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  1. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Reignforest said:

    @universe so when I slipped a disc in my spine,  could barely move without excruciating pain.  I should just man up and do her honey do list without complaint?

    What is a honey do list? But no, then you go to the hospital. Listen to what they tell you what the treatment plan is and make health a priority in your life.

    You are the one who is in charge. You are responsible for every fucking thing in your life.

    If in doubt -> Self-Love is always the correct path.

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    Feminine and masculine qualities are different. You can't expect that when you go into the more feminine side you will get as much positive response from a woman as if you where fully in your masculine. The same goes the other way around. If she would act all masculine you would have a hard time coming to terms with that as well.

    Now, while this is the case you can still be respectful with each other. But that's a different topic.

  7. Posted

    Sounds good.

    Just some tips. Think about yourself as if you already are an entertaining musician. The belief that you are is one of the biggest difference between someone who always wants to be an entertaining musician and someone who already does this for a living.

    Now in order for you to make money from it there is a kind of market dynamic at play here. For your life purpose (or anyone else's actually) there is not a perfect match for what the market wants and what you want to do.

    It's like a Venn diagram. Where the market needs and your Life Purpose overlap is your income zone.

    For example - You are an actor and you want to express yourself in a certain way and always play and experience different roles. But the big bucks lie in getting in and practicing one popular theater show and playing it over and over for over a year.

    You see where I'm going with this?

    There is always the balance between following my Life Purpose to the T, or do I pick one aspect of my Life Purpose that is the most valuable for others right now and make a living with it.

    And this applies in the earlier phase more than later.

     

    You picked a good industry. Entertainment is always in demand. Maybe you can find a pub where you can play music and entertain the guests. And you could also organise some events yourself. Then prepare a show and iterate until something works.

  16. Posted

    Good question.

    -Always see yourself as the victim.
    So whenever something doesn't work the way you wanted it to go, blame others for it. To the point where you have no responsibility whatsoever.

    -Focus on lack
    "There is not enough". Are you sure you can even afford food tomorrow? And remember: It's not your fault inflation is so damn high. Someone else got something you wanted? Great! Focus on the fact that now there is less of it available for you.

    -Increase your needs
    Wherever you go your needs can hardly get met. Your need for approval, love, security and control are insatiable. And even if you get a lot of it, you crave it again the next second because as you remember, yes, you are completely in lack of everything.

    -Talk bad about others (behind their back)
    You have to be very vigilant about noticing whatever is wrong with people around you. Especially people in your social circle, close friends and family. Even if they seem perfect from the outside, they are hiding something atrocious. You know it. Tell their friends about it. Bonus: Mention that nothing they might try to accomplish in their life is possible.

    -Self-Fear
    Absolute Fear. You fear everything - people, objects, ideas, yourself. You have a specific world in your mind and nothing you see fits what you have imagined reality to be. Instead, it tries to destroy your world. You can not accept that, therefore it must be feared.

    -Resist everything
    You did all the above and now you finally feel depressed and anxious. Don't let this go to waste. You have to keep this up. That's why change is to be feared and avoided at all costs. Whenever a feeling comes up - push it back down. Try to store as much emotional energy in your body as possible. Also resist what others (enemies) do or say.

    -Tense up
    Roll with a gentle tension in your body. This is the best way to resist whatever you might face throughout a long day. But you can also mix it up by getting really tense from time to time.

  18. Posted

    5 hours ago, sda said:

    I mean that S always calls me bad words like ass-hole and dumb ass person. He gaslights me, interfere in my personal life, touches me uncomfortably on the face/neck, tells me bad things about myself, he is very manipulative, he takes my things without my permission and he tells me to bring his things for him such as a glass of water or mobile phone which he is lazy to bring. 

    Are you a man or woman? I looked at your profile but it wasn't mentioned there, sorry if I missed it in your post.

    In general you should not let things like this pass. It's part of growing up to set boundaries. Whatever you might thought of as o.k. or tolerable in your childhood, you should examine your beliefs and see if they still hold up to your standards now.

    To set boundaries you state them calm and firmly. State the consequences if someone breaks them, then follow up with those consequences once they are broken. You do not need to be violent but don't be afraid of confrontation and tension either.

    Is S like this to everyone? If not there is something in you that makes him think that it is ok to act that way. It could be valuable and eye opening for you to find out what, if that's the case.

    If he is like this to everyone just throw him out with the help of the others.

  19. Posted

    You maybe have completed one heroes journey but then in another area of life you will start a new one or you are already in the middle of it. Or you have multiple heroes journey throughout different stages of your life.

    The heroes journey is all about transformation and the way in which humans usually deal with it.

    It's also very much tied into story telling and culture. And you will find it in movies like

     

    -Matrix

    -Lion King

    -Star Wars

    -Lord of the Rings

     

    Watch this video, it will make it easier to asses in which chapter you are in right now.

     

  23. Posted

    There are many reasons for this.

    Just to name a few, because unlike men, women don't get aroused by just looking at a man. They are not like a light switch, instead they are more like an oven, which gets hot gradually - over time. And also because a woman will have to know you before she will be attracted to you because of personality.

    These are generalisations of course.

    Then you have the whole social conditioning going and there needs to be a way for a women to assess wether or not she will be safe with you or not.

    Some men actually use this technique and will find a match.

    It is not what you say.
    It is how you say it.

    Women are like military grade scanners. They will locate your true personality, find your hidden agendas and know where to push in order to collapse your whole machinery. Most guys come with a paper plane and crayon on their faces and think that's enough to outsmart them. :D

    I'd recommend you to learn and master communication and social dynamics.