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  3. Posted

    On 29.9.2018 at 3:53 PM, Elton said:

    why isn't being radical honest about the present enough ? Being honest about the past will always bring the risk of being judged, demonized and abandoned.

     

     

    The same risks hold true for being honest about the present? I dont see your point.

    The past is an important part of you, so if you did something stupid you should have learned something from it.

    You dont have to tell everything in the beginning. For example if you murdered someone you might first want to build a strong connection and relationship before telling that. Just dont lie.

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    1. Release the feeling you get when you have SA (do that at home, while remembering a situation)

    2. On the street outside: Relax your body (watch Leos last video on this if you haven't)

    3. Change your mindset. From something like "people are mean" "I am awkward" to "Most people are cool" "Im the coolest guy" "everything will be fine". This can take a while.

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    Forming deep emotional connections & being yourself pretty much contradicts with only caring if people accept you.

    That doesnt mean you have to tell everyone that you dont like what they like. Just dont lie. You can always agree on the fact that you can understand their perspective and thats it. If they ask your opinion say it.

    Polarization is a great tool for filtering people to your personality.

    For example, by not letting people know your high paying job, yes you are not triggering their low self-esteem and they dont become jelly. On the other hand you just assume that they cant handle it and ultimately your dishonest. You might understand that many people do not want someone in their life who thinks little of them and is dishonest.

    You could say that with this behaviour your not filtering out the poeple that dont fit your current personality/lifestyle (low self-esteem, jelly) and alienate those that you actually want to connect with (cool/happy with their job, happy for you).

    Do you see how your behaviour leads to this exact outcome?

     

    I find asking questions is a great way to connect with people (what you already do), dont be afraid to ask deep/personal questions. Make sure to ask yourself these questions and you have good stuff to talk about.

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    I dont know what you are here for and you didnt ask a question but here are 3 practical tips for you:

    1. Ignore the stalker.

    2. If you cant ignore the stalker change accounts/nicknames, report the person on the places where they are stalking you. Be careful what you share online, maybe create multiple accounts. If the stalking goes on, check your computer for  virus/malware. Last step would be to contact the authorities but dont expect that they can/will help you if there is no threat other than posts & messages about your appearance. 

    3. Work on your self-esteem. Start to expand your inner beauty.

  7. Posted · Edited by universe

    Thinking that you can always improve is the first step. Actually doing the work is even more difficult. At least I find that to be true for myself. Changing habits requires tremendous willpower, vision and new beliefs. Fighting against homeostasis.

    No one can tell you how to live your life. Most people will tell you not to take a relationship as a project and I can see where they are coming from.

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    On 1.10.2018 at 5:14 PM, MM1988 said:

    @SoonHei I still think it was random. When about a decade ago someone broke up with me I just wished to have them back for weeks. It was happening more than once. I was daydreaming and visualizing how good it would be to see them again etc. it was really bad, of course nothing like that ever manifested in reality. You cant manipulate people with your thoughts.

    Daydreaming and whishful thinking are not how LOA works.

    By wishing you will have them back you did not use LOA effectively. To apply it you would be realizing that you already have them back! Then again LOA ist not a magic pill or anything, it just sets you up best to achieve whatever you want in lfe. It wont do all the work for you.

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    Sounds great! Im happy for you!

    What do you do as a childrens entertainer? Also what is a the enrichment program about, does it require engineering skills? I have a friend who recently moved from working with children & as a waiter to now only work with children and he hosts escapes roomto balance it out. Now he is looking to learn acting. Is that also something that interests you?

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    On 24.9.2018 at 6:46 PM, isabel said:

    interesting, I'm female and I am definitely more interested in people, I actually make people so I need to know a lot about them lol

    I became interested in enlightenment because of people

    Never thought about that, haha. Yeah it makes sense when you see it from that perspective ;)

    A friend told me her motivation came also through her suffering. Because of self-worth and because of the way she behaved in previous relationships which was the result of her low self-esteem. So the suffering was that man(society?) treated her poorly and she didnt wanted to accept this.

     

    On 24.9.2018 at 6:46 PM, isabel said:

    but I'm not interested in those things just to know I'm interested in them because of what they lead to which is bliss, that's what I want

    is some of that the same for men?

    Definitely, for me at least. Truth and understanding where a bigger motivator than bliss.

    I guess that realization that it all leads to bliss came far later for me. Although there is a certain gratification/fulfillment in deeply pondering reality by itself.

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    Hey, Im interested in storys or tips you have about dating really hot women/men. I know its not very specific as everyone has different looks that they like. For the sake of generalization, Imagine in a group of 5-6 girls/boys, I mean the one that is the hottest. And also every woman/man is different. But I guess there is a certain dynamic at play here with these types of women/men.

    How did it happen and what do you think, was the thing you did right? Confidence... non-reactiveness or forming a deep connection, whatever comes to your mind.

    Dont list general things women/men find attractive - talk about a specific event/experience you had :)

  19. Posted

    Thanks for your answers!

    14 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    And to me, it's quite clear to me that your insight about female nature is nothing more than an intellectual speculation about the female experience from afar. But if you don't yourself embody your own feminine nature, you cannot be aware of female nature in general. 

    Yes, I just listened to Osho a few days ago. Also watched Leos videos on masculinity and femininity but they were more general/sexual. Im interested in the female path to enlightment. How do women go about it, when not questioning reality, pondering about Truth, being mindful, being aware of the mind labeling things, entangling the groups under each label, seeing reality for what it is, watching the thoughts and fiddling through all the lies told by society?

    Maybe even more interesting I find, what is the motivation behind all this.

    For me, the motivation that got the ball rolling was definitely finding Truth, deepening my understanding of existence and personal growth. How is that different from a female perspective?

     

    Im not on that level yet to just tap into my female energy and answer all these questions for myself. Allthough if you happend to have some guidance I will give it a try.

    Disclaimer: Im using the word woman/female/masculinity etc. just for the sake of clear writing. Im aware everyone is both female and male to variing degrees.

     

  21. Posted

    As Leo said in his video 

    (@2:42) If you want to be an amazing mathematician you have to love math and get inspired by it in an almost spiritual level.

    Can you see yourself like this? If you can, I guess you can then also imagine how you talk to other people about math and have this glowingness in your eyes, that they can see. And you can inspire other people for math, showing them cool things (especially physics has a lot of interesting things to offer), ultimately expanding their understanding of the world.

    So yeah, math can exist really good in the "real, warm humans lives".

    I dont know about the exact work life of someone working in physics but if you have the superpower to work on something for long periods of time all on your own. Then sitting in a lab and doing math seems like a cool place to be. If you dont like doing that, then maybe collaborate with other people, get a lot of assistants or work on a more "hands on" kind of field. There is always a way and if you really have no interaction with other humans at work, there is still time after work. It can also be a blessing to not have to deal with people at work :)

    On a metaphysical level, yeah math and physics have nothing to do with Reality, but so is everything you can study in university from social sciences to economics, to controlling and to computer sciences.

    In the end you can have a big impact on the world with physics and I would be very grateful to have a good understanding in physics. But if its not your kind of shoe maybe consider something related like programming or as you mentioned finances.

     

  22. Posted

    Recently heared a speach by Osho in which he talks about the differences between feminine and masculine energy in the universe.

    Im a man and this was very interesting to me because until then I just assumed that the way I go about conscious work, awareness and connection would also be how everyone else does it.

    Here is what he said:

    Men care about truth, reality and how to create things in reality (e.g. spaceships). They want to figure out how reality works and whats is true and what is not.

    That has really been my whole life. Figuring out reality, questioning reality and searching for the Truth.

     

    Well turns out, for women its none of that. While men are interested in emprinting themselfs on nature. Nature is only interested in the uterus, because the uterus gives birth. The uterus is inside of women, so they are much more centered in themselves. Women are not interested in building spaceships because the uterus is already inside of them.

     

    So anyone on the feminine side of things care to explain this a bit more? I really want to inspire people to do conscious work and need a better understanding of the female mind regarding metaphyics, so I can include women as well.