Authenticity (psychology): Underrated, Overrated?

[Joshe]

Prediction is control/safety.

Safety → control → prediction → legibility → curiosity

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[Natasha Tori Maru]

5 minutes ago, Joshe said:

Prediction is control/safety.

Safety → control → prediction → legibility → curiosity

😂

The survival brain! Ambiguity is not appreciated from the lymbric brains perspective.

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I'm very interested in this, but it's also very complex. 

Yes. Huge topic. 

[Rafael Thundercat]

U@Natasha Tori Maru

Drop this here, only because I like to make connections

 

Fear of abandonment.

Doesn't just show up in our relationships.

It shows up in our bodies and it can become dis-ease.

 this is how I see fear of abandonment quietly shaping our health.

In early life, being abandoned by our caregivers actually threatens our survival.

Therefore, love equates to safety.

So we do what we need to, to preserve love. We repress the parts of ourselves we perceive as unlovable. However, this is often a misunderstanding. Sometimes a caregiver withdraws for reasons that have nothing to do with us — but a child's experience is not rational. It's direct.

We sacrifice authenticity to preserve love. The nervous system never forgets this.

We become adults that are terrified to be authentic because deep in the roots of our experience is the misunderstanding that authenticity may lead to abandonment.

And while the mind knows that abandonment does not threaten our survival, the inner child does not.

The inner child lives on in the spiritual quadrant of health — where past, present and future are all happening now.

And when we feel as if love may be taken away, the nervous system sounds the alarm. The endocrine system translates that inner child's memory into chemistry — and our fear of abandonment enters the physical quadrant of our health.

Unlike the spiritual quadrant, which is timeless, the physical quadrant is present.

So that inner child's confusion about what she needs to do to stay safe shows up in the body.

The body responds to the wound years — sometimes decades — after the original injury.

The immune system, the adrenals, the gut and the skin do what they need to do to protect that inner child.

And this is why fear of abandonment often presents as autoimmunity, allergies, adrenal fatigue, food sensitivities, weight retention, disordered eating, and skin issues.

This is how the wounds of the past shape the present.

This is how the wound of the root chakra quietly shapes your health.