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Both. My wife and I support each other. That’s precisely why we do not require each other’s support (we already have it / it’s a given / relatively you might say, we made this commitment to each other). It’s honestly hard for me to even grasp the experience of putting her in a position where she feels she doesn’t have my unconditional support. But then again, I don’t require it. You might be assuming responsibility when this topic comes up in the household, rather than a more present, actual, response-ability. Calmly discuss, and play it all the way out. What exactly is the “problem”? Our commitment is for life, not the fruit of that “other” tree. The wizard reveals the lion lyin. “I'm finding it incredibly difficult to relate to people without them being a perfect mirror of all my hidden unconscious psychological stuff” Wild how ‘right in front of us’ it is, no? Ohhhh it came round again....The son of man can’t be the reason.

@tsuki Hi! I’d suggest only ‘working with’ your arising thought, and the resonance of it with feeling...alignment or discord, feels good or not good...one thought at a time. If the thought is about her, notice how thought is ‘sneaky’...and don’t got to that ‘place’ where you’re trying to incorporate her thought / feeling, into your vibrational work. Down the road, with a consistently high vibration, I might suggest otherwise, but I would keep it as simple as possible for a while. You do you, and let her do her. My feeling is that it’s still to ‘sticky’, there’s still some healing & release for each of you to experience individually. It’s all most worthwhile when you ‘come back together’ so to speak. Though your heart may be in the right place, when ‘someone else is bringing you down’...it’s actually a subtle judgement of your own which doesn’t feel good to you. Look for the the direct resonance of your thought & feeling. Allow everyone else to fully feel their resonance of thought & feeling, even if that means they are angry, or sad. We can all help each other in healing, and yet the ultimate lasting healing is within each of us. That, and more and more of that, is what you individually, and her individually, need to discover. Then, ...”togetherness”...will be an entirely new and unbelievably awesome experience. In short...if she wants to express...just listen. But if ‘where you’re at’, is “she’s bringing me down”...there’s more thought / feeling work for you to do. She isn’t bringing you down, your thought about her doesn’t feel good, in the sense you can’t pretend you are responsible for her resonance. Someone in the “you’re bringing me down” mindset, is not helpful to “the one bringing me down”. Nothing “wrong” with it...but it’s still in the “all about me” mindset. Work through that and you’ll emotionally be like Neo when the hallway turns to code, and the agent doesn’t stand a chance (of holding out from “This Love”).

It’s the fabric of the dream in a sense. Don’t rule any out over some thoughts, or perception. It’s all you. Even the emotions. “Seasons don't fear the reaper Nor do the wind, the sun or the rain... we can be like they are” You might be off to see the wizard.

@StarStruck Yes for sure.

Some info on this thread that might be helpful...

That’s like asking “how do I instantly manifest something?”. It’s uncovering what is already the actuality.

@Rilles An absence of understanding. “When you believe in things, that you don’t understand - you suffer. Superstition ain’t the way.” -Stevie Wonder

I’m all for that. ♥️ @TheGreekSeeker Up to you.

@LfcCharlie4 Ok, but you wouldn’t have to do any of that stuff if you heard what I’m saying. You’d make so much money it’d be sick. IN your knowing how impressionable people are, and that we’re each creating our own reality, and that there are beliefs out there, in God, you could literally just say you like, got a super power from God. Everyone you’re talking to wouldn’t know, because as you know they’re holding beliefs about who they are. The real beauty of it would be that the falsity would be unfalsifiable. You could literally tell people exactly what you’re really doing, and they would still believe you.

@LfcCharlie4 No I’m saying this respectfully in your favor. It’s obvious you ‘know the truth’, know who you really are so to speak. So you can see most people don’t. Since you know there’s no actual measuring etc...you could just write a book with like, a ‘measuring system’. Then you could basically just invent a word for what you have that moves someone up that system, and sell it. Imo, it’s genius. All those people “selling” their time wouldn’t stand a chance.

@LfcCharlie4 I agree totally, but at the same time, the love is yours. You own it. Nobody else does. Since it’s yours, you can sell it if you want to. Just name it after yourself, and use some words that nobody knows. You’ll make a killing man.

“What distinguishes science or religious, etc. "beliefs" from everything here?” ...you. Obvious, or no?

@Ibn Sina Might find a different perspective here. Gotta really listen between the lines though, to feel that silence / sound.

@VeganAwake LMAO yes, it was humorous with your comment, because of the loop. Same thing though, yep.

@VeganAwake ? I can’t stop laughing because of the “loop”.

@VeganAwake The materialist paradigm.

That’d make a sweet t shirt.

@TDW1995 “My mind” is a thought.

@TDW1995 Nice. I think it’s that in reality part that might be questionable. What if “reality” is in you? What if ‘my computer’ was a calculation on a tablet, which is made of wifi?

No. Action’s a belief. (So’s death & the idea of you)

@dimitri ?? Thanks! Coming soon.

@dimitri It’s called “Ask & It Is Given”.

In the sense, meaning arises in you. Whatever “absolute perspective”, “the human perspective”, “universe”, “reality”, “ego”, “personal you”, “right”....mean to you, is only what it means to you. Nonduality would imply there is not a you and a meaning. There is learning what a word means, like cup, and there is ‘learning’ it was never “a cup”, as “cup” was a word you learned.

@VictorB02 Great insight. ♥️

Much in the same way fear of rejection is behind social anxiety, though it is often experienced dualistically as a fear of being alone...some people mentally assign the feeling of fear to the truth of conspiracies. In any case, nothing has ever been bettered by rejecting it and hiding it away. The apparent ability to relate to people who are at a stage prior to yours, is the fear of ending up back there. Consciousness doesn’t work backwards in that way. The next stage is letting that idea go, and finding you truly have the vantage indeed. Kind of a ‘if you love it, set it free, if it returns, it is yours’ thing. It’s a paper thin line between remembering or maintaining an idea, and realizing your consciousness has expanded. Ultimately, infinitely, and yet, not at all. There is a feeling of urgency, of impatience, in wanting to ‘tell people’ what you think, but not doing so. This is great. You’re noticing the thought doesn’t feel good to you, and recognizing it wouldn’t feel good to anyone else then either. That patience is present, as you are aware of this. Meditation & writing about feelings can release more beliefs, eradicating the impatience, and expanding intelligence & emotional intelligence. It could be said the result is compassion, and no longer experiencing the ‘I don’t know what to say’. The emotional scale is key for this. On the anxiety note, it could be nutrition and or body brain chemistry induced, but I would also consider the notion that it is not “my” anxiety, like you might think of “my” car, but rather, you are creating it over & over and can inspect how you are doing so, and inherently, effortlessly, no longer do so, no longer create that experience. Ultimately, if you are ‘on the path’, it is away from separative perspectives, and a return home via inclusion & unity (rooting falsity out of the mind / uncovering the “separate self”). As such, this is inclusive of all the facets you shared, including the anxiety, which is that which you are seeking, and unfortunately for now, that which you are labeling and missing.