Good Looking but Still Invisible to Women — What Am I Missing?

[czar24]

@ExploringReality

I’ve had this book on Audible forever, just sitting there doing nothing.

Since you mentioned it, I’m thinking it’s time to actually crack it open—not just read it, but turn the concepts into stuff I can do.

I’ve got this AI tool called Kortex that I use as my coach/design assistant/book summary machine. I can feed it the book and get an actual course with homework out of it.

Heard about the book from some YouTube guy teaching visualization. I already do 5–10 minutes every morning as my “future me” who’s already crushed my goals. Not easy making visuals that push me past my current situation, but I still get it done. Ive just been trying it for two weeks. By the way, do you have any experience with visualization? Would love to hear your experience if so.

Thank you Bro

Edited 4 hours ago by czar24

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, ExploringReality said:

Do you think he only wants male perspectives?

Well, he said it twice in his remarks that I've quoted and mentioned and he's not really responding to me and my comments, only yours at this point. It's OK. My comments weren't very flattering in the beginning and i'm a female responding to buff, so I get it. I'll stay in my place. I know when i'm not welcome. Hehe plus it's a macho thing. I can feel it. Irony is he's treating me as if I'm invisible, check out the heading. He doesn't realize it's an identity thing and just because you're not trying to pick me up, you can still learn something from a woman here. You're invisible to women because that's how you see women, like they're invisible. Hope I taught you something through reflection. 

 

 

 

Edited 3 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Hojo]

You are intimidating to a woman. You are probably intimidating to men.

Edited 3 hours ago by Hojo

[Joshe]

Im waffling back and forth on if he’s actually a bot. Lol. Or maybe just opened an account to plug Kortex AI. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Princess Arabia Honestly, this user doesn't welcome female advice/perspective. My questions were not addressed either.

No stress for me - the user has a block to the feminine hence the inability to understand why he cannot understand or attract. Self-admitted too 'I am too logical'. So we are being 'blocked' out - literally!!! HAHA! It always makes me wonder how our (as women) dialogues might change if we had ambiguous names/profile pictures

He probably just wants to know how to get sex only. And will only receive what little he needs to know regarding women from a man's perspective.

Maturity comes with time. 

[Princess Arabia]

8 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Princess Arabia Honestly, this user doesn't welcome female advice/perspective. My questions were not addressed either.

No stress for me - the user has a block to the feminine hence the inability to understand why he cannot understand or attract. Self-admitted too 'I am too logical'. So we are being 'blocked' out - literally!!! HAHA! It always makes me wonder how our (as women) dialogues might change if we had ambiguous names/profile pictures

He probably just wants to know how to get sex only. And will only receive what little he needs to know regarding women from a man's perspective.

Maturity comes with time. 

I don't really get that vibe. Guys know they have to attract the woman first and that's where he seems to be having the problem. I don't think he's even that interested in having sex with women (not calling him gay, just not his priority right now), he just wants to change his personality and lighten up a bit to be able to be playful and not take himself so seriously and have lots of women all over and around him and loosen up a bit so he can feel like a ladies man. That's the vibe I get. Then hoping the sex will come automatically. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Princess Arabia You could be right - I was speculating. It does seem odd female perspectives were ignored though, if you are correct (which you most likely are) as the qualities he is seeking are... feminine

 

 

[Joshe]

5 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

It always makes me wonder how our (as women) dialogues might change if we had ambiguous names/profile pictures

It would definitely change. Lol. I tend to be softer with females. 

I was thinking the other day, I think I’ve gotten more insight from female perspectives here than males, if I were to add it all up.

[Hojo]

@JosheYou have to if you disagree with them you are automatically something evil. If the woman got rid of their pictures you could just make an edgy topic about sexual morality and relationships and the ones that call you something derogatory  for having a discussion are the woman.

Edited 3 hours ago by Hojo

[Joshe]

Just now, Hojo said:

@JosheYou have to if you disagree with them you are automatically something evil.

I don’t think that’s why I do it. I think I just like their nature better. Not as much to prove. Open. Soft, even if not expressed. I like that. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Joshe I have really had my perspective widened wrt men's issues and troubles here. @Princess Arabia has also had some great thoughts regarding the inner carnivore due to her experience. It's a shame her perspective on escorting was being dismissed in the other thread - because her experience was actually personally verified truth. Whereas others were presenting ideas as facts. And this is what this place is all about - truth! Facepalm moment there...

All perspectives are welcome with me !

 

 

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

It's a shame her perspective on escorting was being dismissed in the other thread

It was mostly by a 21yr old virgin which doesn't really count as a dismissal but ignorance. Schizo knows it all on everything. Lol

[Hojo]

@Natasha Tori MaruMen dont verify truth that way. Thats not what truth means to men, if it does to women thats the disconnect. Its similar to princess arabia saying she is right one what women thinks because she is a woman. You are not allowed to do that in conversations. If that was the case you would just have to surrender to whatever identity aligns with every argument or conversation and they have to automatically win.

 

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[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 minute ago, Hojo said:

@Natasha Tori MaruMen dont verify truth that way. Thats not what truth means to men, if it does to women thats the disconnect.

What are you referring to?

Truth not being verified through experience?

[Hojo]

@Natasha Tori Maru

Its similar to princess arabia saying she is right on what women think, because she is a woman. You are not allowed to do that in conversations. If that was the case you would just have to surrender to whatever identity aligns with every argument or conversation and they have to automatically win.

So every question asked by someone about a woman or dating, only women can reply and have discussion and opinion. Because they are a woman and thats the truthful experience.

This would also have to work reveresed on men, woman cant know anything about men because we are men, and have the truth about it over women.

But she would also argue she knows men more than men.

Edited 2 hours ago by Hojo

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Hojo

All I said was Princess Arabia was speaking from experience - and Schizo was relaying hearsay.

I don't understand where you got all these other statements from. I didn't say anything of the sort.

You have a lot of projection going on.

Edited 2 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Joshe]

29 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

All perspectives are welcome with me !

Yeah, I’m having to learn this. Some perspectives seem so trivial or foolish to me that I dismiss them and even experience agitation from them. But the other night I remembered that I can learn even from those. They show me how I get agitated. I experienced a spiritual opening I hadn’t felt in a long time when I dove into that insight. Not sure if this is coherent but essentially, I saw how to rid myself of cynicism. Something like: 

• The shallow teach you what matters.
• The foolish remind you what not to do.
• The arrogant teach you how to spot fragility.
• The boring teach you where your attention dies.
• The hostile teach you how to stay centered.
• The dishonest teach you how to detect misalignment.
• The needy teach you the pull of validation.
• The clumsy teach you about patience.
• The close-minded teach you how to open further.
• The scattered teach you the value of focus.

Everyone has something to offer. 

Edited 2 hours ago by Joshe

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Joshe Makes total sense and I agree!

Real openness. Openness to being wrong also - I am okay not knowing something as it means I can potentially gain new insight. Constant context shifting. The state of 'not knowing' is primary and fundamental. It is just a shame society actually teaches us that ignorance is such a negative thing and knowledge is to be revered. Judgements that don't serve.

Obviously, one cannot go through life as a nitwit might - knowledge is essential - but the ability to snap back to a state of open not knowing is a HUGE asset.

[Hojo]

@Natasha Tori MaruIts like saying you cant argue or have a differing opinion because she has the truth. Every other persons opinion in that thread is an idea and has no relevance cause its made up. And this is what this place is all about - truth(Anecdotes)!

 Essentially if you have personal experience on situations that are not that thing, then you have no data at all and the personal experience always trumps ideas or data. A man will never take an anecdote as the truth in questions or opinions about life. They will keep an open ear and potentially argue, but to say personal experience trumps objective reality ( the opinions and analysis of others) is not what truth means.

Its like  saying a pimp can never know what its like to be  a prostitute because hes a pimp. Even if the pimp takes 5 dicks at the same time on his off time for free. Simply because the prostitute is exchanging sex for money the prostitute knows what its like to be prostitute because she has life experience as a prostitute.

If another prostitute came in an said the complete opposite which truth would you believe?

38 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Its a shame her perspective on escorting was being dismissed in the other thread - because her experience was actually personally verified truth. Whereas others were presenting ideas as facts. And this is what this place is all about - truth! Facepalm moment there...

 

 

 

Edited 2 hours ago by Hojo

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Hojo You misunderstand.

Where did I ever say no one is allowed to argue?

You are free to argue your hand is attached to your face. I don't mind.

My statement was that experience typically carries more weight.

Edited 2 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru