Reframes for jealously, hatred, criticism, self doubt, victim mentality, insecurity

[Rishabh R]

3 hours ago, gettoefl said:

All jealousy is scarcity mindset and is corrected by realizing abundance mindset. Nobody out there has something I lack. I embody the best of the best.

Great point.

[Elton]

I revisited Leos vedio and found the 7 reframes to change the competitive mindset

1. I love seeing others succeed

2. I'm can't be worried about competition as I'm too busy loving myself

3. Nothing in this world is worth anything 

4. I'm a creator not a competitor.

5.being normal is highly overrated

6. Competition is stupid because no. 1 status is not fulfilling and your always going to be worried about it.

7. Humans are too complex to compare 

8. Yes I have handicaps but I'll focus on my strengths instead 

 

[Elton]

2 minutes ago, Elton said:

I revisited Leos vedio and found the 7 reframes to change the competitive mindset

1. I love seeing others succeed

2. I'm can't be worried about competition as I'm too busy loving myself

3. Nothing in this world is worth anything 

4. I'm a creator not a competitor.

5.being normal is highly overrated

6. Competition is stupid because no. 1 status is not fulfilling and your always going to be worried about it.

7. Humans are too complex to compare 

8. Yes I have handicaps but I'll focus on my strengths instead 

 

@Leo Gura thank you Leo for introducing me into self help all the techniques and learning keeps me sane in my though times..as I strive to overcome it and get above it...

Edited May 2 by Elton

[Ulax]

https://www.pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm

Some on here mate. Though some are reframes for people who had abusive childhoods. So maybe pick and choose the ones that feel are relevant to you

[blackchair]

But this is HARD, maybe only if you spent 20 years in cave meditating observing your mind 24/7 but we live in real world....but it helps me to reframe my mind and to remember myself there are so mentally strong people out there and so I can become like them one day......

[Aaron p]

There's a new method I've been working on to try and completely undercut and undermine problems of all description in the mind whether it be hatred, criticism, self-doubt, victim mentality or whatever. 

Essentially I found that mainstream typical therapeutic avenues and methods of trying to deal with these kinds of difficult problems mentally can actually work against us and cause more damage. Sometimes I get the very very strong feeling that mainstream therapists are so focused on trauma that they actually caused their clients to become too focused on their trauma, nearly reinforcing it along with the ego of damage and victimism. 

For example I'm sure you're aware of the stereotype of the narcissist constantly watching videos of people describing how other people are narcissists and using this as a method to escape having to face the narcissism within themselves. 

I find it more pragmatic and normal to try my method. My method is to just undermine the problems existence. This method will of course depend on the level of the individual in terms of consciousness, the more powerful and conscious the individual is the more they will be likely to be able to stomach undermining the inherent existence of their problems. 

One very direct example of how problems can exist purely in imagination is you know maybe you arrange dinner with an old friend and they don't come and you're just sitting there thinking hmm why didn't they come then your mind starts coming up with all of these projections as to why they might not have come then you start remembering how they were sort of dismissive of you in your last conversations then from this new observation you determine that they now hate you from this you then start finding all manner of reasons to start destroying them in your mind picking them apart and you think you'll never talk to them again and that your friendship is over. After about 30 minutes of this when you're about ready to pull your hair out with your friendship destroyed, your friend walks in and apologizes saying "sorry I'm late I had to take my daughter to the hospital." See what I mean. 

In an even more direct example things like self-doubt or being too critical of other people or yourself... These problems can be combatted very very effectively at a deep level by simply realizing that you don't exist. 

All of your enemies don't actually exist either. All of your difficulties don't exist. None of your problems exist because you do not exist to have these problems. 

Sounds weird but in practice I find it to be more effective

[Jacko]

Louise Hay was a beast at reframes.

https://www.louisehay.com/101-best-louise-hay-positive-affirmations/