DianaFr

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  1. Depends on the type of people you socialize with. "You get hooked on parties, mindless talks, and casual sex" - this is a very specific type of demographic. I don't know many things that feel better than being on the same wavelength with another person, sharing insightful moments, maybe working together towards a common goal. "Your mind gets infected with their way of thinking" - the solution for this is to surround yourself with people you respect and who have complementary skills and worldviews so you all foster each other's growth. You realize you can't make it alone and that you even don't want to since it's way more fulfilling to go the distance together. And this is coming from me - a life-long social anxiety sufferer. My condition has taught me to deeply appreciate human contact.
  2. Life quality, mindset, habit, wellness coaching - these are not niches. "I help overworked mothers regain confidence about their bodies" "Is your 9 to 5 sucking all the life out of you? I help you improve your vitality so you never run out of energy for what truly matters" A few silly examples of how a niche of a health expert could sound like. A specific target audience + their pain + their gain. People are never going to buy coaching. It's not food, they don't need it. They will, however, buy a solution to their pain or problem. That's what you have to sell.
  3. I switched from paper notebooks to Remarkable 2. I write a lot and used to have multiple notebooks and a ton of notes which were difficult to manage. I keep a diary for twenty years now and I have a big box with all the notebooks that basically document all my life. Now all my notes are organized in one place plus I can carry all of them with me. I do use software as well, but nothing replaces handwriting for me.
  4. My tips for coach training. 1) Accept the fact - most coaches fail. I think the statistics was that 80% of coaches fail within the first two years (it's the average time before their resources run out). 2) The bar for entry is ridiculously low - anybody can call themselves a coach these days and most of these "coaches" don't even know what coaching is and is not. So your competition will be high and you will likely have to work hard to convince your potential clients why you are not a yet another 'I will help you' artist. 3) Accept that marketing will be at least 50% of how you spend your time as a coach (likely more during the early phases of your business). So you will need good coaching skills and even better marketing skills (there are plenty of great coaches with no clients because they don't know how to sell themselves). I may be wrong, of course, but the way you describe your coaching purpose makes me think that you think people want to buy coaching to get their lives fixed. But they don't. Most people have no idea they need coaching, so they are not going to buy it. They will buy a specific solution to the specific problem that's bothering them. And another thing - your target group should be able to afford your rates. If they can't, you don't have a sustainable business model. 4) Your coach training program should be ICF-approved. 5) Did you mention you were living in UK? I suggest you check out the Animas Center for Coaching. I got my transformational coach qualification from them. This school checked all my boxes both before and after training. They also have a great community support where you can continue to attend trainings for free how much you like. 6) Do think about the business aspect. In addition to coach training, I invested in Marie Forleo B-School. I may be biased, but I highly recommend this program. I also hired a social media coach (since I sucked at it). Just be prepared you may need extra help to get going.
  5. So you have a few quite specific goals to work on! The video project sounds like one that only needs a plan and a take-off. The path tends to show itself as we go, so it doesn't even matter that you don't have the money just yet. You also say that you feel stuck, like you can't do anything. What do you mean?
  6. Okay, we know now that there are not physical restrictions that are holding you back. Then what is? The question is - are you satisfied with your current life and yourself? If you don't change anything, will you like your life 10 years, 20 years from now? If you are generally okay and just looking for approval - you do you. It's certainly not my cup of tea, but, hey, people have different desires and that's fine. If you don't like your life, however, only you can change it. It doesn't mean you can't ask for support, but you gotta show initiative. So what is it that you ultimately want?
  7. Gosh, if I heard this from my son, I would slap him in the face and throw him out of the house - so that he wastes not a single minute more of his and my time. Do you have a disability or other condition that makes you unable to work? Are you a minor? Did your parents lock you up in their basement to prevent you from going to university? If none of this is about you, I don't see how it could be your parent's fault. I also don't see a good reason for pointing fingers, unless you're actively healing and letting go of self-blame. If you're a sane and physically healthy adult human being not living under extreme conditions, nothing is holding you back from having a car, job and education but you. Sorry, a bit rough, but time to grow up is now.
  8. I can give you some suggestions as a very sensitive and anxious person who are used to working by herself, currently has many committments and just can't afford to blow any of them because of emotions getting the best of her. 1) Use your negative emotions to your advantage. Don't just passively read the news worrying. Do something about it, anything. Find movements, organizations, platforms that deel with helping victims of military conflict and get involved! Even posting about it and getting your word out may be very helpful. Your friends are in danger, people are dying, the war is spreading to more places - of course you can't take it and just live as nothing happened! What is one realistic thing you can do to help this situation? 2) Working alone - no better suggestion that the good old discipline. Give yourself deadlines, have a non-negotiable work schedule, plan your work for the day, week and month, create KPIs and measure them, incorporate rewards etc. 3) Your work must be meaningful to you. You can't expect the circumstances and your mood to always be perfect, but things must be done regardless. For example, I must take care of my child and meet his needs every single day no matter how tired I am or how bad the global situation is. If your work has an impact that's bigger than you, you will keep at it no matter what. 4) Optimize your work conditions and look for support. Find other creators who work by themselves - you can keep each other stay motivated (you even had an offer in this very thread!) If you're sitting all day in your room by yourself, go work at the coffee shop or library occasionally - this will make you more productive. 5) Create space for your feelings. What must you do to vent, make sense of your emotions and clear your mind? Do it regularly as part of your mental/emotional hygene, so it doesn't mess with your responsibilities. 6) Work very hard but rest even harder. Just try to make sure one doesn't interfere with the other.
  9. I personally think that celebrities endorsing a brand has a lot to do with a desire for admiration that we all have. First of all, there can only be brands and celebrities if there are enough people who recognize them as such and "vote" for them with their money, time, energy etc. People tend to idolize celebrities by viewing them as embodiment of qualities they don't see in themselves but desire to have. So if a celebrity endorses a certain product, I might thought - oh, she loves this product and I want to be just like her so I will also get it to resemble her more. Subconsciously I may be buying back a part of myself that I long to have. As for the brand-celebrity match, I think it has to do with identity. Brands have strong and very specific identities. Just like celebrities. Some of them are a perfect match.
  10. Girls love guys for their personalities. Girls love guys who make them laugh and make them feel safe, whatever that means to the particular girl. My question is - what do you mean by love? Is it attention/attraction, a committed romantic love or something in between? Idk, I obviously don't understand much about the current terms of dating, but I think having a wholesome life (friends, hobbies, passions etc.) is something one does by default, not as some strategy for winning attention. If your main motivation with women is to get laid, you will either experience a lot of rejection or you will attract women who are not very high value or are wounded in some way. You can significantly increase your chances of having plenty of sex if you have a long-term relationship you are both actually invested in. Thus, you could consider switching your focus from "girls" to "THE girl". What that means is to actually starting to identify faces and names and personalities from the otherwise faceless pool of girls. Because every girl is a wholesome person as well, just like you.
  11. Haha, what if normies were the ones who hold the truth? This is a thought I've been entertaining for some time since I discovered how my ego was using spiritual development as a way to be superior over others. I'm way more humble now and I'm learning to respect the person regardless of their journey. They're probably way more advanced than me in a number of other areas, so who am I to judge. I'm practicing connection now. It throws half of the spiritual stuff out the window
  12. What being good with women mean to you? Relationships are literally the foundation of human life, including romantic ones. It can only add to your spirituality, as long as you're up for the ride.
  13. You have raised an interesting question... As somebody who has gone through the academic education system, I can definitely agree with you - it can be all the things you mentioned, bullshit, false, biased. It's a system, a very hierarchical one, and it's not exempt from having the weaknesses that such systems tend to possess. But there's also a lot of positives. Community and ability to work side by side with brilliant people, access to research infrastructure and resources, the possibility to lay foundation for an academic career (you get to practice and publish your research in peer-reviewed journals). I personally love the "spirit" of academic environment, the part of it that embodies the true spirit of science beyond the system - it can't really be replicated by working by yourself. I've been through ups and downs academically, and now my take is - don't expect from the system something it is not but focus on things you can and want to take to build something valuable (for yourself, your colleagues, the society, the field of research you choose). It's a very good platform to grow from and experience awesome things with. But there's down side as well, just like any other thing in life. It's up to you, where you put your focus.
  14. You can't really accidentally forget or let go of the perception of temperature. You have temperature receptors built in your body and your brain does the math for you consistently. Also, the system is set up in a way as to preserve the structure of your tissue. Bad things start to happen to your proteins (they literally make up your whole body) even at slight temperature changes. So there's an in-built alarm system as the body strives to preserve homeostasis as much as possible. As for other creatures, yes, nature is quite fascinating, isn't she? I believe tardigrades are considered to be the toughest of them all