Is Seeing an Escort an Ethical Choice? Let's Talk Honestly

[Daniel Balan]

@Princess Arabia Wow! You should write a book based on your life experience. It would be a best seller for both men and women.

 

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

@Princess Arabia Wow! You should write a book based on your life experience. It would be a best seller for both men and women.

 

lol, I'd rather write about my cat - professionally anyway. I find that stuff so mundane now, it's like whatever. 

Edited Thursday at 11:02 PM by Princess Arabia

[Daniel Balan]

I don't know about you guys but I personally don't like the idea of having sex with an escort. It is not about the money, I wouldn't want it even if it were for free. 

Sex should be about connection and intimacy with a loved one, not a transaction.

It is bad for both the escort and the man. The escort is mentally abused by selling her body to all sorts of sweaty and filthy dudes. Not to mention that a lot of rednecks come and behave like untammed animals with the escorts. And for men it is bad because they should try to get sex via a genuine partener, paying some stranger to have sex with is the same as paying someone to be your friend. Men should build the skills necessary in order to attract the opposite sex, not pay the opposite sex for sex and company. 

And to married men who do this, this is disgusting. Imagine being a woman that just gave birth or is pregnant or is in her period and can't have sex, and her man is going to fuck escorts instead of being there for his woman. Why even marry a woman if you can't resist few months or weeks while she recovers after giving birth? As I said, disgusting behaviour. I am lucky I wasn't born a woman, because If i were a woman I would probably never date any man ever. Men are despicable creatures, I have yet to meet a man that is not a filthy devil.

 

[Daniel Balan]

However if you are a man that is very inexperienced with women you should by all means go and gain experience with a high quality escort. 

Escorts are a blessing for this world. I truly believe that without escorts the amount of rape cases would be off the charts. 

Escorts are also great for men that have no experience talking to a woman, escorts are great at creating an easy going vibe for men that have anxiety. 

By all means if you feel like you can't get a girlfriend you should start going to escorts so you get acustomed to women. 

The worst thing a man can do is to be a 30 year old virgin. You gotta start somewhere and escorts are great for incels. 

If you are an incel and want to get yourself a girlfriend the first step should be to pay for escorts, after a year or 2 of having sex monthly with escorts you will being to understand how to find yourself a proper girlfriend 

[Princess Arabia]

10 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

Sex should be about connection and intimacy with a loved one, not a transaction.

I respect your views on the matter but just so you realize, and to maybe open your mind a bit, IT'S ALL TRANSACTIONAL. No one loves or wants to be intimate with someone that doesn't provide some need to them on a personal level. Would you go love and be intimate with a rotten teeth, smelly, convicted thief, who just cursed your mom out and raped your little sister. The reason that person became a 'loved one" to begin with was precisely because of transactions. Suited and fitted to the consumer. Please think about that and really understand what's being said here and it's not an excuse to justify adult work - just something to ponder on. Life is a transaction. You are here because YOU are getting some value here, that's a transaction. You want sex with a specific type of person - that's an unspoken transaction with that person. Adult industry just makes the transaction seem more direct.

[Daniel Balan]

3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

I respect your views on the matter but just so you realize, and to maybe open your mind a bit, IT'S ALL TRANSACTIONAL. No one loves or wants to be intimate with someone that doesn't provide some need to them on a personal level. Would you go love and be intimate with a rotten teeth, smelly, convicted thief, who just cursed your mom out and raped your little sister. The reason that person became a 'loved one" to begin with was precisely because of transactions. Suited and fitted to the consumer. Please think about that and really understand what's being said here and it's not an excuse to justify adult work - just something to ponder on. Life is a transaction. You are here because YOU are getting some value here, that's a transaction. You want sex with a specific type of person - that's an unspoken transaction with that person. Adult industry just makes the transaction seem more direct.

Actually no, not for me. I would never have sex with someone for material value. I have sex with my girlfriend because this way I show her my love for her. Not because I want something from her. If she doesn't want to have sex with me I'm ok with that. And I want her not for her tits and ass, but because she is like me, she has the same calmness and serenity in her vibe as I do. It is because our vibes match.

[Princess Arabia]

18 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

However if you are a man that is very inexperienced with women you should by all means go and gain experience with a high quality escort. 

Escorts are a blessing for this world. I truly believe that without escorts the amount of rape cases would be off the charts. 

Escorts are also great for men that have no experience talking to a woman, escorts are great at creating an easy going vibe for men that have anxiety. 

By all means if you feel like you can't get a girlfriend you should start going to escorts so you get acustomed to women. 

The worst thing a man can do is to be a 30 year old virgin. You gotta start somewhere and escorts are great for incels. 

If you are an incel and want to get yourself a girlfriend the first step should be to pay for escorts, after a year or 2 of having sex monthly with escorts you will being to understand how to find yourself a proper girlfriend 

Nice, however your view on the industry is very shallow and is not really what or who typically look to these services. Incels, aren't looking for sex as much as they're looking to FEEL a certain way that an escort cannot provide. What good is it if I feel insecure about myself and then go pay an escort to act as if she loves me. That's a double whammy. Incels are very much aware there are escorts and prostitutes around; most aren't interested, they seek to feel loved and wanted by the opposite sex. A married man has already sowed those oats and has proven to himself that he can get a woman to love him, incels are at that stage. Most men when they're young and at a certain age will swear off prostitutes and escorts but get them older and settled and see if that doesn't change for some. It will, it's just a matter of stages. Not saying all now, but quite a few. Statistics proves this. Look at how lucrative and widespread this business is and in every country and race and gender. 

As for the rape comment, rapists aren't looking for sex, it's about power. Lots of married men are serial rapists.

Edited Thursday at 11:48 PM by Princess Arabia

[Daniel Balan]

Actually before I met my current girlfriend i've had a more hot girlfriend but I left her because I saw that she has a ugly character. I can't stand corrupt characters, I left all my friends because of this. To me character is king. I have astronomical standards when I decide whether I befriend a man, let alone a romantic relationship with a woman.

[Daniel Balan]

3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Nice, however your view on the industry is very shallow and is not really what or who typically look to these services. Incels, aren't looking for sex as much as they're looking to FEEL a certain way that an escort cannot provide. What good is it if I feel insecure about myself and then go pay an escort to act as if she loves me. That's a double whammy. Incels are very much aware there are escorts and prostitutes around; most aren't interested, they seek to feel loved and wanted by the opposite sex. A married man has already sowed those oats and has proven to himself that he can get a woman to love him, incels are at that stage. Most men when they're young and at a certain age will swear off prostitutes and escorts but get them older and settled and see if that doesn't change for some. It will, it's just a matter of stages. Not saying all now, nut quite a few. Statistics proves this. Look at how lucrative and widespread this business is and in every country and race and gender. 

As for the tape comment, rapists aren't looking for sex, it's about power. Lots of married men are serial rapists.

Interesting. My view of the industry is shallow because I've paid only once in my life an escort when I was 17. Now I'm 25. It was a great experience because it made me more confident with women. After that I had no problem getting a girlfriend. That experience made all the shyness I had in regards to women to fade away.

[Princess Arabia]

10 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

but because she is like me, she has the same calmness and serenity in her vibe as I do. It is because our vibes match.

That is transactional. You've just in your sweet little mind buttered it up, made a distinction to suit your pretty little egoic structural make-up. You just gave me reasons why - that's transactional. It's just not using money.

[Princess Arabia]

3 minutes ago, Daniel Balan said:

Interesting. My view of the industry is shallow because I've paid only once in my life an escort when I was 17. Now I'm 25. It was a great experience because it made me more confident with women. After that I had no problem getting a girlfriend. That experience made all the shyness I had in regards to women to fade away.

There you go, you started at the bottom. Many will do a 360 and use escorts after they're done with the dating scene but still crave that feminine touch or whatever it is they crave. 

[Princess Arabia]

@Daniel BalanI mis-used the word shallow; I meant limited.

[Daniel Balan]

1 minute ago, Princess Arabia said:

There you go, you started at the bottom. Many will do a 360 and use escorts after they're done with the dating scene but still crave that feminine touch or whatever it is they crave. 

I never felt the need to go visit escorts again, and if my girlfriend would leave me I would do my best to find another woman, It wouldn't cross my mind to pay an escort. I believe in my capabilities to atttact a woman with my character and behaviour, not my wallet.

[Daniel Balan]

7 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

That is transactional. You've just in your sweet little mind buttered it up, made a distinction to suit your pretty little egoic structural make-up. You just gave me reasons why - that's transactional. It's just not using money.

I don't agree. I don't want nothing from her, I never asked her for anything, not love, not money, no companionship, no nothing. I showed her my appreciation and love for her character and she showed the same to me, without me asking for it. If she stopped loving me I would still love her because I saw in her kind heartedness, which is the most valuable trait a woman can have in my eyes. 

[Daniel Balan]

The thing is, once you don't need anything from your partner, then true love can begin. As long as you are needy and crave from your partner sex, validation, companionship, gifts, money etc you are having a transaction. 

To have a healthy relationship you need to learn to love yourself and be happy with your own companionship. Being needy in any way shape or form leads to devilry and corruption 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Daniel Balan said:

I don't agree. I don't want nothing from her, I never asked her for anything, not love, not money, no companionship, no nothing. I showed her my appreciation and love for her character and she showed the same to me, without me asking for it. If she stopped loving me I would still love her because I saw in her kind heartedness, which is the most valuable trait a woman can have in my eyes. 

You've not understood totally what 'transactional' is. Go contemplate on it. It's all transactional for the person. Adult work is just using money, what you're talking about is a personality type transaction and how that transaction makes you feel and how it's working out for you because she's kind hearted and you called it valuable. You're using words without realizing those words are transactional related as in 'valuable'. It's valuable to you because you're looking for something in return. It's very subtle. Biggest form of self-deception. One trades sexual favors which is valuable and uses money in the exchange which in turn provided a feeling for the one paying that's the transactional part, both got a feeling from it; just swap the fact that you will still love her because she showed kind heartedness a VALUABLE trait, valuable because it's transactional. We are paying for feelings in life whether it's with our money or with our loyalty. It's still a transaction. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Daniel Balan said:

The thing is, once you don't need anything from your partner, then true love can begin. As long as you are needy and crave from your partner sex, validation, companionship, gifts, money etc you are having a transaction. 

To have a healthy relationship you need to learn to love yourself and be happy with your own companionship. Being needy in any way shape or form leads to devilry and corruption 

You've just put conditions on true love. That's transactional, once you don't need anything. Why? Why not if you still need something. Because you have put stipulations on it. Be this way or else it can't be that way. Why can't a person truly love a needy person. How is truly loving a partner without need. You're fooling yourself here. One cannot truly love a person without need or wants. There has to be some form of subject/object relationship and just the fact of seeing someone there to love is already a need and a want. What you're saying sounds all good and fantastical but dissect it down to the very core it's still a transaction. Transaction being made using a different currency. 

Edited Friday at 01:37 AM by Princess Arabia

[Hojo]

You cant have true love with another singular human. Its a lie told to you by hollywood. If you can have true love for another human that means you can have true love for every other human as we are all the same dualities.

You only see old people doing it because their lives are already over and they have come to that conclusion and are living for the other person just to stay alive.

True love is only something God has.

Edited Friday at 01:50 AM by Hojo

[Natasha Tori Maru]

30 minutes ago, Hojo said:

True love is only something God has.

Aren't you God though?

 

[Mathdaddyg]

If ya want to root root, it’s only ethical to a certain perspective of the self. If you don’t care you don’t care , as long as you respect the other person u Gucci.