I easily get into fights with people who trigger me

[Osaid]

Yeah men just have the "bully" genetics and women have the "being a perfect saint" genetics. That's the only reason why this woman wouldn't agree with me. Thread solved.

That's the only possible way to explain why I can't stop beating people up. I mean it sounds scientific enough cause I said genetics a bunch. ¯\(ツ)/¯

Edited Monday at 09:49 PM by Osaid

[UnbornTao]

There's a discussion going on in this thread about anger:

Also, fuck you.

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That said, why do you get angry? How do you see people and situations such that the end result is one of feeling angry? (Not that anger is good or bad, mind you.)

Also, besides suppressing it or enacting it, can you feel it without acting it out?

Obviously it seems convincing to us that, especially with our more volatile emotions, others or "the world" are at fault, and we're just simply reacting - as victims to the stimulus. This might not be entirely true, even though we may strongly believe this is the case.

Edited Monday at 10:41 PM by UnbornTao

[Natasha Tori Maru]

12 hours ago, Someone here said:

Obviously it has . If not the main factor then it plays a part no matter how trivial it is . I don’t see women bullying other women on the street .

Again, this is a belief uninspected.

[Jordan of the Shire]

Have time by yourself? Use a simply object as a practice. Start with something that causes no anger. Like a cup. Practice with the cup for a few days for like 5 minutes. Observe the cup and what your relationship to it is. Practice releasing your eyes in relationship to it. Work with objects that trigger no anger. When anger does arise, don't identify with it. If you are aware of anger, is anger aware of you? | It can't be, so it is not self. It is not you, it does not belong to you, it is not yours. So let it go.

 

This isn't the same as, well I can just let anger fly around and burn people and things around me. 

 

What happens in the mind is like writing in sand, it can be washed out. What you act upon is like writing in stone. It is there, much harder to get rid of. 

Realizing something has no inherent self is like writing on water.  

 

See the contraction (anger), know there is space within it (no inherent self, or if that's not apparent, seeing space within the experience or releasing something adjacent to it can work), let go, enjoy (Practice gratitude and appreciation at the first release instead of looking for the next one.)

You're stuck in the *needing others to align with expectations* this causes you to activate the assumptions that other people are responsible for your happiness. Is this true? Investigate that?

 But is it also possible to be happy without condition? Investigate this as well.

Edited Tuesday at 05:33 PM by Jordan of the Shire

[Human Mint]

I wrote you a poem about hurtful emotions:

Oh emotions
unexpected guest
Like a strong wind
You come

Always on the edge
Always hungry
And with the perfect illusion
You prey on me

Oh emotions
You get me drunk
And with the grip of a crab
you start making foes

Oh emotions
Engineer of wars
You captivate the eldest
and the youngest

It is only time
Who shows me your plays
And besides my recognition
You finally let go.

No AI used.

Edited Tuesday at 05:49 PM by Human Mint