Or you can choose both.

That happens by itself if you choose love and respect as your priority and not being concerned about sexuality that much.

Edited 13 hours ago by Atb210201

[LastThursday]

Sexuality is as natural as love and respect and fun and experimentation. You can have it all none of them contradict each other. None are more important than the other.

But make me understand @Atb210201 why you think love and respect should be a priority above sexuality?

[Atb210201]

11 minutes ago, LastThursday said:

Sexuality is as natural as love and respect and fun and experimentation. You can have it all none of them contradict each other. None are more important than the other.

But make me understand @Atb210201 why you think love and respect should be a priority above sexuality?

Because if you prioritise sexuality above love and respect you'll lose the love and the respect in the process and you won't get them either.

Haven't you tried it?

Edited 12 hours ago by Atb210201

[LastThursday]

Would say @Atb210201 that sexuality is disrespectful or unloving? I agree with your view that sexuality is a process like respecting and loving are.

[Atb210201]

Just now, LastThursday said:

Would say @Atb210201 that sexuality is disrespectful or unloving?

Yes it is if it's just fooling around.

[LastThursday]

3 minutes ago, Atb210201 said:

Yes it is if it's just fooling around.

Do you see fooling around as different from having fun and experimenting? What does fooling around mean to you?

[Atb210201]

Just now, LastThursday said:

Do you see fooling around as different from having fun and experimenting? What does fooling around mean to you?

No they're the same.

You can call it having fun and experimentation but it's the same thing.

Fooling around means having no purpose to it.

It is not meaningful to your existence and doesn't serve your soul's desire.

[LastThursday]

@Atb210201 would you agree that you do an experiment in order to find out something new? Would you agree that humour and feeling good can improve your wellbeing and your attitude to life?

[Atb210201]

10 minutes ago, LastThursday said:

@Atb210201 would you agree that you do an experiment in order to find out something new? Would you agree that humour and feeling good can improve your wellbeing and your attitude to life?

I will say it will only push me further in an inescapable hole of never finding the suitable life partner.

It creates a void that cannot be filled with anyone anymore.

And nothing new comes out of it, it is only a repetition of cuming and satisfying your body with no meaning or depth to it.

Edited 11 hours ago by Atb210201

[integration journey]

19 is the perfect age to go fuck mode and fuck everything mode but don’t take my advice 

[Heaven]

@Atb210201 I’m married with a child so I’m committed as you describe it but I don’t believe that in your adolescence you should do that. 
I did both and have zero regrets.

I only suggest from my personal experience 

[Atb210201]

22 minutes ago, Heaven said:

@Atb210201 I’m married with a child so I’m committed as you describe it but I don’t believe that in your adolescence you should do that. 
I did both and have zero regrets.

I only suggest from my personal experience 

I'm sorry.

I got no comment about the things you just said.

[Willie]

I didn’t fuck around at 19, and I regret it.