Judy2

difficulty relaxing/releasing stress - what can i do?

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@Judy2 

One thing that has mightily helped with decreasing stress is having one hour before bed, where all I do is relax. It primes me for sleep and resets the stress that accumulated throughout the day. I, for example, often watch the sitcom "friends" before sleeping. I've seen it before, so nothing exciting or arousing happens and it allows me to just relax. 

I understand from reading this thread that adding things on to your to-do list - even if that's "relaxing" - adds stress, instead of helping you relax. But it's important that you get the principle of relaxing. Basically the essence of what it means to relax. It's a melting, mellow kind of sensation. I'm sure you know it. Put your awareness to your body, and try to relax right now so you see what I mean. 

Find an activity that puts you in this state, whether that's stretching, meditating, taking a walk, listening to music, drinking tea (camomille tea is great for relaxing btw.), progresive relaxation exercises,  relaxation visualisations (there are some great ones in  the book Psychocybernetics) or something else. Then do it every day before you sleep. Doing only relaxing stuff for one hour before sleep works great for me, but experiment with what time works best for you.

You will notice hat much less stress accumulates over time, you'll be less irritable during the day, and more capable of confronting stress during the day. 

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@Vali2003 Thanks for the advice.

She requested a 3-month account pause to focus on other things.

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4 hours ago, UnbornTao said:

@Vali2003 Thanks for the advice.

She requested a 3-month account pause to focus on other things.

Ah, ok. Thanks for letting me know 

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9 hours ago, UnbornTao said:

@Vali2003 Thanks for the advice.

She requested a 3-month account pause to focus on other things.

I bothered her too much with my psychoanalysis


Nothing will prevent Willy.

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2 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I bothered her too much with my psychoanalysis

I think you were helpful to her.

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10 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

I think you were helpful to her.

Thanks.


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22 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I bothered her too much with my psychoanalysis

Next time, combine it with a french baguette. Psychoanalysis without baguette is like Paris without the Tour Eiffel


Here are smart words that present my apparent identity but don't mean anything. At all. 

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1 hour ago, theleelajoker said:

 

Next time, combine it with a french baguette.
 

Coming soon: A young woman named @Judy2 from a forum was subjected to exhibitionism by a self-taught French psychoanalyst.

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Psychoanalysis without baguette is like Paris without the Tour Eiffel

 Only stupid tourists give a damn about this pile of junk. Chad French goes to drink beers at the bistro, or in the nature of Perigord smoking, playing music, eating cheese and charcuterie, with friends 😎

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9 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Coming soon: A young woman named @Judy2 from a forum was subjected to exhibitionism by a self-taught French psychoanalyst.

 Only stupid tourists give a damn about this pile of junk. Chad French goes to drink beers at the bistro, or in the nature of Perigord smoking, playing music, eating cheese and charcuterie, with friends 😎

When I had my Parisian gf, in one year, we never went to the tour eiffel. Small cafes, walking along the seine, forest fontainebleau or other nature around the city.  Makes me quite sentimental thinking about it


Here are smart words that present my apparent identity but don't mean anything. At all. 

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8 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

When I had my Parisian gf, in one year, we never went to the tour eiffel. Small cafes, walking along the seine, forest fontainebleau or other nature around the city.  Makes me quite sentimental thinking about it

Did you like Paris


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On 19.8.2025 at 5:49 PM, Schizophonia said:

Did you like Paris

Oui.

Loved the cafes, hated the traffic.


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