Are You Aligned In Life?

[Someone here]

8 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

This is too black and white. There are plenty of intelligent women out there. And again, I don’t expect a hardcore philosopher and an intellect. I am not necessarily one myself.

Also, my own brain is wired differently. I am wired for depth. Having a ”shallow” minded relationship is not very fulfilling for me.

Plenty of spiritual female public figures out there, so it would make sense that offline there is even more. But it’s still a minority, and hard to find them, especially if you look for them in clubs lol.

I guess it just comes down to preferences. 😂 Personally I don’t need “depth” from a girlfriend .I want a certified bimbo lol. That’s way more my vibe.

If you’re looking to date a hot public intellectual  though  you’ve gotta accept you’re hunting for a unicorn. Someone who’s exceptionally smart and exceptionally attractive? That’s a pretty rare combo.

 

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[aurum]

37 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

Do I sense that you want me to ask you further questions? Or am I reading you wrong?

Yes, getting a girl to fall into my ”normie” frame is easy. What’s much harder is to get her to following me in spirituality, and anyway, that would be getting close to cult practices.

No, you don't have to ask me questions. I was mostly just curious.

I am working a project right now that is focused on teaching Tier 2 masculinity & relationships. So it's useful for me to see kind of problems guys are struggling with. And I think our perspectives slightly diverge here.

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[Miguel1]

29 minutes ago, Someone here said:

I guess it just comes down to preferences. 😂 Personally I don’t need “depth” from a girlfriend .I want a certified bimbo lol. That’s way more my vibe.

If you’re looking to date a hot public intellectual  though  you’ve gotta accept you’re hunting for a unicorn. Someone who’s exceptionally smart and exceptionally attractive? That’s a pretty rare combo.

 

We are all different, eh?

And yes, after 50k approaches, I acknowledge I am looking for something super rare. Hence the internal struggle.

But they do exist. Imagine a young Teal Swan. Now, you won’t find them in clubs. That’s for sure 

[Miguel1]

23 minutes ago, aurum said:

No, you don't have to ask me questions. I was mostly just curious.

I am working a project right now that is focused on teaching Tier 2 masculinity & relationships. So it's useful for me to see kind of problems guys are struggling with. And I think our perspectives slightly diverge here.

Got it. Feel free to explore my mind and situation further. We can also hop on a call if you want.

I think we chatted once a few years ago!

[Someone here]

57 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

We are all different, eh?

And yes, after 50k approaches, I acknowledge I am looking for something super rare. Hence the internal struggle.

But they do exist. Imagine a young Teal Swan. Now, you won’t find them in clubs. That’s for sure 

Yes but after 50k approaches you must have slept with hundreds of girls from all flavors..but you are still not quite finding “the one”? I’m honestly just checking the thread now..sorry if I’m not understanding the context . You are saying you are disillusioned by this whole lifestyle and you want to rise above it ? Or do you want to lock one girl down and commit to a serious relationship with one girl but so far no one matches the quality and personality type you’re interested in ?   In any case in this field precisely you are more experienced honestly ..but I don’t think if you are a serious guy about this stuff and you actually pull girls from clubs everyday and every night and you teach it also and you have approached 50,000 girl and you are still disappointed. Maybe it’s time to rise above it . I don’t know. I’m not above it . I’m actively looking for a wife actually through social circle. So yes I difffer from you here .

[Miguel1]

26 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Yes but after 50k approaches you must have slept with hundreds of girls from all flavors..but you are still not quite finding “the one”? I’m honestly just checking the thread now..sorry if I’m not understanding the context . You are saying you are disillusioned by this whole lifestyle and you want to rise above it ? Or do you want to lock one girl down and commit to a serious relationship with one girl but so far no one matches the quality and personality type you’re interested in ?   In any case in this field precisely you are more experienced honestly ..but I don’t think if you are a serious guy about this stuff and you actually pull girls from clubs everyday and every night and you teach it also and you have approached 50,000 girl and you are still disappointed. Maybe it’s time to rise above it . I don’t know. I’m not above it . I’m actively looking for a wife actually through social circle. So yes I difffer from you here .

Your text is not the easiest to read.

So what I struggle with is that I am wired for human intimacy. But I am also wired for depth and truth.

And the underline issue is that I can’t find a person I am both sexually attracted to, but also emotionally, psychologically, spiritually — because I also crave depth in intimacy.

What makes it trickier is that I am fairly young, and I am used to dating really youthful and beautiful girls.

These girls are not the most deep people internally, because they never had to work on themselves.

I’m sure I would find more mature and conscious people in the opposite part of the spectrum.

Hope this cleared out your confusion.

[UnbornTao]

 

[Someone here]

9 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

Your text is not the easiest to read.

So what I struggle with is that I am wired for human intimacy. But I am also wired for depth and truth.

And the underline issue is that I can’t find a person I am both sexually attracted to, but also emotionally, psychologically, spiritually — because I also crave depth in intimacy.

What makes it trickier is that I am fairly young, and I am used to dating really youthful and beautiful girls.

These girls are not the most deep people internally, because they never had to work on themselves.

I’m sure I would find more mature and conscious people in the opposite part of the spectrum.

Hope this cleared out your confusion.

Yes it did . So you are looking for a sexy nerd ? You can find her today if you want .

[Sugarcoat]

9 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

 

Preeeeachh

[Miguel1]

Watch this at 1.5x speed guys. It came out at the right time.

But imagine the gap to be way bigger as we are talking about real spiritual connection.

 

[Miguel1]

11 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Yes it did . So you are looking for a sexy nerd ? You can find her today if you want .

It’s not sexy nerd. There are plenty, yes.

It’s sexy witch that is the issue.

[Someone here]

you want a girl that is both beautiful and spiritually mature and shares your values and interests . Find her(!)

[Miguel1]

8 minutes ago, Someone here said:

you want a girl that is both beautiful and spiritually mature and shares your values and interests . Find her(!)

Brother. I am burned out from looking for her, that’s why this thread.

[Someone here]

13 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

Brother. I am burned out from looking for her, that’s why this thread.

She’s not here .

[bazera]

@Miguel1 Can't sexy nerd become a sexy witch under your guidance? 

Have you considered an openminded girl who isn't much into spiritual stuff but you introduce her into it? Won't that work to some degree?

Of course she has to have the openness for that and be interested in deeper aspects of reality than just pure material goals, and I think that's what you're referring to as being rare.

[Miguel1]

2 minutes ago, bazera said:

@Miguel1 Can't sexy nerd become a sexy witch under your guidance? 

Have you considered an openminded girl who isn't much into spiritual stuff but you introduce her into it? Won't that work to some degree?

Of course she has to have the openness for that and be interested in deeper aspects of reality than just pure material goals, and I think that's what you're referring to as being rare.

I did that with my ex girlfriend, ended up wasting years of my life. She became interested in it, for me, but when it was actually time to put things into action, there was a ton of resistance. And of course, sunk cost fallacy from both ends. So it just turned toxic. I learned so many painful lessons.

This is an area where we need to be very careful because a girl will do a lot of things for you, when she likes you, and loves you. Doesn’t mean she actually values them.

Also, having a teacher-student relationship in a romantic relationship is not healthy, due to the imbalance in power.

Finally, this work takes years and decades. You don’t just take someone under your wings, hoping they will grow to your level in any decent time, that it would be worth it.

[bazera]

@Miguel1 Yeah, all fair points.

The sad part is that it's hard enough to meet a conscious individual in general, who is really interested in things you seek, a man or a woman, let alone a sexy woman plus all that. 

And there's other types of compatibilities that need to be matched for long-term relationship to work.

If you had to compromise on some qualities in a woman, what would you be willing to compromise on?

[Miguel1]

7 minutes ago, bazera said:

@Miguel1 Yeah, all fair points.

The sad part is that it's hard enough to meet a conscious individual in general, who is really interested in things you seek, a man or a woman, let alone a sexy woman plus all that. 

And there's other types of compatibilities that need to be matched for long-term relationship to work.

If you had to compromise on some qualities in a woman, what would you be willing to compromise on?

Exactly! And communicating this here vulnerably, I got accused of too many bad things I lost count 

Now she definitely doesn’t need to be a ”9” or a ”10”. I think I would be fully satisfied with an ”8”. The youth is the bigger problem, I would prefer her to be on the younger side as I am fairly young still, and when she loses her looks after I already love her deeply, then it won’t matter.

She also doesn’t need to be hardcore intellectual or philosopher by any means. But openminded to explore metaphysics, consciousness, Truth, the nature of reality, Love — wow this would be sexy.

Our life purposes doesn’t definitely need to match, but it would be lovely if it’s fairly similar, as then we could discuss it too.

Is it even possible to have this kind of an intimate relationship? Or would it lack polarity too much? Why would 2 integrated beings need polarities so much?

I guess the main things I am looking for is divine levels of Integrity, Empathy and Love.