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I have a similar problem, sleeping with her might help. Sounds awful, sure but it can really help. It helps with your insecurities if nothing else. Giving oral is boring. Either way you probably don't like her that much, maybe you just like her because of her gender, it's a common thing. If you want to have a sex drive don't masturbate for, say 2 weeks and you'll be in the mood for sure.

Also if you can visit them in person and have a chat with the employer. (instead of sending it via email)

If you do cold approaches there is always going to be some rejection. Don't bring your social game you're not there to make friends anyway right? Flirting is really different from being social. Having great social skills helps but it's not everything.

So I'm with this girl and we are having a good time, I go in for the kiss and she was a poor breath. It's not awful but I can smell some type of food on her. Either way I said nothing and had a good evening anyway. What's the solution here? should I just tell her, surely a quick teeth brushing would resolve it. That would kinda ruin the mood though. Also I suppose she was not expecting it. I could just bring gum and smoothly offer her some. Feel free to discuss similar topics.

Imagine if you where a jehovas, people wouldnt want to talk about Jesus with you. Same thing kinda applies here. While it's nice that you want to help this is not the way.

@BobbyLowell Yup. It's problematic if you do though.

Most guys don't even get this far so awesome man! Ps. Happy mans day!

@Leo Gura Yes you're absolutely right, have no idea what my life purpose is, I don't even own you course.

There are plenty of girls teaching guys how to get girls. Surely they can't be objectify themselves

@ill I did not know that. Either way you're not just going to lose your attractiveness. Girls like older men, so you are fine. What happens if you would reproduce do you think you would feel better? when you have "done your duty" Donate sperm!

Going on noFap when you know you can get laid in 2 weeks time is good, this way you reprogram your brain to connect sex with pleasure. If you go on noFap with no sex on the horizon it becomes more difficult. Also skip porn altogether.

Let's say a kindergarten employee decides not to reproduse, is she useless for the betterment of the human race? no because she improvements the life of others increasing theirs likelihood of survival and for others to reproduce.

@egoless The problem with pickup advice is that it's works because it deceives the girl. In other word you come of as more confident and awesome than you are. Say "this" and you sound more confident and so on and so forth. If you truly see yourself as high value and you're a confident guy, you will get the girls you like. Assuming you keep yourself clean and so forth of course.

@Alex K buy a peer of headphones and ask her to use them. terms like "because" and "this would mean a lot to me" are great

At some point, you don't even have the energy for anything (including suicide) but in many way you don't really survive anyway. For me it was like this, during my childhood and teenage years I was extremely addicted to playing video games. So all my friendships most of which I meet online in these games were incredibly shallow. After getting though high school I stop playing video games and in the process lost these "friends" and I came to the realized that my social skills IRL were basically nonexistent. Therefore I couldn't make new friends and so the "fun" begins. Have you had friend in the past? How old are you and what do you do(study, work or unemployed etc)? How do you spend your free time(for fun)?

@kieranperez I mean: Were you a hanging out with lots of people and having success with girls before. So things have gotten worse or did you not and now don't feel the need to improve. (but you want to rationally) I mean because you said "I don't even feel compelled to flirt anymore". So I assumed you did feel compelled, but I don't know of you did actually flirt in the past. Typo my mistake. Moving out would absolutely help, independence is really important and not just for the sake of getting girls.

@Hardkill I would focus on: Habits( working out and eating alright, these kinds of things) Inner and outer weaknesses(can be fixed normally with some new habits) Social skills (Make some friends) Sex/romantic (whichever one comes first) This will take some time yes, but it will definitely be worth it. Btw I was in your position two years ago, although no family either

Never say something about yourself unless someone asks you very specificity about that. Now you can't brag about anything

Flirt not because you want to attract someone but instead for fun. Self-amusement done right. Where you active before socially and with the ladies?

@Rossporn addiction! Skip porn for a month and you'll get very satisfied with straight porn again. Bonus points if you skip porn completely.

Get out of that place and don't sleep with anyone until your over it. Sharing beds with your ex like that can really hurt you permanently.

@Joel3102 Never be nice to anyone, be kind instead. Most guys are beta, girl can like you anyway, sure it's not optimal. But only beta guys try not to be beta.

Yes, this is indeed true. But faking it comes off as incredibly desperate. Perhaps befriending girl, could offer you value. You will learn more about girls and be seen with them.

@Caterpillar I don't like some of your subcategories, but to each their own I guess. If we skip morals, please don't give yourself fake hickeys, I mean are you more attracted to girl who have hickeys? Also are you more attracted to a girl, just because other guys like her? To me this sounds like the kind of attitude girl would dislike. Sorry if put my nose where should not, but I could not resist.

Highly conscious people are aware of the things around them because they are not focused on their thoughts. So a highly conscious person makes less mistakes. Like forgetting their car keys and so on. Low conscious people are lost in thought all the time and so can not appreciate the world around them and also make more mistakes. imagine doing the dishes while in deep thoughts about your crush, the result will not be the best. It's more of a spectrum everyone isn't the lowest possible or enlightened. It's not the most clear wording because both are equally conscious technically but the value of what the are conscious of is different.