How important is awareness for you in a sexual partner?

[Jannes]

I just mean having a partner that is conscious. Many people are kind of numbed by life. 

I recently met a girl who seemed so hyper aware in the moment it was quite something. 

I mean it needs to have a significant importance otherwise you could just as well bang a doll. 

[Schizophonia]

Why sexual in particular, what do you mean by awareness.

You go with someone because it's pleasant to be with her/him.

[Hojo]

Someone paying attention is very attractive to me. Like if we are in a loud room and someone verbally needs help with something but you can barely hear it and someone picks up on it and helps them I like that in a person. It means they are paying attention and not mentally ill.

Edited yesterday at 06:44 PM by Hojo

[Jannes]

2 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Why sexual in particular, what do you mean by awareness.

You go with someone because it's pleasant to be with her/him.

As I said I recently met a hyper aware girl and I found her very sexually attractive because of it. 
Was wondering if its just me. 

[Jannes]

54 minutes ago, Hojo said:

Someone paying attention is very attractive to me. Like if we are in a loud room and someone verbally needs help with something but you can barely hear it and someone picks up on it and helps them I like that in a person. It means they are paying attention and not mentally ill.

I dont mean someone nice/ helpful although there can be overlap. I mean someone who is super in the moment, can instantly read and adapt to shifts in mood, isnt held back, doesnt have delay..

Imagine Peter Ralston as a pretty girl. 

[Miguel1]

Do you mean high empathy?

[Schizophonia]

54 minutes ago, Jannes said:

I dont mean someone nice/ helpful although there can be overlap. I mean someone who is super in the moment, can instantly read and adapt to shifts in mood, isnt held back, doesnt have delay..

Imagine Peter Ralston as a pretty girl. 

Preety_Raltson

[Hojo]

@Jannes disgusting. Thats not even what awareness means to me. Awareness means you know what is happening around you at all times. What you are talking about is narcissism. Awareness requires no mask no social games.

Edited yesterday at 09:03 PM by Hojo

[Jannes]

35 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

Do you mean high empathy?

No

I dont even think she was particularily empathetic. 

Just somebody who is really in the moment, high energy, doesnt resist reality, is in a flow state. 

I dont know how to put it, she was kind of a one case study, didnt find the same kind of thing with any other girl. She works at the theatre, but not as an actress. I could imagine she is breathing in the high energy theatre energy regularely though. 

[Jannes]

22 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@Jannes disgusting. Thats not even what awareness means to me. Awareness means you know what is happening around you at all times. What you are talking about is narcissism. Awareness requires no mask no social games.

Its possible that she has narcissism actually.. 

I should have made the thread immediately after the encounter, its been about two weeks now and I didnt witnessed her for so long, but she did leave quite an impression on me evidently.. 

If it is the case that she has narcissism I wonder why I would for one be attracted to that and second not see through it.. 

[aurum]

17 minutes ago, Jannes said:

Just somebody who is really in the moment, high energy, doesnt resist reality, is in a flow state. 

I think you're trying to describe femininity.

That is obviously desirable. 

[Jannes]

3 minutes ago, aurum said:

I think you're trying to describe femininity.

That is obviously desirable. 

No, I hang out with many women regularily. This was something else. 

[Hojo]

@Jannes the narcissit will define themselves as a chameleon. Ask her if she thinks she's a chameleon. Your attracted to it cause they constantly agree with you. If you out a narcissist under the lime light they won't hold a solid position.

I had a woman over she was agreeing with everything I said. We were talking about room colors. I said what about this colour? She was like yes she kept saying yes. I started to name the most random shitty colors she never said no.

I started saying I might diarrhea all over my walls to paint it and she didn't say no. She said whatever you wish. Thats narcissit. Its clearly a terrible idea to shit all over your walls to paint with.

Someone who lies to please others, a chameleon.

Edited 23 hours ago by Hojo

[aurum]

1 hour ago, Jannes said:

No, I hang out with many women regularily. This was something else. 

Women are often not in their feminine. Especially in the modern world. You probably just caught a taste of one that was.

Femininity is an orientation, a way of being. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

From the sounds of the conversation here so far - is 'presence' maybe the more accurate word over 'awareness'?

Being present and in touch with my feeling and perceptions usually places me firmly in the feminine polarity.

[Ramasta9]

Don't look for height in partners, look for depth.

[Jannes]

3 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

From the sounds of the conversation here so far - is 'presence' maybe the more accurate word over 'awareness'?

Being present and in touch with my feeling and perceptions usually places me firmly in the feminine polarity.

That fits well. However she seemed a little more dominant/ in control then the typical feminine. She didnt seem that soft. 

[Jannes]

14 hours ago, aurum said:

Women are often not in their feminine. Especially in the modern world. You probably just caught a taste of one that was.

Femininity is an orientation, a way of being. 

I know, but I am not meeting these women in the workspace. 

[Jannes]

16 hours ago, Hojo said:

@Jannes the narcissit will define themselves as a chameleon. Ask her if she thinks she's a chameleon. Your attracted to it cause they constantly agree with you. If you out a narcissist under the lime light they won't hold a solid position.

I had a woman over she was agreeing with everything I said. We were talking about room colors. I said what about this colour? She was like yes she kept saying yes. I started to name the most random shitty colors she never said no.

I started saying I might diarrhea all over my walls to paint it and she didn't say no. She said whatever you wish. Thats narcissit. Its clearly a terrible idea to shit all over your walls to paint with.

Someone who lies to please others, a chameleon.

No that wasnt it. It was hyper awareness, she noticed everything going on, adapting instantly. Like someone who sees the world in 120 FPS instead of our 60 FPS. 

You are describing high agreeableness. It does overlap with narcissism at the beginning stages but it can also have different reasons, for example she could have been really into you or be afraid of confrontation. 

[Schizophonia]

18 hours ago, Jannes said:

As I said I recently met a hyper aware girl and I found her very sexually attractive because of it. 
Was wondering if its just me. 

Yes but what do you mean by aware