Please Help! Ethical dylemmas when dating

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There is a girl that I kind of like because of her personality, but I am not sure if I will be attracted to her physically as well. 

I have an opportunity to go on a date with her, but I am really afraid that I will realize that I am not attracted to her after all and that I will have to reject her.

Should I still go and treat it as an experiment to see if we click or is it better for me to not go at all if I am not 100% sure that I am attracted to her?

Basically, is it only ethical to go on dates with people who you are 100% certain you are attracted to? I am feeling like this is the case and like I would be mistreating / disrespecting them otherwise.

[Leo Gura]

The point of a first date is to see if you two have chemistry. At least 50% of first date result in nothing. You are not obligated to like her.

However, as a rule, you should always deeply scan a woman up and down immediately upon seeing her and make a binary decision whether she is attractive enough for you to sleep with. And if she isn't then don't try to date her.

Go to a busy mall and just practice quickly making this decision on random women walking by. Practice until you get good at identifying your type of women. Don't approach them, just practice making the yes/no decision quickly.

Edited 7 hours ago by Leo Gura

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1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

However, as a rule, you should always deeply scan a woman up and down immediately upon seeing her and make a binary decision whether she is attractive enough for you to sleep with. And if she isn't then don't try to date her.

This is hard for me to do when I already know someone as a person.

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

The point of a first date is to see if you two have chemistry. At least 50% of first date result in nothing. You are not obligated to like her.

I know I am not obligated but I am really afraid of upsetting and hurting people.

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What I am mean by disrespecting is that: if I am not sure if they are attractive enough for me, then why am I bothering them at all.

Its like I am treating them as a second choice. Like: oh yeah, I am not really attracted to you that much but I guess you will do, I can deal with it.

Who wants to be treated like that? The more I think about it, the more fucked up it sounds.

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12 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Go to a busy mall and just practice quickly making this decision on random women walking by. Practice until you get good at identifying your type of women. Don't approach them, just practice making the yes/no decision quickly.

Okay, thank you.

[Lucasxp64]

I had woman treating me bipolarly about how attracted they were to me. This did hurt my self-esteem very deeply in the past. I'd rather be single than emotionally entangled with someone treating me bipolarly, that damages my psychology like nothing else I experienced.