Doing Day Game in Small City is Demoralizing

[Valach]

33 minutes ago, BlessedLion said:

Come to Bali it's literally over flooded with beautiful women, i don't even react or look twice anymore 

Been there about a month ago. I can confirm that it was packed with beautiful woman.

Edited yesterday at 01:29 PM by Valach

[Valach]

1 hour ago, Zenterus said:

@Valach Your argument has no foundation. 

You went from using the pain that women feel from guys not texting them to now moralizing about the ethics and integrity behind flirting with a girl you're not attracted to, after your initial point fell flat.

How so? I am still standing behind both things. Do not lie to people - it is not good for you and it can hurt them. Obviously these are my subjective values, everyone is free to develop their own.

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And yes, you might live in a city where there are many attractive women concentrated in a small area -- or you just have low standards -- but that's not most guy's situation.

Yeah. I've heard Prague is one of the best in Europe from couple of foreign PUAs whom I met here. I would not say my standards are low - but again, that is a subjective thing. 

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Additionally, not many guys have an hour to walk around and prowl the streets for girls. People have lives.

They do not have an hour to walk around and talk to woman they actually might want to date or take things further, yet they should spend their time flirting with woman they do not like? How does that make any sense? Finding a good partner requires some effort and time investment, we both know that.

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There's nothing wrong with approaching a girl and flirting with her just for the sake of it. In fact, its win win, in my opinion. I cant tell you how many times I approached a woman and had her thank me for flattering her with my attention because she was having a bad day or whatever.

Same thing happened to me and it is always heartwarming. But that usually happened when they saw me being authentic and truthful.  Usually me talking to woman I wanted to meet, yet they were taken or something like that. Woman are the best lie detector there is, they will see through your dishonesty. Specially if they are healthy.

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Flirting with women is a skill that requires a lot of practise if you're a newbie. 

Applying your logic to the financial aspect would be like telling a man who has no skills or education not to apply to minimum wage jobs and only apply to the jobs he really wants (lawyer, doctor, etc). How's that gonna work out for him?

And that is precisely my issue with the whole pickup stuff. This is objectifying of woman. Comparing them to jobs. As if you need to climb them up like in some corporate ladder. Meeting people or finding a partner is not some hard skill like engineering/finance. This is an innergame issue - it is about a relationship you have towards yourself.

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You have to start somewhere. 

And this is not me attacking you btw, bro. But you're just wrong.

I am not attacking you or @Miguel1 either. I have a lot of respect for both of you and I enjoy reading the stuff your write on here. But I still stand behind my point. Everything is subjective of course. But in my opinion - being dishonest is already setting up a foundation into learning the bad type of social skills you want. It is externally focused - Instead of asking yourself "How do I express myself truthfully" you ask yourself "How do I win this person over".

 

Exposure is important. Social practice is important. Therapy is important. But there are many ways to practice that don't require pretending attraction. Talk to strangers. Make friends. Practice conversations. Practice humor. Practice confidence. Then reserve expressions of romantic interest for women you're actually interested in.

 

PS: Sorry, I had much longer response but it did not get sent for some reason

Edited 23 hours ago by Valach

[Schizophonia]

You go in a city in Georgia and what you think about is doing pick up 😸

Edited 2 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

It's at least as “easy” in a small town as in a large one.

[Valach]

10 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

It's at least as “easy” in a small town as in a large one.

Well you kind of need more people to have a better chance of meeting someone you like. Big cities have this advantage over some small town.

[Leo Gura]

Yes, of course. Move to a big city with more girls.

Also, try night game first. Day game only works in very specific cities and locations. Most American cities do not have worthwhile day game. It is rare to have beautiful women walking around during the day. That only happens in specific places. You could stand for 3 hours at a grocery store and not find one woman worth approaching.

Rule #0 of pickup: Go where the hot women go.

Edited 1 hour ago by Leo Gura