Unrealistic expectations about women

[TheGod]

Nothing can be compared to God. Career, life purpose, friends, success, etc. are good things only in very deliberate moderation. Recently, I was able to deconstruct the illusionary source of fulfilment and happiness – relationship and women.

 You see, most of my life I never had that much success with women and only a few long-term relationships. When, I moved to Canada 5 years ago from Eastern-Europe I started doing some approaches but never had any luck, moreover, I felt like I just couldn’t connect with most of the women there due to significant cultural differences. Anyways, I clearly remember years back when I was doing 5MeO-DMT I would always come back from breakthroughs thinking that I need to go back and work on my dating life because it was perceived as very important.  I remember one day in November 2023, I had another breakthrough experience and as a background I had this regret that I was awake but I lost my opportunity to meet new women. So, I made a plan. I realized that I need to move to Spain, because I wanted to know if I was the problem or maybe the women in Canada were not my cup of tea and neither was I theirs.

I moved to Spain in July and since I had learned the language, I was able to start building my social life from scratch right away. Including the game. I was happy to learn that I had been right about Canada in terms of women, because I was able to connect with women here in a very authentic, warm, and playful way. Same me but different results. So just as a side note, guys, some of you who never lived outside of your country you will be very surprised how different women are geographically. Don’t underestimate the significance of culture and society. Women are way more influenced by it because of their nature and survival needs.

But I was also wrong about the other thing: thinking that sex and women will bring fulfilment. I did meet some beautiful women here; I had some sex and I went on more dates in 1 month then in 5 years in Canada. Do I feel more fulfilled? Of course not. Do I feel happier? Not really. This was rather a painful realization because I spent years working out this plan and eventually the juice isn’t worse the squeeze. I’m not blaming women for not living up to my expectations of fulfilment because I had unrealistic expectations and I am talking all responsibility for it. Women are not here to satisfy me, it’s a delusion that I had, neither they are capable of doing so. It was a very bitter pill to swallow provided that I spent so much time and effort to get there. On the other hand, I am happy I did it because otherwise I would be still living in the delusion.

It was the last hope for happiness and it was deconstructed. Now, I can go back to waking up to my God’s nature and work my ass off spiritually. I’m very happy I learned the lesson, even though, it was painful.

[something_else]

Sex is comparable to money. If you don’t have it, you’ll probably be pretty miserable. But it won’t ultimately fulfil you.

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, something_else said:

Sex is comparable to money. If you don’t have it, you’ll probably be pretty miserable. But it won’t ultimately fulfil you.

You probably didn't have enough sex to compare its value with money. You won't die if you don't have sex but if you don't have money to buy food you will be dead quickly. 

[something_else]

16 minutes ago, TheGod said:

You probably didn't have enough sex to compare its value with money. You won't die if you don't have sex but if you don't have money to buy food you will be dead quickly. 

I didn't say it was an exact comparison, just that there are similarities.

[TheGod]

4 minutes ago, something_else said:

I didn't say it was an exact comparison, just that there are similarities.

Yes, you are correct there are similarities for sure. 

[CARDOZZO]

Sex and money are important until it is not.

They add to the beauty of life. 

[LordFall]

I find it most fulfilling to combine my sex and dating life with my life purpose. When hot girls come to my events or they help me to shoot content/ads, it feels like we're taking on the world together and is much more fun than just dating girls that are completely separate from your life or having a string of one night stands. 

You're right about Canadian women, it's tough to date out here if your social skills and your social circle game is not on point! People are guarded with their energy and time and can be friendly up front to strangers but getting a friend group or dating life built around it is harder. I hear Europe is much more inclusive when it comes to that. What city did you live in Canada? Depending on the one it can be easier or harder.

I've lived in Calgary, Toronto, Kelowna and now Montreal and they each have their upsides and downsides when it comes to dating.  

Edited 2 hours ago by LordFall

[Schizophonia]

While I was nauseous, confused, and drooling on my bed lol 5-MeO-DMT told me to go party and have fun in socialisation in general.

 

[Schizophonia]

Sex cannot bring happiness because our lives are not meant to revolve around it; we are more evolved creatures with more complex needs such as social interaction and various hobbies.

To get girls you need at least some level of social status (if you're homeless and friendless it’s going to be tough lol), you have to approach them, avoid coming across while vibrating lack, and if possible be physically attractive; let’s be honest while anything is possible looks are a major factor which is why I’m not opposed to cosmetic surgery.

The girls you are compatible with depend on the way you were conditioned to be powerful, to be "phallic" as Lacan would put it.
So if you were conditioned to be strong through stoicism and introversion, you will face difficulties trying to woo a highly extroverted girl, and vice versa.