A gentle request for people posting on this subforum

[AJBrew]

18 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I think the general experience of the forum users - and society at large - is negative. 

Due to this there are more people anxious to explore the negativity in an attempt to understand and sooth themselves.

 

I completely agree. It also doesn’t help that most people or perhaps the vast majority of people tend to recognize and relate to negative emotions more easily, while positive emotions are often seen as rarer, harder to grasp and more elusive. Biologically we’re wired to feel negative experiences more intensely and pronouncedly, whereas positive ones are subtler and require greater sensitivity and emotional attunement to fully appreciate which is so unfortunate.

Edited Friday at 06:54 PM by AJBrew

[Natasha Tori Maru]

2 hours ago, AJBrew said:

I completely agree. It also doesn’t help that most people or perhaps the vast majority of people tend to recognize and relate to negative emotions more easily, while positive emotions are often seen as rarer, harder to grasp and more elusive. Biologically we’re wired to feel negative experiences more intensely and pronouncedly, whereas positive ones are subtler and require greater sensitivity and emotional attunement to fully appreciate which is so unfortunate.

Really good point regarding our organism wired to negativity

I often think of my mind like an error detecting machine - constantly looking for the errors and attempting to make sure they don't happen again. This naturally makes one automatically lean in to the 'error' which is typically negative. 

Our survival depends on correcting the error. 

Imagine walking down a dark lane, and you trip on a pothole. When you encounter the dark lane again, your brain is going to go haywire alerting you of an error. If you can't see that pothole, as you enter and walk through the lane your anxiety is going to skyrocket. You know there is pain here, but you have to go on. The mind panics at the unknown error it cannot correct.

Perhaps this analogy describes the suffering we labour under, and how we naturally want to lean in, understand the danger and error, so we can safely move through the laneway.

[Rishabh R]

3 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

That’s a good mindset . I find it hard to accept suffering

Yeah, it's very difficult and trust me it takes a huge amount of practice.

[Yimpa]

2 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

Yeah, it's very difficult and trust me it takes a huge amount of practice.

I'm proud of you for putting in all the work.

[Rishabh R]

3 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

I'm proud of you for putting in all the work.

Oh really, thanks.

[AJBrew]

@Natasha Tori Maru That's an excellent description. As a species we've become so conscious and self aware that I'm sure that majorly contributes to our psychology suffering, we've stepped out of the garden of eden.

[Sugarcoat]

19 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

Yeah, it's very difficult and trust me it takes a huge amount of practice.

Yea my mindset has developed over time

[Rishabh R]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

Yea my mindset has developed over time

Congratulations! But I was talking about the fact that acceptance of suffering also takes practice .

[Sugarcoat]

7 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

Congratulations! But I was talking about the fact that acceptance of suffering also takes practice .

Yea I know but acceptance could be seen as being a form of mindset 

[Rishabh R]

13 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Yea I know but acceptance could be seen as being a form of mindset 

Ok then you are doing great.