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    @aclokay In my experience weed does nothing more than dull the mind.  It feels like youre getting somewhere magical, mystical, wornderfull, but all it is,is your mind is being switched off for a while.  The long term effects are a dull mind that is incapable of processing experience properly and this leads to a backlog of emotional issues later in life.

    If you want health and enlightenment, check your lifestyle and get off the dope and start living a life in accordance with your highest self, your highest self manifests in your conscience.  If your mind is working properly, your conscience will tell you that you are hurting your body with drugs, and in order to be happy and healthy you will need to follow that intuition. Or let the long term effects show you for yourself.  Its upto you, you can only do what you can do, I did drugs for years and did not have access to my higher self, so I paid the consequences and learned the hard way.

    Its upto you.  

  2. Posted

    16 minutes ago, Prabhaker said:

    No, for most of the people even 10-20 years are not enough.

    I was going to say but edited it out.  You are right on, even Ramana (who most put into the instant enlightenment camp) had 26 years of favourable conditions (16 years as a satvic minded Bhramin with hardly any karmas) and 10 years in the Viripaksha cave doing self inquiry.  A total of 26 years of practice under his belt.  Plus he was a knowledge junkie, had access to all the texts on self knowledge,  the guy was incredible.  Thanks for saying that, because most of these kids think its easy

  3. Posted · Edited by kurt

    On 12/22/2016 at 8:55 AM, Uncover said:

    It's like this, my life... I never really had sex with a girl (and no, I'm not gay :) ). But I masturbate a lot and watch porn. I'm doing it from a really young age. I've tried to stop doing it but with no success. I'm telling myself that it's a sin to have sex before marriage. Or this is how the church taught me. Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend. And maybe that's why I'm not so good at social interactions. I'm kinda desperate because of this, I don't know what to do and who to trust and what to believe anymore. BTW, I'm 21 years old. 

    I used to cry my soul out for a girl. I would do anything to have her, and not for sex. And I still want her. I met her 2 years ago, it was "love at first sight" and I still want her. Something inside me whispers that we can be together. The fact is that I didn't really talked to her (I did it on facebook). It was going really good, we were really good firends till I was telling her that "I love her".  My problems list could go on and on but I can't tell everything in one post. If there's anyone who knows what he's talking about and is willing to help me get my life problems straight free of charge and on long therm is more than welcome.  Maybe it's a little dreamy, I mean, who's ready to give his time and resources away for free?  P.S. I'd be grateful if you'll ask your friends, maybe I'll find such a person, a mentor... 

    I dont think its a problem to have the desires your having, but what is worrying is that youre mistaking your need for sex as "love".  It sounds like the desire is so pent up that its causing you some psychological problems, which is making you act in needy ways.  This is not good!  

    This is not about you, dont take this personally, but its about not getting a need met and then being a victim of that.

    If you want my advice get off the porn, put a block on your internet or do what it takes.  The more you masturbate to porn the more you mess your mind up, because youre not facing your low self worth issues,  just acting them out.  Porn addiction and falling in love with random strangers is your low self esteem being expressed in covert ways.  

    You need to deal with the thoughts entering your mind, get a daily practice of reconditioning going, replacing each thought with more positive ones until youre firmly established in positive mindset.

    Practicals:

    Resist the urge to go on the sites - this will be difficult at first, but become aware of the opposites working inside you - on the one hand you want to get this handled, and on the other hand (excuse the pun) you want to keep whacking off.

    You need to be able to hold the paradox in your mind while it resolves itself.  Talk to your ego and educate it.  Talk about the long term effects.  See the limitations of your daily habit, and let it resolve in the awareness you truly are (dont identify with it, understand that this is not YOU its just a habit problem).

    Meditate sit with the feelings of low self worth, and just challenge the samskara formation that is appearing to you (the personality trait of low self worth).  Dont resist, just try to look at it objectively and dont do anything to change it.  Just make it "not-self" and let it pass.  Let the feelings pass, see them as untrue and then replace them with more life affirming thoughts.  Dont worry about accepting it, work on just seeing it as untrue and reconditioning your mind with better thoughts.

    Take your time.  The longer you stay off the porn and the longer you practice the better you will feel.  You will fail lots of times, just understand that its par for the course, be nice to yourself (prevent creating another self esteem problem) and just keep working at it, thought by thought, habit by habit.  It takes a while, but it will work.

     

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    58 minutes ago, Lorcan said:

    Recently, Ive been thinking about my grandparents about how to make them more happy before they die. (I'd say they have 5 to 10 years left, I could be wrong)

    Anyhow , I find that I may seem unappreciative to them.

    When they visit, I say hello I give them a hug and them stay in there presence for a couple of minutes before then going off to playing videogames or whatever and then when they are going to leave, I say goodbye give them a hug and they leave.

    When they I ever get us anything I say thank you. But it doeant feel like its enough. Or when they have given me money and I say thank you to them over the telephone it doesnt feel "sufficient"

     

    What should I do? Send them a christmas card? (Ive never done such a thing before to them)

    Ask them questions about there lives?

    How do I appreciate them more without it being awkard and unaithentic?

    This is a beautiful thought in my opinion, grandparents in my experience are at the age in life where their memories and experiences are the most important thing to them.  I would try to get to know them better as people, take an interest in the advice they have to offer you (it will be amazing advice if you can just get your ego out of the way!).

    Try to discipline your desire to play computer games, if you observe it and have a word with yourself and ask yourself if you REALLY need to play computer games which will make you miss another opportunity to spend time with your grandparents, is it really that important to play the games?

    What seems important to you now is your relationship with your grandparents, which is a sign of maturity and compassion in you :) If this is important to you, then make a sacrifice.  Nothing is gained in life without a sacrifice, if you want to do this then you can.  

    If you can get over that little hurdle first you will be surprised at how easily you will relax into just being with them naturally without forcing it or having to think of something to say or do.  Once you get there, then you will naturally want to do things for them.  Make them tea, bring them cakes, help out around the house with the chores.  

    You also wont believe how happy you will feel because youre living on "purpose" and doing what you feel is right in your heart, instead of being "lived"by your lesser desires.

  7. Posted

    Trust me,without a car most girls wont even look at you.  The girls who like "cars" for the sake of "cars" (as status symbols) you want to obviously keep away from them.  But its true that a healthy girl wont consider you much if you haven't got a car, because having a car is a symbol for something much more attractive - a pair of balls, vision, capability to get your own needs met, a brain, energy to put your ideas into action.

    Women unfortunately are hard wired to look at your surface credentials to save time basically.  If you have not got your act together then youre just not attractive to her.

    Them the breaks unfortunately.

     

  8. Posted

    4 hours ago, Arman said:

    I thought this thread a joke until I gave it some serious consideration.

    The phrase 'you guys' contains 3 vowels.

    THREE. Which is half of six.

    666 to be precise. Is Leo the devil?

    For the answer, we take the remaining consonants, y, y and s.

    y ys = Why, yes. 

     

    Cuff em, boys. 

     

     

    You should become a conspiracy theorist lol:)

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    11 hours ago, NTOgen said:

    It's become increasingly clear to me that an attack on someone else's position is always in defense of ones own position. And ones own position only needs defending if you rely on it to validate and affirm yourself, even though it can't actually stand on its own. It needs constant emotional reinforcement and warding against scrutiny in order to perform its real function.

    As an example, that's basically what I was doing lately when I was ranting against Leo. Whether Leo is "right" or not is beside the point. I don't know that he is right, any more than I know that he is wrong. The point is that my attacks are always only about myself.

    That's the automatic response of the identity mechanism, to something that is perceived as a threat to its own survival. That's how it started in the first place, and that's how it is maintained.

    As another example, I'd suggest that the same is happening in this thread.

     

    @jse

    Half of the "battle" of enlightenment is (on the relative side) is learning how to interpret experience properly.

    When you attack someone, you basically attack the thought of them in your own mind, in your own experiential world. 

    This is the hard part, because most of us literally think "the world" is out there.  It IS out there, but what we experience is only in here, our thoughts and interpretation of what is happening out there, we tend to use attacks in order to defend our position.  Which is dysfunctional.  But what else can we do if we have been conditioned this way, and conditioned ourselves to respond in this way our whole life?  Its a human thing, its nothing personal.

    The way to get around this is to employ different ways of responding to our own thoughts so that we dont injure ourselves when somebody is doing something we dont like.  Its fair to say that what the causal body serves us is fairly accurate because it is not riddled with ignorance.  It is the intellect that is riddled with ignorance, and its the intellect that interprets what the causal body serves us in the way of thoughts and feelings.  So be compassionate about others mistakes and delusions, they are growing and are climbing their way out of delusion just like the rest of us.  Understand that they are ignorant, but respond in kind ways that dont injure yourself or others even if they ARE being dicks.

    Leo has not done nearly enough work to be doing what he is doing - serving others on the spiritual path.  That much is clear, because the causal body never lies.  But this doesnt mean we cannot cut him some slack and allow him his platform to try to do this thing.  Hes trying, like all of us, hes a kindergarten teacher for kindetgarten level students, and hes serving a purpose.  Hes not going to tranform humanity, but he will make some difference here and when people are ready for better, a teacher and a teaching will appear.  When the student is ready, the master will appear.  Leo is the master for newbies, and he serves his purpose in this capacity well.  nothing wrong with it, just need to learn to accommodate it and allow it because it is God.

  11. Posted

    On 12/18/2016 at 4:27 AM, Emerald Wilkins said:

    In terms of depth/space existing or not, I'm not entirely sure. I know that I feel sensations that seem to be floating in space while remaining spatially relative and proportional to one another. But I'm not sure if they actually have depth or take up space or even maintain consistent proportional/directional relationships to one another. It could be that the illusion of depth only has an apparent reality (tactually) due to repeated experiences with the visual field as well. So, it's basically like two illusions that require one another to function. But I haven't been able to get a clear, un-thought clouded experience of my physical sensations. My mind loves jumping in with visuals. So, I don't know if I actually experience right/left/up/down in my tactual experiential field, or if size is something that I actually experience, or if my sensations take up any space at all. It's a mysterious medium of reality, that always seems to elude my grip. 

    Are you sure?  'Apparent reality' just refers to the illusion that there are many sentient beings here, which in 'reality' there is not: there is only one sentient being, me, you, whatever, its the same witness - the all pervading, underlying substrate that animates all phenomena.  There is only one person here, and I am deluded by many factors operating in the field of existence. But there IS space and depth, even in the mind too where experience 'happens', the mind measures dimensions true to the objects it sees 'out there'.  Space and depth are aspects of awareness, how can they not be?  You hear and feel a bus drive past your house at certain hours of the day and not at others.  Its absurd to imagine otherwise.

  12. Posted

    47 minutes ago, kyle barnett said:

    Where did you meet them?

    I went to nightclubs, like I said.  Thats where girls go.  Bars, clubs.  Youre a bit old for a shopping mall I would imagine, 18?  Get a car, a job and a licence, then get out there, theres a whole world out there full of girls begging to meet you.

    But get your act together first, most girls wont bother with you if you have not got income or a car.  

    Sad, but true

  13. Posted · Edited by kurt

    5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    The problem with responding to critique is that it makes one look defensive, and only further feeds accusations of acting from ego. It creates debate, which is always anti-consciousness. There is no consciousness to be had in a debate. All ego needs to do to win, is drag consciousness into a debate. Instant win. Sorta like fake news.

    In the battle between low consciousness vs high consciousness, low consciousness has more latitude and power. High consciousness has to stay high consciousness, which often just looks like silence.

    It's sorta like waging war on terrorists. Every time you do it, you're forced to stoop to their level, and by definition you lose and they win, because their goal it to drag you down to their level. Dragging people down is much easier than lifting them up.

    It's interesting to see how a spiritual master like Jesus allowed himself to get nailed to a cross by refusing to stoop. Now that is true embodiment of nonduality. And a very rare thing.

    :) This is not true.  Its silly. 

    The world is not out to get you.  Its a nice place to be, even when it does seem as if people are lobbing stones at you.  

    People earn respect by answering their critics.  It shows cultured intelligence and maturity.  I just hop e you learn to see the difference between being tested and a real power struggle.  People with a power struggle dont have an argument, people with an argument dont need power, they want to see what you are made of.

     

  14. Posted

    @kyle barnett 

    What do you mean when you say there are no girls around?  

    I started going to nightclubs when I was 15.  There is never a shortage of girls in nightclubs.  

    I dont really know where girls hang out for you because I dont know what your situation is.

    34 minutes ago, kyle barnett said:

    How did you meet girls?

    Talk to them.  Its the only way.  Or, you can just grab them on the dancefloor.  You will know when they like you, they will let you know.  Just follow your instincts and dont care about impressing them, just buy them one drink and youre good to go ;)

  15. Posted

    4 minutes ago, Emerald Wilkins said:

    It means just that everything you see is basically a flat screen of shapes and colors with no separations or delineations, nothing more. So, separate objects don't exist within the visual field or in any of the other sensory fields. They are only an apparent reality that we interpret (with analytical thought) based on repeated experiences and corresponding other-sensory field experiences. For example, we learn that certain shapes paired with certain colors/shades within the visual field have depth because we're used to feeling that depth in our tactual/sensational field. But the depth doesn't actual exist in the flat plane of our visual field. It is only the illusion of depth due to particular placements of certain shapes and colors that we're used to interpreting that way. 

    Thanks.  Is there anything "out there" beyond our thoughts of "it"?

  19. Posted

    2 minutes ago, SBB4746 said:

    99% of people enlightened... as if there's a sure way to determine if someone is enlightened in the first place. 

    Taking the statement too literally.  Its safe to say that the pursuit of realization is not a mainstream thing.  Unless you wish to redefine the boundaries of enlightenment itself?  We could even say that Donald Trump is enlightened - you need to keep an open mind.

  21. Posted

    @SomewhatAnonymous One of the problems you might face in the future if you decide that you really like her and want to continue with your relationship is sadly she might become unstable when she becomes emotionally attached to you, and you become attached to her.  Which might cause you some stress, perhaps some wounding that you could do without.  I assume that youre a person who wants to grow and improve?  So what is your motive for wanting to be around this girl?  May i suggest its maybe a slight case of vanity superseding your authentic self.  Maybe something to look at?  Youre wounded and attracted to her to feel good about dating such an attractive girl, and shes emotionally unstable and not really a "spiritual" type.  

    Can you really see a future?  If not, then be warned that once attachment happens its going to be a bit of grief that you could have saved yourself.

    As @NTOgen says, logic trumps emotion if growth is your goal.  

    And your situation seems a perfect example of emotion trumping logic.

    Its logical to want to enjoy healthy emotion, and vica versa, healthy emotions validate and confirm healthy logic.

  22. Posted

    21 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    A) This is trivial because when one speaks of "raising" consciousness, it's a linguistic device. Not a literal existential claim. It's a way of speaking to help people understand certain things about this work.

    Again, you assume I'm naive about these things because you like to nitpick rather than seeking to be inclusive and hearing the intent of the communication. This is what happens when you let the left side of your brain become a lawyer for the ego. It can nitpick anything anyone says. You could take the words of Buddha himself and make him look like an ignorant devil if you so desire.

    B) All nonduality teaching and communication is METAPHORICAL. As it must be. You cannot speak of enlightenment non-metaphorically. EVER! So whether you choose to speak of it in religious metaphor or scientific rationalist metaphor, it's all metaphor requiring decoding.

    C) The self resides in EVERYTHING. Thought is an aspect of self. EVERYTHING is an aspect of self. Atman is Brahman, Brahman is Atman. Your conceptions of nonduality are excluding duality, which is an immature conceptual of nonduality. No masterful nondual teacher rants against duality, mundane life, education, mastery, or other people teaching nonduality using alternative styles. Because he understands the game.

    I could choose to teach nonduality by only speaking of it in terms of Jesus. Jesus this... Jesus that... Satan this... Satan that... And that would be no less valid than whatever your favorite way would be.

    I encourage you to seek to be more inclusive and generous, rather than nitpicky and harping. The ultimate goal is full acceptance of reality. So long as you harp, you aren't really understanding of reality, or embodying nonduality.

    Theres a lot of ignorance in this statement.  You need to look into this more, lot of romanticizing and assuming about things you dont actually know.  No offense, I feel youre getting annoyed because youre not getting what you want, and thats compliance.  Fair dos, you are the self after all, but being the self doesnt mean that the self is always right.  The self creates, maintains and destroys itself eternally.  The self destroys itself in the fight between cancer and human lives.  The self destroys itself in world wars.  Its naieve to think that just because everything is the self that its good.  You dont decide what is good and what should be accepted or not, only the self does that by its own processes of creation and destruction.  Be very careful when you are attempting to play God with your limited knowledge and open mindedness, youre not exempt from being brought down by God either, youre a tool for his creation and he gives you everything you have and will take it away when he sees fit.

  23. Posted

    30 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    I will be able to help many more people raise their consciousness than conventionally possible.

    Kudos on your recent reply to me, I dont see anything wrong with what you are doing.  

    This might sound like nitpicking, I promise it is not, in fact, it might prove valuable to you, or it may not,depending on what you want or are looking for.  Maybe somebody else will.

    Are you wre that you have misunderstood "consciousness" from the very get go?  Your language patterns reveal a lot.  Consciousness cannot be "raised".  Mind knowledge can be expanded, but thoughts and perspectives are not "consciousness", they are as dead as matter itself.  Thoughts are "empty" of self nature, meaning that Self does not reside in thought.

    There is only one "consciousness" and its the same sentiency in everybody.  Its ever present, its the knower of alll that is.  It cannot be changed, cannot be destroyed, lowered, or "raised".

    So why do you confuse inert subtle matter with consciousness?  Because thats the first thing we learn at "enlightenment school" - that there is only consciousness, and it is one.

    My point is, all youre doing is actually raising "fantasy" and mistaking that for knowledge.  There is only one knowledge, and its the absolute, and you are that.  Tat Tvam Asi !

    So all of this has nothing really to do with consciousness, it has to do with thought, and thoughts are fantasy and they are either based on truth, or they are based on relative beliefs.  

    like I said before in another post, you cant be enlightened and deluded at the same time, the two dont mix.  Either your mind is aligned with truth as much as possible, or it is aligned with relative fantasies and models.  

    Which is why Ken Wilbers work, I believe, has been a spectacular flop, despite all his efforts to turn a blind eye to what his critics are trying to tell him.

     

  25. Posted · Edited by kurt

    29 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    I do not know the validity of channeled material.

    But I will tell you this, the bits of it that I've read/heard are very psychologically advanced. Regardless of its scientific truth-value, the psychological lessons it teaches -- just as self-help advice -- is of remarkable quality and utility, showing advanced insight not generally available to the rational mind. Unless one assumes all of it is a genius hoax perpetrated by spiritually-advanced people. But if you understand spirituality, you understand that spiritually-advanced people, generally-speaking, don't have much reason to lie or trick you. They are actually much more likely to have genuine desire to help you, while YOU are the one who resists and tricks yourself out of their help.

    I always prefer to assume that my own mind tricks me, more than anyone out in the external world tricks me.

    No, I was not open to these kinds of ideas a few years ago. Because my research wasn't broad enough back then and my mind hadn't yet been blown totally open from experiencing that reality is truly infinite.

    It might be the case that channeled material is constructed by usually-untapped portions of the right-hemisphere brain. Your brain might be filled with more than one consciousness. Some of these consciousnesses may be "locked away", until they are tapped.

    Then again, we have to keep in mind that "brains" don't actually exist. Everything you call reality is constructed by your "brain".

    Reality is much more twisted and ingenious that most people could ever imagine. And that's why they get stuck. They underestimate reality whilst overestimating their understanding of it. Basically, it's hubris 101.

    The problem I have, is the stuff I have already learned that has proven many things you say as false information.  Im not going to regress back to being open minded about things I know have already been proven as untrue.  Everyone is free to be open minded, but when its proved wrong you need to adjust to the new information, because holding onto a perspective in light of evidence that blows it away is a problem.  Then there is always the danger of turning into Koi fresco, not that Im interested much in his views, but its clear a lot of what he says is just fantasy because hes not interested in reality, hes interested in being open minded, which is fine, but the guy is clearly lost in his own stories.  No offence koi if youre reading, just sharing my opinion its nothing personal, but anybody can misinterpret a teaching then that becomes the new teaching.  What was the point of the original knowledge if were just going to make it into something we want?  Its very vein