My Path to Transcending Sex as a 32-Year-Old Virgin

[Schizophonia]

On 05/07/2025 at 9:21 PM, Sucuk Ekmek said:

You are right, it's this particular sausage and the bread too. Because you can't enjoy a good sausage without some crisp bread. 

 

Average balkan meal

[Sugarcoat]

5 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Average balkan meal

Cholesterol 📈📈📈

[Sugarcoat]

On 2025-07-05 at 9:21 PM, Sucuk Ekmek said:

You are right, it's this particular sausage and the bread too. Because you can't enjoy a good sausage without some crisp bread. 

 

Hahah it’s funny

[Sugarcoat]

Eckhart Tolle was asked what he thinks about alcohol. And he said something along the lines of how if your state of consciousness is so fragile it’s affected by a few drinks then it’s nothing high (something like that) and I think a correlation could be drawn to sex. 
 

If you develop a solid high state of consciousness and mysticism, a little sexual desire and sex here and there shouldn’t be enough to wreck it if it’s really stable in you

[Schizophonia]

5 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Eckhart Tolle was asked what he thinks about alcohol. And he said something along the lines of how if your state of consciousness is so fragile it’s affected by a few drinks then it’s nothing high (something like that) and I think a correlation could be drawn to sex. 
 

If you develop a solid high state of consciousness and mysticism, a little sexual desire and sex here and there shouldn’t be enough to wreck it if it’s really stable in you

Buddha said if you tighten the rope too much it will broke up, but if not enought there will not be music.

Neville Goddad that i like a lot loved alcohol for exemple lol

And I suspect that behind op's post there is actually a sexual and aggressive agenda; it is contradictory to what is being said but the truth is in the reason why something is said rather than the nature of what is being said.

[Schizophonia]

17 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Cholesterol 📈📈📈

Cholesterol cures cancer

[Someone here]

If you want to be real then there is no such thing as transcending sex unless you have the karma of a monk. Find a partner and enjoy your life. In the meantime while you are single there is no alternative to masturbation and porn. But just don't turn it into addiction. 

[Sugarcoat]

22 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Buddha said if you tighten the rope too much it will broke up, but if not enought there will not be music.

Neville Goddad that i like a lot loved alcohol for exemple lol

And I suspect that behind op's post there is actually a sexual and aggressive agenda; it is contradictory to what is being said but the truth is in the reason why something is said rather than the nature of what is being said.

It’s not always so easy to figure out why something is being said

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

It’s not always so easy to figure out why something is being said

I put myself in the other's shoes

To understand a person's energy equation, the meaning of what is being told is not the end, but it is also and above all the form of the message, why it is told rather than kept intimate, and the whole context; this is the path to clairvoyance.

 

For example, for the case of op :

1)The fact that he made a post about it, that it was expressed, shows me that he plays at making a demonstration of power towards the social body.

I want people to see me as someone who is more powerful than his libido.

And what's behind that is :

I want to enjoy seeing others see me and being potentially impressed by my detachment (from my sexual and selfish needs in general).

 

I can feel a bit of that energy from you sometimes when you talk about how (the way) you could commit suicide because of your problems etc btw; When I think about op or this energy in general, I have the vision of very tense people discussing how to deal with this cumbersome little thing called libido (in the sense of drive in general, not just sexual in absolute terms), treated like a kind of child, with professional nods; like two mothers discussing very seriously their child who has such a problem. It's a kind of proud and sacrificial mother archetype.

Here I'm going to cheat and move a little away from clairvoyance and towards Freud, but I know that if the mother (plus both parents in general for a girl) is strong enough, defense mechanisms like the threat of castration by the rival parent, or by authorities that have generally prohibited incest, can become very powerful and enjoyable, even if exhausting, due to their ability to keep castration at bay.

No one can say I'm a loser or anything if I don't play to win, to have sexual relations (among other things). I don't play; I'm above that, so I win.

And what's underneath is :

No, I will not be the plaything of mom and dad (especially mom for men and rather both or the father for women, but once again it is very individual) who want me to be a fulfilled man or woman (in this case sexually), it will not happen like that.

Playing the game of sexuality would mean accepting being subjected to the game, and I chose not to be subjected to that one in particular because of possibly bad experiences but especially because I understood that my parents fantasize about leaving me satisfied and that gave me the impression of cutting myself off from my freedom.

 

I could do better, but I achieve something like this if I play the clairvoyant a little.

Edited July 8 by Schizophonia

[Sugarcoat]

On 2025-07-08 at 4:00 PM, Schizophonia said:

I put myself in the other's shoes

To understand a person's energy equation, the meaning of what is being told is not the end, but it is also and above all the form of the message, why it is told rather than kept intimate, and the whole context; this is the path to clairvoyance.

 

For example, for the case of op :

1)The fact that he made a post about it, that it was expressed, shows me that he plays at making a demonstration of power towards the social body.

I want people to see me as someone who is more powerful than his libido.

And what's behind that is :

I want to enjoy seeing others see me and being potentially impressed by my detachment (from my sexual and selfish needs in general).

 

I can feel a bit of that energy from you sometimes when you talk about how (the way) you could commit suicide because of your problems etc btw; When I think about op or this energy in general, I have the vision of very tense people discussing how to deal with this cumbersome little thing called libido (in the sense of drive in general, not just sexual in absolute terms), treated like a kind of child, with professional nods; like two mothers discussing very seriously their child who has such a problem. It's a kind of proud and sacrificial mother archetype.

Here I'm going to cheat and move a little away from clairvoyance and towards Freud, but I know that if the mother (plus both parents in general for a girl) is strong enough, defense mechanisms like the threat of castration by the rival parent, or by authorities that have generally prohibited incest, can become very powerful and enjoyable, even if exhausting, due to their ability to keep castration at bay.

No one can say I'm a loser or anything if I don't play to win, to have sexual relations (among other things). I don't play; I'm above that, so I win.

And what's underneath is :

No, I will not be the plaything of mom and dad (especially mom for men and rather both or the father for women, but once again it is very individual) who want me to be a fulfilled man or woman (in this case sexually), it will not happen like that.

Playing the game of sexuality would mean accepting being subjected to the game, and I chose not to be subjected to that one in particular because of possibly bad experiences but especially because I understood that my parents fantasize about leaving me satisfied and that gave me the impression of cutting myself off from my freedom.

 

I could do better, but I achieve something like this if I play the clairvoyant a little.

I didn’t know that was related to clairvoyance 

[Schizophonia]

43 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

I didn’t know that was related to clairvoyance 

Thx for the effort to find something to respond to my complicated and wobbly post you can leave the table

[Globalcollective]

@aurum

On 03/07/2025 at 5:46 PM, aurum said:

I think relationships are generally very good for your development as a human. They're going to force you to grow and mature.

But it's worth making some distinctions between human development and awakening. Awakening is really trans-human. So there's overlap, but also distinctions.

Personally, I've let go of the idea of needing my partner to be interested in hardcore consciousness. I think it's an unfair expectation and puts you in the bind of looking for a unicorn. 

Really want I need from her is just basic maturity and to be a good mother. As long as she supports me taking time for consciousness work, that's enough. She doesn't need to be Peter Ralston.

Consider that dating a woman who is interested in hardcore consciousness will inevitably come with serious downsides. 

Thanks for your response. I agree that expecting to find a partner into serious consciousness work is to much of an expectation. But, generally I'd also say having a normal relationship will eventually get in the way of consciousness work. Of course not necessarily but in most cases. Sadhguru did managed to do it however and he seemed to be so rock solid in himself I think that's the key to have it as a sort of non negotiable. Yes it's also interesting that if both partners were equally into it they may just end up being bad at committing to an actual relationship aha. I guess whatever someone decides will be right for them.