No luck with guys

[Santiago Ram]

They lose Interest in me pretty quickly... Sigh

[Santiago Ram]

I have dated a few AND find me attractive, but then they get bored AND leave...

Or I dont know what happens

It Is something that consistently happens, I have no problema getting laid but I cant establish a romantic relationship

Edited June 16 by Santiago Ram

[Santiago Ram]

Maybe gay Actualizers could help

[Princess Arabia]

Sounds like the typical guy. You're have women problems.

[Santiago Ram]

@Princess Arabiawdym?

[Princess Arabia]

3 minutes ago, Santiago Ram said:

@Princess Arabiawdym?

Guys get bored with women, It's easy to get laid with them and harder to commit. Just as you said. Doesn't matter gay or straight.

[Schizophonia]

5 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Guys get bored with women, It's easy to get laid with them and harder to commit. Just as you said. Doesn't matter gay or straight.

Be aware, it’s a believe in your persona to think that the opposite sex doesn’t want to commit with you; even if you have all the qualities (smart, spiritual, cook, caribbean cuisine wears high boots…), eheh.

You don’t see for the same reason any limiting beliefs exists, but men also have this kind of persona.

Not twisted on the same way automatically, because of gender, but close.

Edited June 16 by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

6 hours ago, Santiago Ram said:

Maybe gay Actualizers could help

You will find it, just keep looking.
 

Once on a forum I saw a post from a gay guy from New York who explained that he had been banned from Grindr for having explained on his profile that he had become a Christian and wanted a serious relationship; gays in particular are encouraged here and there by sick people to adopt a sexually manic and self-destructive lifestyle.
 

 

 

[meta_male]

5 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Guys get bored with women, It's easy to get laid with them and harder to commit.

I see a lot of guys who aren't bored with women.

[Jannes]

6 hours ago, Santiago Ram said:

Maybe gay Actualizers could help

Mayby write in the title that you are a gay guy otherwise people will just overread it and give you misleading advice. 

From what I have heard about gay community is that sex seems to be a lot easier to get there while connection is a bit harder to build. Which would make sense with two people with high testosterone. Is that true in your experience?

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, meta_male said:

I see a lot of guys who aren't bored with women.

I wasn't speaking about all guys and in every situation, with every female and all circumstances. I'm sure there are guys who have been bored with females. Lots of times with their sex and or personalities. I'm not talking down on men just stating the obvious and also my opinion.

[Spiral]

I’ve never heard of a (heterosexual) guy ever getting bored with of a particular woman.

They just weren’t that interested in them in the beginning. Fell out of love, or desired variety for its own sake.

I have no clue how gay guys operate however. 

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Be aware, it’s a believe in your persona to think that the opposite sex doesn’t want to commit with you; even if you have all the qualities (smart, spiritual, cook, caribbean cuisine wears high boots…), eheh.

You don’t see for the same reason any limiting beliefs exists, but men also have this kind of persona.

Not twisted on the same way automatically, because of gender, but close.

Why do you assume I was referring to me personally. I can still state things I've observed men do without it meaning that I personally been through that with them as in not easy to commit. I can reference many things and sources that points to that and of course it is a belief. If I was to be stating all facts and truths when I speak my opinions and beliefs in life I'd be a mute. Most of what people say are opinions, beliefs, their perceptions and coming from their perspectives, not absolute actual facts because there are none. Not even interpretations of Truth. 

Personally, I've never had problems with guys committing because I rarely put myself in those situations. It's usually the guys that wants me to commit as I don't give anything out much without commitment of some kind in the first place. I don't really care about that stuff because I don't look for commitment from anyone. Marriage is just automatic. As long as they can provide that's all that matters and that's my guaranteed commitment. Anyone can cheat or stray at anytime but providing is hands on, direct and not in the future. Love is for the birds in relationships. I don't need a man to love me only provide and keep me safe. I have a cat. I have gfs for chit chatting and I have family for emotional support. That's my commitment.

[Princess Arabia]

I'm not saying they are bored with women in general. I mean particular types of women or a particular woman at that point in time. Even just recently I read on here a guy saying how he got bored with this woman and lost interest. That's what I mean when I say bored. Not with the female species in general.

[meta_male]

28 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

I wasn't speaking about all guys and in every situation, with every female and all circumstances.

Yeah, and yet most of these stories are just about bad choices and settling for less. That's the pattern. Same with guys trash talking women.

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, meta_male said:

Yeah, and yet most of these stories are just about bad choices and settling for less. That's the pattern. Same with guys trash talking women.

Nothing I said was trash talking men, if that's what you're implying. Saying guys can get bored with women, find it harder than women to commit and have sex easily isn't trash talking. 

[Princess Arabia]

Not all guys are everything and not all women are everything. All we do here is speak opinions and from our own experiences and what we think to be true; another name for that is beliefs. That's what forums are for. Wikipedia is for fact checking. 

Edited June 16 by Princess Arabia

[meta_male]

@Princess Arabia Chill, I didn't say you trash talked. You got lots of great insights, I was just poking at the pattern of "women this, men that".

Women ☕

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, meta_male said:

@Princess Arabia Chill, I didn't say you trash talked. You got lots of great insights, I was just poking at the pattern of "women this, men that".

Women ☕

Alrighty then. Thanks for the reminder to just chill. Yeah mon! Everting Irie. Lol

[Hojo]

If you become a friar God will give you your gay lover.