31 and never had a girlfriend. Getting into game again.

[Zen LaCroix]

I’ve known about game for many years and I’ve dabbled in it on and off and had a few experiences but always quit because I was too weak to take the pain

I’ve done lots of trauma release which has been helpful for me an I’m getting back into the game now. However, I have wasted my entire 20’s being sexually inexperienced, with few friends and never having had a girlfriend. 

I know I have to use this to fuel me to go harder.I’m not trying to be a victim here. This was my own doing by my own laziness and my choices to be weak and not approach. However, if any of you guys have been in this position, how did you get over this feeling of being behind in your 30s? I know logically I have to accept it. I never got to experience that high school or earlier twenties puppy love. I’m expected at my age to have had experiences.

Does that feeling of being behind ever go away? 

Did you make up for it?

How did you navigate the expectation of being experienced at your age?

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aaXcwqRZHfk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfRf_H-Aako

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ctmaFx0iPIQ

 

Edited 5 hours ago by Raze

[LordFall]

Worry about systems, the feelings of inadequacy will go away once you kick your winner effect back in. 

If you're in a big city I would look at resources like game global to find wingmen in your local city. I would then go out to cold approach daygame/night game at least once a week ideally 2-3 times. It helps so much to go out with people that know what they're doing and getting laid. I assume your friends are also incels or in relationships already and don't pickup women regularly but when you talk and chill with a dude getting food for an hour and then he picks up a girl and gets laid that night right in front of you; it'll demystify the process and you'll start to feel like it's not that complicated and you can do it too.

I would write an at least one page journaling your feelings about this and why you haven't gotten a girlfriend in your life, what you've been doing instead and what you see your other peers doing. Send that to an AI of your choice and have it level with you.

Get on dating apps as well. At the start you won't get many matches, go out with your friends and get better pictures. Watch a few videos on it on Youtube. Hire a professional photographer.

Change your life from being the passive observer to the action taker and you'll probably get a GF in 2-3 months.