Femininity & Truth (Parody of Leo's Blogpost)

[Xonas Pitfall]

Note: This is a PARODY of Leo's blog post on Masculinity & Truth https://www.actualized.org/insights/masculinity-and-truth. I am not claiming that this perspective is true; I'm simply pointing out and trying to balance the biases I observed. We must remember that femininity and masculinity are dualities, each with its own survival-based strategies. These strategies offer different access to truth, with their respective advantages and disadvantages. I think Leo’s original post unfairly focused on the advantages of masculinity, so this parody serves to explore the feminine side. I’m NOT trying to promote an anti-men or women-are-superior agenda, this is simply a playful attempt to address and correct biases! Yay!  

Femininity & Truth

The feminine has advantages in pursuing truth over the masculine. This may sound sexist, but here's why it’s the case:

Since men are naturally stronger and bigger, it's easier for them in terms of survival, and therefore much, much easier to fall victim to their ego's desires. "I see! So, since I have the most strength and power, I get the final say. In that case, I'll just do what I want and make my minions serve me!" This approach leaves no room for the ego to grow, let go, or practice love and humility. Why would it? The ego is getting all the satisfaction it could ever crave. Now, the focus shifts to lying, manipulating, and forcing others, whether mentally or physically, to submit. Their ego gets wrapped up in dominance, ownership, pragmatism, and the ability to "bend" the truth to their benefit. We know that the ego is a lustful devil, and if you give it access to its desires, it will take them without a second thought. So, obviously, the gender that has more freedom to indulge in these desires will do so, and we can clearly see this pattern both in history and today.

Eventually, society imposed upon them a role, and their duty became to focus more on survival in the "real world" than women do. They don’t care about truth because, functionally and survival-wise, they must manipulate, control, and change it to ensure their own survival and that of their offspring. Women, on the other hand, are either required to cultivate the virtues of submission and acceptance, qualities that bring them closer to the practices necessary for God-realization, or they are shielded by the protection of their man, with that burden already lifted. This allows them the freedom to focus on higher pursuits: honing intuition, engaging with beauty, children's innocence, and embodying the qualities of a sharing, nurturing, and loving mother. These practices are the foundation of spiritual growth and connection to the divine, as they are rooted in selflessness and an openness to higher, unseen realities.

It’s easier for the feminine to be empathetic, mirror goodness, love, and not get so wrapped up in their own agenda. This is critical for actual truth and God realization, which is in direct opposition to the materialistic reality and egoistic behavior. Truth must be prioritized over survival. Cutting through illusions and fantasies is ruthless work, requiring self-submission.

The masculine focuses on dominance, power, control, hard science, pragmatism, ego-driven battles, wars, debates, competition, external conquest, winning, achieving success at any cost, "owning" or "containing" the feminine, making her submit, "conquering" her, building empires, hierarchies, systems based on competition and survival, achieving individual success, protecting personal resources, whether through politics, business, or physical prowess. All of these aspects have nothing to do with spiritual truth but are all about the truth that the ego needs to continue surviving. This is the direct inverse of what is needed for actual enlightenment.

Why do you think women are so drawn to art, beauty, and creativity? Because these are the most direct expressions of God. At their core, art and beauty represent a higher reality, one that moves beyond the superficial and taps into the essence of what is real. When you engage with these expressions, you begin to see that everything is illusory, everything is a reflection of beauty, a manifestation of creation. The true art of existence lies in seeing yourself in others, in understanding that everything is interconnected. Women, with their natural inclination toward empathy and intuition, are often more equipped to grasp these higher truths. Why do we often say that women are more intuitive, or able to feel energies?

Why do you think nature made women capable of giving birth and creating life, similar to God? By this very fact alone, they are more connected to the creative nature of God.

The masculine societal pressure and patriarchy push men to focus more on keeping their resources, power, and ego safe, so they can protect their family and create a kingdom for everyone. They have no time to ponder things beyond the tangible and ego, because that goes against their survival instincts.

Men, societally, are more allowed to be disagreeable, egoistic, narcissistic, and violent, wrapped in their own delusional fantasies. Why do you think historically there has been so much inequality? Women only recently gained the ability to vote. History shows the evil and blind spots of masculinity. If masculinity was so rooted in truth, men would have realized that authoritarianism, wealth inequality, fascism, racism, sexism, patriarchy, classism, exploitation, colonialism, and the oppression of marginalized groups were rooted in evil and not truth; so why did it take them so long? It’s their ego, selfishness, and inability to hold space and empathize beyond themselves that locks them in this way. That’s why femininity is heavily needed. And by the way, all of these decisions were made by men on their own, with no women allowed to vote or suppress these actions. These choices are pure examples of masculine blindness.

Women, on the other hand, are socially conditioned to be kind, soft, pleasing, empathetic, and understanding. They already know what it’s like to be victimized. They know how nasty ego corruption can get, and they already hate it. Therefore, they are in a much better place to realize the truth and go beyond this "materialistic" ego-driven reality.

Look at all the current world leaders we’re accusing of child abuse, sex trafficking, music stars involved in scandals, criminals, and even spiritual gurus who use fake spiritual language to justify polyamory and sexual exploitation in cults. Consider the countless high-profile figures involved in scandals: politicians with multiple accusations of sexual misconduct or corruption, famous CEOs and business magnates exploiting workers or engaging in shady deals, grifting and insider trading, actors and musicians who abuse their power to manipulate vulnerable fans, etc. Are we really going to deny that the prevalence of these behaviors is linked to unchecked masculine power, entitlement, and ego? Who’s significantly and disproportionately involved in these actions? Men. Are we honestly suggesting that this gender is more grounded in integrity, truthfulness, and free from cheating and lying? Seriously?

The feminine is less dominated by lust, horniness, and aggression. It is impossible to seek the truth if you are overly impulsive, horny, and angry. Too much masculinity leads to hard science, materialistic thinking, power-seeking, capitalism, inequality, oppressive, and tyrannical systems. Who do you think elected Hitler, Trump, and previous tyrants and leaders? Who do you think was doing the most of the oppression throughout history? Who do you think was suppressing science and calling paranormal research and spirituality "too woo-woo" for science?

The masculine yearns for more control. The feminine is better at enduring suffering and is less prone to harming others. They have been perpetual victims throughout history, "prizes" in war, raped, molested, enslaved, tortured, and used for men’s pleasure. Truth-seeking is all about the endurance of suffering, and who better to endure than the perpetual victims of history?

The feminine has better emotional control because she is less controlled by her lust. She is more emotional on average, which means she is way more familiar with her emotions and knows how to be present with them. Societally, women are also less suppressed when it comes to sharing and expressing their emotions, meaning they are less prone to building up uncontrolled anger, depression, and bitterness. Why do you think there is so much more suicidality in men? Why do you think it's usually men who cheat or have second families and hide them away? In fact, today’s male mating strategy is largely based on lying, manipulating perceptions, and control. This mindset is far more popular than any female mating strategy. Women, by contrast, don’t have to lie to get laid; it’s much easier for them. Men, on the other hand, train themselves and others to lie constantly, both to themselves and to women. How do you think this perpetuating mindset will ever bring a gender closer to the truth? It cannot. 

Men do not want to accept the harsh reality that they are not inherently desirable by nature. Instead, they soothe themselves with OnlyFans girls, fake porn, fake video games, fake lives, everything fake, because they cannot accept the truth. Women, on the other hand, are more able to face this reality. Men are the ones largely living in delusion in this day and age.

The notion that the masculine prefers to lead rather than follow is simply wrong. The second men start suffering (e.g., the incel pandemic), you get school shootings, murder, propaganda, and ideological torture. Women cannot lean on violence, so they have to learn how to control themselves, knowing when they need to let go of their desires and when their desires are valid. This is key to achieving God-realization. If you’re too wrapped up in your desires and easily spoiled, and instead of stepping back and thinking, you resort to complaining and violence, this is what you get. I can’t think of any female podcast as whiny as some red-pill podcasts, or huge oppressive systems and religions that use God in the name of oppression, keeping women away from education, self-expression, and only serving self-serving agendas.

Masculinity, in its most toxic form, is completely identical to ego; it uses anyone and everything to serve its own agenda. And women are often on the back burner of that. From patriarchal political structures to religious dogmas that limit female roles, to economic systems built on exploitation, men often design these institutions to protect their own interests. Think of capitalism, which thrives on inequality, or the historical suppression of women in religious institutions where leadership roles were almost exclusively male. Even in many traditional societies, women have been restricted by laws and customs designed to reinforce male dominance. All of these systems are crafted to perpetuate the power dynamics that benefit one gender over the other.

Men also love hearing things that soothe them, and once you can whisper those things into their minds, they too can be easily controlled, manipulated, and will submit to whoever the authority figure whispering sweet words is.

The female's mating (and therefore survival strategy) is simply being herself. Throughout history, wars have been started purely over the natural beauty of women. Most women would likely reject a man asking them out, but most men would not reject a woman asking them out. Therefore, the gender more prone to using 'lying' strategies is the male gender. And remember, survival drives everything, and mating is a huge part of that. So, if your survival strategy relies more on your ability to lie and manipulate, you are much less likely to care about the truth.

The feminine is valued for qualities much closer to the divine in its purest form: love, care, understanding, acceptance, purity, beauty, mysticism, unfilteredness in expression, and perfection. These qualities align with higher, spiritual truths.

On the other hand, many masculine values are more rooted in survival and ego. Men are often more allowed, and even encouraged, to be impure, psychopathic, disagreeable, and harsh. Some male-centered spaces allow men to cheat, not control their lust, and even take multiple wives, each of whom they must keep under control, often lying to each one about how much they love her. These spaces often promote participation in degeneracy and pick-up artist behaviors, reinforcing a culture of manipulation, dishonesty, and the pursuit of power over genuine emotional connection or spiritual truth.

Most of what men desire is deeply self-soothing to their egos. They seek a partner who doesn't question their intellect, financially depends on them, is more emotional, smaller, weaker, and subservient to them. They expect their partner to handle all the housework, be sexually submissive in bed, fulfill all their desires, and cater to their ego. They expect their partner to be virgins, pure, never grow old, never gain weight, never complain, whine, and wholly devoted to them, while they themselves are free to cheat, have multiple wives, and exploit their partner's labor however they desire. Meanwhile, men are often encouraged to maintain a strong ego and a sense of self, with no authority, societal norms, or mating strategies to ever hold them accountable or push them beyond their own self-centered existence.

And cultural norms reinforce all the above.

Historically, the feminine was often kept under control, branded as 'heretical,' 'witches,' or 'subversive' for daring to speak their own truths or practice spirituality outside of prescribed norms. Women have long been denied the ability to express their spiritual insights freely because their truths were seen as a threat to patriarchal structures. The very act of a woman speaking or living her truth often posed a challenge to the masculine order, which is why many women were pushed into roles of submission or suppression. If men are so naturally oriented toward truth-seeking, why then feel the need to suppress the spiritually gifted and label them as witches? It almost seems like one gender really doesn’t want the truth pushed when it hurts their agenda. Hmm...

The point is that this issue is more than cultural, more than social construction. The biology and, therefore, the psychology of men and women is different. It's not good or bad, it just is what it is. And you will find handfuls of individual exceptions.

In fact, a larger percentage of the highest values and pursuits are very much aligned with what we might call 'feminine' qualities. (Imagine an alien or an unbiased person with very little knowledge of what masculine and feminine qualities are reading this.) Values of: love, empathy, compassion, mutual understanding, unconditional motherly-like love "A face only a Mother can love", reconnection with the present moment, simply feeling and being, presence, acceptance, receptivity, ego submission, giving, nurturing, healing, supporting, purity, emotional rawness/vulnerability, seeing others in oneself, connecting with the divine, with Mother Nature, spiritual intuition.

Overall, hardcore truth-seeking is going to align better with the feminine. And the hardcore part is important because the truth is hardcore. Truth-seeking has to be hardcore because it requires self-annihilation. Or in other words, pure Ego-submission. Men's egos tend to be much more dominant and stubborn. They shudder at even the mention of the word 'submit'; their entire lives, they are running from its very essence. They are too fragile to break through Maya because Maya is so powerful.

Edited Saturday at 05:42 PM by Xonas Pitfall

[Xonas Pitfall]

Again, the point is to present a very 'biased' and myopic perspective to highlight the silliness! I realize there are a lot of things missing here, but that's the point, hehe!  I'm dividing consciousness, splitting it in half, with the hope of uniting it once again!

I suppose we can use this post to present biased perspectives and then show the reverse, with the aim of countering that bias.

Edited Saturday at 03:48 PM by Xonas Pitfall

[aurum]

You make many good points.

You can connect the dots in all different kinds of ways. 

 

 

[Puer Aeternus]

We do hope people recognize the intentions, the structure of the post~

3 hours ago, Xonas Pitfall said:

Again, the point is to present a very 'biased' and myopic perspective to highlight the silliness! I realize there are a lot of things missing here, but that's the point, hehe!  I'm dividing consciousness, splitting it in half, with the hope of uniting it once again!

I suppose we can use this post to present biased perspectives and then show the reverse, with the aim of countering that bias.

And don't come in and start debating the content of the post instead.

[Xonas Pitfall]

25 minutes ago, Puer Aeternus said:

We do hope people recognize the intentions, the structure of the post~

And don't come in and start debating the content of the post instead.

Agreed! Hence, why I put the HUGE WARNING at the start, haha. Let's pray so!

[Puer Aeternus]

BUT?

 Will it be 

BIG enough?!

Stay tuned to find out ...

[Xonas Pitfall]

25 minutes ago, Puer Aeternus said:

BUT?

 Will it be 

BIG enough?!

Stay tuned to find out ...

That's what she said... (˵ •̀ ᴗ - ˵ )  (Hahahahahaha...)

[Natasha Tori Maru]

My eyes are bleeding as I sip the morning coffee .. the text size change is giving me a brain bleed 💀🤣

[MuadDib]

 

[Joshe]

Your entire position is flawed. 

[Emerald]

Of course, (as the OP's post lays out plainly) women could also easily weave such a narrative about men by cherry-picking truth-oriented elements of women and delusion-oriented elements of men.

Really, its just more reflective of the type of opposite-gender company you keep... and an idealization of the gender associated with one's self when one is identifying strongly with their same-gender group.

But if Leo were really geared towards truth (applied in the form of self-honesty), he would be able to see the deeper-seated motivations that cause him to invest so heavily in these "male>female" narratives in the first place (which is his real reason for writing this. Though he will frame it differently to himself and others as "Here's the brutal truth," It's really just him saying, "Yay! Men win again! And I win by proxy because I'm on that gender team!").

He does similar things where he frames community as a woman's need... but not a man's need, despite all humans throughout all of our evolutionary history relying on community for survival. 

It's his way of saying, women are beholden to basic human needs for social connection and support... but men are not. And deceiving himself in that way seems to soothe him and make him feel empowered... and less constrained and beholden to others.

And anytime he has the opportunity, he will engage in this gender competition to emphasize that (in all the ways that matter) his gender team always wins and is the best. 

He clearly fears the Feminine (mostly the Feminine in himself), such that he is trying to separate himself from it as much as possible. And he uses these narratives towards that end of keeping himself unconscious to and in resistance to his Feminine polarity and the Feminine elements of the reality of being a human being. 

That said, it is true that the Maya is the part of Feminine polarity as is everything in the world of matter part of the Feminine polarity. So, all creatures that crawl upon this Earth (including male and female humans) are Feminine in the broad strokes, as we are all just characters in the story of the matrix of the 3-D illusion. We are all Mother Nature.

And the Feminine spiritual path is one of embodiment and of humbling one's self enough to choose imperfection and limitation... despite having direct experience of awakening to the perfection and infinity of the God nature. And this requires a lot of self-honestly and admitting to deep vulnerabilities and weaknesses... and embracing temporality and the limitations of mortality.

And a big part of the Feminine spiritual path is to embrace the illusion of separation such that relationship is possible. And the experience of Truth is not an end in itself... but a necessary means to an end to consciously decide to embody the illusion, just as the creator did in its creation of the illusion and your avatar in it.

And that which exists with nothing outside of itself, will need to create an illusion of separation such that you can know yourself from an outside perspective. And God gets to forget and awaken to itself because of the Feminine illusion of Maya... or simply to forget and to experience limitation and relationship.

So, Leo forgets that he is also Feminine, as he is made of matter and part of the illusion. There is no actual Leo separate from the Feminine matrix. And even the pursuit of Truth within the illusion is just more illusion... especially if one identifies themselves as the rare seeker of Truth.

He seems to just be in resistance to the Feminine matrix of Maya... and seeks to escape it through very self-deceptive forms of Truth-seeking that mire him deeper into the Maya... because of his denial of the Feminine in himself. Hence his combative relationship with the Feminine where he must define it as inferior.

He believes himself to be speaking out the brutal truth... but is mostly motivated by whatever makes him feel special/different, empowered, and invulnerable within the context of the Maya. And the Truth-seeking just seems to be an identity and worldview that serves that end goal.

[Emerald]

6 hours ago, Joshe said:

Your entire position is flawed. 

It's not actually her position. It's a parody of Leo's position... just gender flipped and cherry picking perspectives on men and women that one might use if they were trying to claim the opposite of Leo's claim.