Anyone who is married here, would you recommend it?

[enchanted]

I've heard some people recommend not getting married due to its many drawbacks such as it being expensive, it ties you down, you can only have sex with one person unless you cheat, you lose half your stuff if it doesn't work out? yet despite this alot people end up getting married anyway. Any advice from married folk here?

Edited Sunday at 11:46 PM by enchanted

[Someone here]

I'm not married but I'm setting it as the main goal. No need to worry about cheating or getting bored from your wife. If you marry the right girl then the honey moon is going to be probably the most wild period in your life . God created each of us like polar opposites of magnetic power..masculine needs feminine in his life so he can calm the fuck down and find a healthy way to manage his testosterone instead of fighting with boys . And the feminine needs a masculine energy in her life to feel safe and secure ..and to achieve her dream of becoming a mother. 

Edited 20 hours ago by Someone here

[Lyubov]

I am getting married in the autumn. It’s the right choice for me in this moment, even amongst all the other desires I have such as sex with other beautiful women. Staying single and chasing women has its perks, putting this energy into a long term relationship also has its perks. It’s always a grass is greener on the other side situation when you starting contemplating what value it brings you. Both scenarios are valid life paths, don’t fret about getting it right or wrong. When I did the single thing, I saw my life as shallow and longed for deeper connection. In an LTR, I create fomo about all the hot bitches I could be slamming and missing the adventurous nature of new passions and new women. Pick your FOMO. For me long term makes more sense for my spiritual growth and long term career plans. I also value family, love her as a person, she’s my best friend, and I generally enjoy being with her. We can only live in the present moment and I believe it’s right for my life to make this choice. Maybe for you, you see yourself benefiting from being open to different women and finding something better each time, I don’t know. Don’t take it too seriously either. I think the most honest relationships take into account that they could end one day due to people growing apart and wanting different things. I’m not naive. The most honest and long term marriages don’t deny this possibility.

Edited 18 hours ago by Lyubov

[Davino]

@Lyubov Hope you have a nice weeding! And an even better marriage

[Lyubov]

31 minutes ago, Davino said:

@Lyubov Hope you have a nice weeding! And an even better marriage

Thanks so much. I got her to agree to a very affordable wedding and a dress she could wear more than once. Because I think we both are starting to realizing this lifestyle that’s sold by society where you need all this expensive stuff and to follow all these traditions actually aren’t great for building a long term marriage. Can save and use that cash to put a down payment on a house, go on an amazing holiday, etc. thanks again for your kind words. 

[Someone here]

@Lyubov 🎊 congrats man . Happy for you .Little bit envying though lol 😂 

[Spiral]

What’s the advantage of marriage as oppose to just being together? Let’s imagine your partner is neutral

 

A fun event? Good sign in business? Religious reasons? Tax benefits?

[Someone here]

2 hours ago, Spiral said:

What’s the advantage of marriage as oppose to just being together? Let’s imagine your partner is neutral

 

A fun event? Good sign in business? Religious reasons? Tax benefits?

Why does marriage exist?  And also "being together"? Why aren't humans running around naked having an open orgy banging each other's on the streets like chimpanzees? 

[Lyubov]

4 hours ago, Someone here said:

@Lyubov 🎊 congrats man . Happy for you .Little bit envying though lol 😂 

Thanks!!!

2 hours ago, Spiral said:

What’s the advantage of marriage as oppose to just being together? Let’s imagine your partner is neutral

Thing is though most partners aren't neutral. Most women won't just "be together with you." They want to get married after some time or walk because it's a waste of their time. Have a child or children, build a family, stability, formal agreements, etc. So if you value those things then you should get married. Just being together is fine but it doesn't always segue into fully committing to something, which is what the decision of marriage brings you into vs just getting your toes wet. Just being together usually doesn't lead to a deeper relationship.