Relationships/Family vs Money/Finance

[sda]

Hi,

I wanted to ask a question from you guys is that on which relationships is spending money normal and on which relationships is spending money not normal? For example, my dad spent somewhere between $100000 to $200000 over the span of his lifetime on his brother's family including his brother's children while he neglected me along with my siblings. In my opinion, in retrospect, he should not have spent a single penny on the family of his brothers because that is not his family and should have spent money on my mother along with my siblings because we are his family. Another example is that I have spent $4000 to $5000 on my friend over the past year because my friend gaslighted me into thinking that spending money on friends is normal like that but it isn't and now in retrospect, I realize that I did a foolish mistake. 

So, my question from you guys is that in your opinion on which relationships is it normal to spend money and on which relationships is it not normal to spend money? 

Thank you for your responses

Edited Monday at 10:24 PM by sda

[integral]

Are you mad! 100% of your money has to be spent on investing in yourself.

You invest in your education, you invest in your asset portfolio (stocks, Real Estate), you invest in your state of consciousness, you invest in your life purpose, you invest in your business, you invest in your health, you invest in your foundation.

And you and everyone around you will benefit greatly from it.

 

Edited Monday at 11:51 PM by integral

[sda]

51 minutes ago, integral said:

Are you mad! 100% of your money has to be spent on investing in yourself.

You invest in your education, you invest in your asset portfolio (stocks, Real Estate), you invest in your state of consciousness, you invest in your life purpose, you invest in your business, you invest in your health, you invest in your foundation.

And you and everyone around you will benefit greatly from it.

 

Ok. For example, if a someone has a spouse, is it that person obligation to spend money on his/her spouse?

[integral]

6 hours ago, sda said:

Ok. For example, if a someone has a spouse, is it that person obligation to spend money on his/her spouse?

No, if you do this, they will blindly spend your money and you’ll be left with nothing. Your job is to manage the finances and to have financial intelligence. Never give people money for free they will take it for granted and they will use you as an ATM. If you have a family, you have to financially support that family intelligently not simply buy them a bunch of gifts that they don’t need.

Do not try to buy a woman’s love by showering her with money. I feel like you’re very close to making this mistake the second you get a girlfriend.

I don’t know where you got the idea that you should be giving people money… this is a trap. People are taking advantage of you.

[BlueOak]

7 hours ago, sda said:

Ok. For example, if a someone has a spouse, is it that person obligation to spend money on his/her spouse?

If we drop the word obligated. Do you take the well-being of your spouse as your well-being?

This will create resistance in some people, because of the level of individualism in English-speaking countries.  So to prevent this, it's not a statement it's a question.

If the well-being of your spouse is taken as your own well-being, then it's the same thing. If you see your well-being as individual in nature, it isn't. Others might consider the relationship as a whole, and whether it would benefit, so they are relating to the relationship.

These thoughts take a certain mindset in the spouse you pick, and in yourself to have a reflection of it given back.