Paranoid about STDs

[Magnanimous]

I haven't start pickup yet as I'm still in high school and won't until I move to London, which will be in 2027. Still even with safe sex in place and the low risk rate of most incurable STD's I'm still fearful I'll get one. And since I'll be sleeping with so many women, surely a few will have herpes 2, which is a 1 in 5 chance.

I really want to do pickup so I can develop my social skills and get my dream girl, but paranoia scares me.

Edited Saturday at 11:22 PM by Magnanimous

[Thought Art]

Don't worry too much. Just always wear a condom. 

Edited Sunday at 01:23 AM by Thought Art

[aurum]

18 hours ago, Magnanimous said:

And since I'll be sleeping with so many women

Unless you naturally good at this kind of thing, It'll probably be a lot less than you assume. Maybe once a month, depending on how often you're going out.

Have some fear about STDs because they are real. Wrap it up, avoid women that seem problematic and ask her when in doubt if she has something.

Edited Sunday at 05:33 PM by aurum

[Flint]

@Magnanimous

I think you're anxious about something else entirely. Maybe the idea of getting out there and starting dating in the first place ?

The hypothetical scenario where in two years time you would be having so much sex that you could get an STD is so imaginary it's difficult to see it as a realistic concern. Also, as others have said, just wear condoms.

[Magnanimous]

7 hours ago, Flint said:

@Magnanimous

I think you're anxious about something else entirely. Maybe the idea of getting out there and starting dating in the first place ?

 

Nah but you're fine @Flint. I'm an extreme extrovert so seriously pursuing pickup and dating doesn't scare me.

I'm extremely terrified about STD's because of the extreme impact incurable ones can have for the rest of your life. 

7 hours ago, Flint said:

@Magnanimous

The hypothetical scenario where in two years time you would be having so much sex that you could get an STD is so imaginary it's difficult to see it as a realistic concern.

Also, as others have said, just wear condoms.

 

1. Yea true. I'm moreso worried about getting and STD in the 5 years I'll be spending having sex to have my fun before I get married. Because my personality and drive I'll be having a lot (when the skill gets built of course)

2. Yea I'll practice safe sex of course. It's just I'm also worried about getting an incurable STD through kissing. 

7 hours ago, Flint said:

 

 

[Magnanimous]

18 hours ago, aurum said:

Have some fear about STDs because they are real. Wrap it up, avoid women that seem problematic and ask her when in doubt if she has something.

If I've picked up a girl I've met on the same night before sleeping with her, should I ask?
I'm scared she'll lie or my question will ruin the mood.

[aurum]

33 minutes ago, Magnanimous said:

If I've picked up a girl I've met on the same night before sleeping with her, should I ask?
I'm scared she'll lie or my question will ruin the mood.

If you're wrapped up, you probably don't have to explicitly ask unless you have reason to suspect something.

Use your best judgment.

Edited Monday at 12:17 AM by aurum

[Flint]

On 19/5/2025 at 1:42 AM, Magnanimous said:

Nah but you're fine @Flint. I'm an extreme extrovert so seriously pursuing pickup and dating doesn't scare me.

I'm extremely terrified about STD's because of the extreme impact incurable ones can have for the rest of your life.

Through kissing you can only get a certain type of Herpes which is practically unavoidable, but it's not the genital one. I would be most worried about HIV but there you need to use condoms and it's something you can always discuss before having sex because the woman in question is most likely aware (it can be dormant also) that she has it. Honestly just be more selective and sleep with the girls you find the hottest then, so that the risk is worth it. But again, it's quite minimal. In the same way potential planes crashes won't stop you from traveling, this shouldn't stop you from dating.

If you're seeing a girl more than once you can always ask that you both get tested together so you have that piece of mind.

[something_else]

The risk is pretty small if you practice safe sex and get regularly tested. Most of the commonly seen STDs are curable with some antibiotics, so it's not a massive deal.

I guess HSV-2 is probably the worst one that you have a reasonable chance of catching even if you're using condoms, about 1/10 people in the UK have it, however I've fucked around a lot here and managed to avoid it. It only transfers when there is an outbreak of sores, so even if someone has it they're not always infectious, and you'll also probably see it and know.

Also props to you for confidence, just don't be surprised when you end up not having as much sex as you think you're going to have  A lot of young guys think they're going to go to college or a big city and shag their brains out, but it rarely pans out how they expect. Unless you're very attractive or naturally charismatic it'll probably be a slower burn than you're expecting.

I will say that London is a good city for it in many ways. Every time I've partied in London I've ended up hooking up with someone. However it's also outrageously expensive if you want to go clubbing. Like some of the clubs will charge £15-20 for a single vodka coke.

[Peo]

You can use condom.

You could also take Hepatitis B Vaccine and HPV (Human Papillomavirus) Vaccine just for safety.

Condom would be number 1 importance and, 2 testing.

[Magnanimous]

On 20/05/2025 at 10:05 PM, something_else said:

however I've fucked around a lot here and managed to avoid it.

@something_else Can I have an exact count? Or a rough one if you don't know

 

[Magnanimous]

On 20/05/2025 at 10:05 PM, something_else said:

I will say that London is a good city for it in many ways. Every time I've partied in London I've ended up hooking up with someone. However it's also outrageously expensive if you want to go clubbing. Like some of the clubs will charge £15-20 for a single vodka coke.

@something_else How naturally attractive and/or charismatic are you? I'm both

How much pickup experience do you have?

 

[something_else]

5 hours ago, Magnanimous said:

@something_else How naturally attractive and/or charismatic are you? I'm both

How much pickup experience do you have?

 

I’m pretty good looking, and tall, which was enough that I could rely on women approaching me a lot of the time, which was very nice. I also relied on dating apps more than I should have.

I was very socially anxious in my early twenties though, I mostly went out with the intent of improving my social skills, flirting, and to have fun. Not the intent to practice pickup. I don’t really like the connotations of pickup. But I did pretty well nonetheless. Now I’m a lot more confident and charismatic than I used to be.

Edited yesterday at 08:56 AM by something_else

[blackchair]

Testing every 3 month, always condom, don't go down on a woman if it's one night stand. thankfully in my slutty phase I just cought lice....