Spiral

If I think you’ll be there for me when I need you. I think of you as a good friend

@AION I wouldn’t date a girls who’s tricky. Hot girls are overrated, it’s fun in the beginning. But personality is where it’s at

@Joseph Maynor If someone told you that they hangout with you just because they’d be lonely otherwise. Wouldn’t you find that off putting? Sort of like an insult?

I find friendships difficult. On the one hand I have a need to socialize, especially since I work alone and is single. While on the other hand I often don’t find myself enjoying the other people’s company, not really. It feels unfair to use people for social needs.

@enchanted Silly outfits have some perks. Cool people don’t make an effort to look cool, because why would they? The same concept goes for confidence and so on

Be careful not to confuse charm and charisma

Technically flirting is indirect. So compliments are not flirting at all ”So I like your hair” isn’t flirting, it’s just a statement. ”I only like girls with thin gray hair, so you’re not really my type” would be despite communicating the same thing

I think YouTube is an awful cesspool. People just try to make money and ensnare your attention

I also have low libido, although I don’t see the issue with this. I can think less about women and more about other more important things

If you’d like to be more feminine, socializing with girls/women exclusively will get you there. No hormones needed. I used to do this, and people assumed I was gay.

Respect is shown not something you need to say. While I appreciate respect more, a girl expressing love is more appealing. Assuming I’m also in love of course. Telling someone you respect them out of the blue comes off as suspicious. I’d never say that to anyone unless it’s relevant to a conversation

As with most topics I’d avoid them with people who are either not interested nor understand. In this particular case it’s also not meaningful, since the nature of reality is ineffable

Looks nice

This whole thing is like a spectrum, you either do canned lines. Or you become the type of guy, girls actually like. Or something in-between. Here is a pretty basic hard scripted way to do things. I’m kinda enjoying these to mix things up. Y for you G for girl. Y: Hey, can I get your opinion on something? G: sure Y: Do I look like a drug dealer? G: haha no Y: Two girls has already come up asking for weed. This is getting out of hand (you can say this with a joking tone if you like). Now you have a fun and useful frame for the rest of the interaction. Results may vary in countries were weed is legal

I’m melting here in Europe, great way to reduce libido

@Ulax Perhaps, I am however not in the business of charming my way into her pants. That’s too much work in my opinion. I think you can tell pretty much immediately if she’s interested and while you can make her interested it’s easier to just move on immediately if she’s not. Although I might just be spoiled based on my looks

It’s better to be straightforward. Rather than pretending to be interested in the time or a directions. As long as you are, it isn’t as important what you say

I’ve tried singles events. Not exactly the same thing but it’s fun. Less structured, hasn’t lead to anything worth mentioning but I wasn’t particularly ambitious either. You mingle and chat people up

This

Live a fun life and girls will want to be apart of it. Sit at home playing video games and gooning and they don’t. Same with sitting a home theorizing how to get them. And doing “fun” things to get girls is not a fun life. Having fun certainly includes some exercise and a healthy lifestyle

Men only want one thing: a hot witch girlfriend

I’m radical in my disdain for marketing. If I’m in the mood for something and then see an ad for it, I’m not going to buy it

There is certainly intersexual competition. Not just for men but for status among women. Like girls advice girls to cut there hair shorter if the other girl is prettier and vice versa. As well as very pretty girls will struggle more socially among women. Unless she’s very considerate and kind. Is this good or bad? idk. Everything has a cost

This stuff is easy. Don’t ask, don’t tell.

@SageMind Empathy is not rational, if you become resentful you’ll experience what that’s like and gain more understanding Although “suffer” isn’t good advice because it not something people generally seek out