DocHoliday

Please note that I don't want to whine or complain about anything in this thread, it's just an observation that I've made. So, as time went by and by I've noticed that my speech got progressively more slurry and inarticulated when I'm talking to other people especially when it's people or conversations in general that are extremely superficial, shallow and unimportant. Small talk is a big one of course. The redundancy of it is seriously overwhelming from time to time but sometimes you just gotta do it "to stay in the game" with people so that they don't think that you're some super weird or creepy guy who never says anything or who can't communicate properly. Weirdly enough, even when I meet people that are genuinely refreshing and interesting to a certain degree I still tendencially slur my speech a bit because it became such a habit by now. Really, no matter what the conversation might be about, in the back of my head I'm always thinking along the lines of "Why the fuck am I even talking to you, it's so meaningless...". Words have become absolutely meaningless, which is why I tend to enjoy people much more who either don't have the immediate urge to talk all the time or kinda necessitate others/oneself to keep on talking to make themselves feel more comfortable in return (you can really feel that that's what they're going for once there's even a bit of silence or the absence of conversation). In terms of extroversion and introversion I guess that I'm really quite similar to Leo (and many others on here as well presumably) in the sense that I can be really quite extroverted (or at least come across as such) when I'm in one-on-one situations with other people that are genuinely interesting, but as soon as the conversation tilts over too much in the direction of redundancy and unnecessary chit-chat, I'm done internally; it's unbelievably draining and tiring. EDIT: not to forget excessive complexity. I like it when things are simple and they can be kept that way (simply because they are fundamentally and do not need to be overcomplicated inherently). But when things get too complicated and are actually not even that necessary it also wears me out a lot internally. Another thing that I've noticed is that people who seem to have the urge to talk all the time or to have a conversation going on at all costs constantly are generally less capable to embrace silence (obviously) but also they are not as intuitive by a long shot or not as capable to communicate with pure emotion and empathy if you know what I mean by that. Their thinking and behaviour seems to be very left brain-based, so consequnetly they have a hard time BEING, which makes sense of course. So, I kinda just wanted to share this with you, maybe you've had similar experiences or you're perhaps going through the same thing, so feel free to share your thoughts and stories, I'm very interested in reading them.

@Joseph Maynor I think there’s definitely some truth in what you’re saying but thus far I always liked and loved the videos no matter how they came out, what their quality was (generally it was always superb and I never ever felt like wasting time) or regardless of their length. I’m definitely one of those people who really enjoy longer videos, especially from Leo. Surely there are people with less free time on their hands than others but I always like to think that there are way more people who really appreciate longer videos, especially on more deep and complicated topics. If you really care about the the content and are able to filter out the best for yourself than the length really doesn’t matter at all, but if you don’t really care and are less interested... well then I think Leo’s videos are not that suited for you in the first place. (Not necessarily addressing you, Joseph, right now but just in general) Leos videos were always goldmines to me. Some smaller and some definitely bigger, but as I mentioned it before it never occurred to me that I’m mismanaging or wasting my time with sticking around for hours on end.

@ajasatya Thanks for the reply:) I'm not really suffering while having conversations, that'd be pretty extreme and my neuroticism frankly isn't that high (anymore) luckily. It's just that I'm losing interest in sustaining conversations once they get too superficial and irrelevant and then it becomes a bit challneging to keep them going artificially, especially when you're kinda forced to.

@pluto I kinda already knew it would lead to complications using the word "enlightenment" I certainly don't claim to be fully enlightened or anything like that and I'm definitely still embodying various insights and smaller awakenings that I've had and that I still have along the way, for sure. But to clarify that statement (which I know should have already been explained further or formulated in another way to make it come across differently), I didn't intend it to have a condescending or degrading connotation to it, it's much more on an existential level because everything is ultimately just so meaningless as some of us have found out:) So it's more like "why are we even talking so much when we could much rather just BE and still succesfully communicate with much less words and slower and less frantic speech". But I gotta admit, when I wrote the original post I was definitely in a slighly agitated and ranty mood. Strangely though, having written it, seeing it now and re-reading it already makes me reflect on it quite a lot and I'm starting to address it more directly whenever I speak now or have spoken respectively.

@Laymen well, that was just rude... he’s trying his hardest to make them as good as they can be

@Nahm Yeah I definitely know what you mean and I’m currently working on implementing this a lot more into my life. When it works it’s really amazing.

Come on @MarkusSweden, that was not even remotely funny...

@Feel Good Don't take it so seriously. Most of us here don't really actually bother that there's no new video yet, we just like to joke about it a bit. At least that's how I see it but you may correct me if I'm incorrect in case there's actually something severely wrong and problematic with Leo not having uploaded thus far.

@K VIL Hell no! What are you talking about? The more videos we can get the better.

polar thinking is huge and even more valuable is the actual personal experience of actively going through and/or pushing yourself towards the opposite extremes of any particular duality

Thanks a lot @Joseph Maynor for those wise words that, unfortunately, nobody asked for. Also, no one ever tried to one-up you, it was just a facetious remark and you apparently took it too literal once again.

Because replying to you is just as meaningful and valuable as this entire thread...

Somebody just needs to shut this thread down, seriously...

@Brittany Yeah, I totally get you. I've set myself the goal to heal my scoliosis and in order to do that I need to grow 2cm of bone in my lower left leg. Seems like a great challenge, but I find that the more you get into it and the more you study all of these guys like Lipton, Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr.John Bergman etc., the more you see how true it really is. It's so fascinating and astounding.

... and this video is the proof for that. Don't be so mislead by the title and don't prejudge the video:) There's much much more in it that will absolutely fascinate you.

Insanely Valuable Health Information & Knowledge The second video is by Dr. John Bergman. Watch it. He's amazing. His channel is a gold mine.

Let's see what background we all come from and how we've been brought up. You can also share your story of how you relate to your parents presently and how you dealt with your upbringing being in (potential) conflict with advancing yourself and finding your own way in life.

Is everything alright with you..?? or are you just legitimately super hyped?

That’s funny. My very first post on this forum was also about time and the totally relative “experience” of it.

Being at Stage Yellow necessitates having gone through stage green first. If one successfully went through green in a healthy way, he will have found out that what he wants for himself is actually also what other people want for themselves. Beyond that, yellow isn’t necessarily concerned that much with personal egoic desires but more so with what is the best and most appropriate decision to make in order to achieve the greatest benefit for the majority of people, or even all of the people. Also, there is no more black and white for yellow, so a “do this, or else..” mentality is nothing that yellow would ever consider or take on. Because everything starts to become more relative than absolute, finding the best solution to solve a problem might now even incorporate more than just one ultimate decision or law or regulation. It’s all more adapted to the individual case, and generalisation is avoided, if possible.

@isabel Right on..!

@SoonHei Swap the “single being” out for “an infinite being” and then it’s a relatively firm definition. Even though there is nothing to ~have access to~ since everything is already unified and there. But that’s linguistic minutia, completely irrelevant compared to the actual Enlightenment that one might go through sooner or later:)

@George Fil Yes, of course the understanding of the other person is just the first proper step. Finding a working solution to problems and dilemmas is what comes next. That's obviously the part when you need to give a person what he needs to move on and get himself out of his particular problematic situation. Not what the person wants, but what he needs. And to properly determine what it is that he needs, the full and complete understanding of him and his situation is necessary.