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  1. Posted

    12 hours ago, Growly said:

    @Twentyfirst 

    She will actually be repulsed by an ugly person's confidence because she will think that she's looksmatched with him. So I would approach woman that is looksmatched with your looks

    That's some real mental gymnastics right here.

    The world is run by survival. Whatever has the best chance of surviving and giving the best survival options for the children is what women favour in the dating market. That plus a mix of mental quirks they acquired in their life.

    Yes, good looks have some survival perks to it but it's far from the only factor. So maximise your looks as far as possible but focus on the other super heavy pillars as well.

    Or you know, you could put your head in the sand and disregard whatever this life is.

  2. Posted

    Hi jacknine119,

    Maybe normal but not optimal ;)

    It's a self-worth topic. If yours is fluctuating a lot, could be a sign for narcissism. Narcissim is defined by not being able to give yourself value and love. Btw, it's a spectrum. Almost everyone is on it.

    Oftentimes rooted in childhood, for example when the parents have the same problem. They'll have a specific image of their child in their head (because they want to impress others with their child) and so they only give you love if you follow this specific image. Having no space to be authentic and express yourself as a child is a good way of developing narcissistic traits in the future.

    Either way. This is a must watch if you haven't seen it already:

    ❤️

  3. Posted

    @Happy Lizard Note that I didn't say "job" and instead "field/profession".

    Someone with more experience in their profession and willingness to take on more responsibility will make more money than someone who has just learned the basics.

    In general, the more responsibility you have, the better the pay.

    One thing that is the most common way to make a lot of money is to be self-employed.

    Because your responsibility and income is not capped like in most jobs.

  4. Posted

    Not sure where you live but the average debt of an American citizen (including mortgages) is 100k. Do you have that much debt?

    Also the longer you work in a specific field the higher your income would be. If you switch your profession every 2 years, don’t expect to make as much as someone who has been in that profession for 10 years, generally speaking.

  6. Posted · Edited by universe

    Narcissm is something that is very common in our society.

    Everyone is on a spectrum. Certain aspects of narcissm are kinda glorified and encouraged in our society, so it's normal and expected everyone has some of it.

    If you parents were highly narcisstic, then it is almost impossible for you not to also have narcissm. Because a child will absorb everything around it, to help with navigating this world.

    Narcisstic people get their sense of validation and love predominantly from the outside. In short, they have a very limited or non existent ability for self-love.

    Therefore, when you are narcisstic, you are constantly very needy. You need reality to be a certain way. Your child must be how you envision it, therefore it cannot be himself.

    Do you have any memories of your parents not letting you be who you are and instead demanding from you to be a certain way?

    Like you couldn't authentically express yourself?

    In this thread you also showed some form of this. For example, you switched the roles I mentioned earlier, by demanding your parents to be a certain way. Or you want members here to behave in a certain way.

  9. Posted

    I'm currently not travelling travelling but I am in a lot of places. I find it inspiring to see how the day to day life differs from country to country. And all the variations in culture, architecture, energy and languages. Also seeing new places. To just see that there are so many people living here, that you have never seen before. I find it refreshing and it automatically shifts my perspective.

    Travelling can also give you time for yourself. Disrupt your normal routine and shake things up a bit.

    I think it depends on your inner world. Do you need/want to escape? Then you will do it anyway. You do not need to travel.

  13. Posted

    I wouldn't call it psychology but taking care of your mindset while working on your business could be beneficial for you. Many people have weird ass beliefs about money (e.g. rich people = bad, money stinks, money is the devil, you have to work hard to get money, rich people are so different then me etc.).

    And also being very needy with money can have a negative impact on your situation (I write it like that because I don't want you to develop another mindset that you have to be not needy for money first or whatever).

     

    @Rishabh R 

    You can work on your emotions and triggers. That's a great idea. But also you want to see if those emotions might have a point. Maybe you are really lacking in some form of maslow's hierarchy of needs. And you should really get your ass up and get a girlfriend.

    And you already got some good points about talking to girls and gaining traction there. One other thing you can improve on are some secondary stats. Like having a strong life purpose, confidence, your clothes, wisdom etc. Those will increase your overall attractiveness and make it more likely that when you talk to girls, they will find you a "good catch".

  16. Posted

    Very good answers in this thread already.

    It's true, you do not need to be optimistic in order to get something. And you do not even need to get something.

    However, if you want to get something, it will become easier when you are in the right emotion.

    I'm referring to the consiousness/emotional scale (see for example David Hawkins).

     

    You could start logically debunking your belief system. Which is helpful, but not necessary.

    Instead, just come into feeling. Feel the fear. Become present with the fear. And come into being.

    This will move you up the scale.

    I wrote a whole thread about this here 

     

     

    One other thing I've found helpful is doing gratitude practices.

    ❤️

  17. Posted

    On 06/04/2024 at 1:13 AM, Reciprocality said:

    I do not know what to do, I can not decide whether to continue to infer the behaviour of reality based on experiences or begin to live life with myself in focus.

    This is not a problem.

    Right now you are here:

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    This is where you want to go:

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      / \

     

    ❤️

  18. Posted

    This is common advice in marketing. And it's true.

    There is nuance to this.

    It's good for checking if the problem you want to solve with your business is big enough for people to do something about it.

    Once you know that it is a big problem for people, then you can work on solutions.

    Or you might already had "a" solution and just needed the right problem.

    It also depends on whom you show your offer to (that's the next step, finding the right market) and how you present it (e.g. the copy).

    Then you can use this technique again to check which product/service is the most wanted.

     

    It is a very much client oriented approach.

  20. Posted

    You also have to consider that 2,6 million will only be worth 1,2 million after inflation (assumed 2% p.a.).

     

    It could also be closer to zero with maybe a 1% chance. Doomsday Szenario.

     

    I would rather invest money into my business or into my hobbies and increase my income sources that way.

    Seems more fun.

    But if you don’t know what else to do with your money, investing is always a good idea.

  21. Posted

    4 hours ago, FourCrossedWands said:

    Let's be completely honest. Becoming rich is mostly about luck.

    If you live your life very low consciously that might be true. But this place is about self actualisation. You self actualise by taking things into your own hand and take responsibility. You live life to your fullest potential. That doesn't necessary mean you have to make a lot of money but by avoiding a lot of the material traps and illusions laid out by society, your financial situation should be better than 70-80% percent of the population easily.

     

    4 hours ago, StarStruck said:

    Of course. You shouldn't. But society has a different view on that. For a women, her value is her beauty, youtfulness and fertility. For a man it is your power, which is linked to money and status

    And why do you define yourself by the low conscious standards set by society?

  22. Posted

    10 hours ago, StarStruck said:

    You just need to know what people need and just provide that.  One of the transitions I had to make is being less selfish and just serve the customer and make their happiness your happiness. And they will flock to you like goose to give you money.

    If you just want to make money, yes. But that is not a smart goal to have.

    Letting money define your skills is a very bad idea. You can take it into consideration depending on how much you value money in your current situation.