Venting about my selfishness and right and wrong

[Spiritual Warrior]

I've gone on two dates with a girl and she is very into me, all I have to do is set up the logistics and this will lead us to an intimate experience with each other. I am NOT looking for something serious right now as I want to date around with multiple women and I also don't see a future with her. I intuit that the right thing to do here is to let her know that I am not looking to turn this into a serious relationship as this is how I would like to be treated if the roles were reversed. The issue with this is if I tell the girl this before sex then I might not get the sex. 

Now you might think that I'm cold and crass for allowing myself to think like this, but I think a vast majority of us men have this exact thought, we are just unaware of it or will not admit it to others. I am doing the opposite, I am highlighting my own selfishness as highly conscious people are built on the foundation of brute honesty and truth, even if and especially if it paints you in a negative light. 

I know what the right thing to do is... the question is... will I actually do it? The fact that I am contemplating this and am not gung ho about it shows to me how selfish and biased I am. I just said that this is what I would want from the girl, yet I'm not going to give her the same courtesy? Double standards at its finest out of pure selfishness. Fuck that - I am going to tell her before having sex with her. This is the highly conscious and truthful way to go about it. 

I want to be a player in order to become an attractive man but I would like to do it in a highly conscious way - I have much to learn but this is a good start. I am going to seduce this woman while being COMPLETELY truthful and honest with her. And if it doesn't work out because of that I can sleep well tonight knowing that I did the right thing. 

Curious as to what ya'll think. Feel free to share opinions. 

[thierry]

14 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

Curious as to what ya'll think. Feel free to share opinions. 

[thierry]

(Sorry it buged)

Glad to see you’re carrying the weight of being good on your shoulders it’ll build your soul

Do whatever you want. If you feel too weak to tell the truth, you can do that. If you feel strong enough to say it, then of course I’d encourage you to.

I was in the same situation 3-4years ago. I sent the woman a short message saying I wasn’t looking for a serious relationship. She replied, ‘no worries :)’. On the next date, we ended up sleeping together. It really depends on the girl. I honestly didn’t expect that myself.

 

[Spiritual Warrior]

8 minutes ago, thierry said:

Do whatever you want. If you feel too weak to tell the truth, you can do that. If you feel strong enough to say it, then of course I’d encourage you to.

Thanks for the reply. I enjoy your flexible view on the matter. We as humans are free to do as we please. There are no cosmic consequences to our actions, or at least not that I'm aware of. 

[Lila9]

Be transparent. You are dating, she may have more serious intentions.

Let her make an informed decision before she sleeps with you. Don’t try to control or manipulate the situation to get your favored outcome. This strips her of her right to make an informed decision. Otherwise, she may get hurt/traumatized. Sex is a very risky, intimate, and vulnerable thing, do it consciously.

There is nothing masculine about sleeping with women by deluding them into thinking that you are serious when you are not. This is low-conscious behavior. 

For your information, we are humans, not objects or toys.

 

[aurum]

5 hours ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

The issue with this is if I tell the girl this before sex then I might not get the sex. 

And?

Just tell her.

[Spiritual Warrior]

2 hours ago, Lila9 said:

There is nothing masculine about sleeping with women by deluding them into thinking that you are serious when you are not. This is low-conscious behavior. 

For your information, we are humans, not objects or toys.

Appreciate the candidness. You're right, this is low conscious behavior - not something that I want to be a part of. 

[Spiritual Warrior]

49 minutes ago, aurum said:

And?

Just tell her.

You right