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Your looks can be changed quite a bit, although the maximum you can attain will be determined by your genetics. It's most certainly worth maxing out your looks potential if you're wanting to actualise in your dating life, given that it has such a prominent effect on your ability to attract women. Body fat percentage is the most notable change which can be made to improve your looks, since being fat significantly lowers your attractiveness. Someone could have great genetics and potential to be very attractive but may not know it due to being rendered unattractive by their excess weight. Thus I recommend that everyone seeking to fulfill their dating potential make becoming lean a top priority if they aren't already, it's possible that they made have potential to be far more attractive than they realise.

@Emotionalmosquito Have you put much thought into improving your physical appearance? The way women respond to you differs completely depending on how attractive you are.

If you're wanting to enter a profession such as engineering, law, or medicine then it's a good idea. Probably not if you're just wanting to learn, the cost in both time and money is too great now days. If you're interested in science there are many sources outside of university to learn, for instance there are whole courses worth of lectures on YouTube from universities like Havard, you can find second hand text books to read through, and Wikipedia is also an excellent source for scientific knowledge, you could also try reading through scientific papers yourself. When it comes to psychology and philosophy these disciplines are best learnt through reading books written by the great philosophers and psychologists themselves (this will give you a much deeper understanding than a university degree).

Probably genetics (ie high IQ) combined with putting in a lot of effort to learn (ie reading books, lectures, life experience, introspection). That's my assessment of the situation, the combination of natural intellect and conscientious action is one of the most powerful for attaining achievements in the material world. Didn't he go very deep into pickup

Negative emotions can actually be very powerful motivators, many people achieve their goals this way, for example the fear of poverty can drive someone to start a well paying career. Though I wouldn't recommend using negative motivation too often since it can lower your level of happiness and lead to neuroses. Positive emotions can help to motivate you to action. This isn't the law of attraction though. Law of attraction is the belief that merely visualising what you want enough times will make it manifest in reality. The best motivator is to get in touch with what it is you truely want and then create a powerful vision of what you want to create with your life. You then need to put in the work and remain humble to feedback from reality and adjust accordingly. I've given it a great deal of attention, I've spent years sincerely testing it. It just didn't work. I agree, though I find in my own experience that these sorts of synchronous events or help from the divine happen when you're sincere in your desires and taking the best action you know of to create the life you want to create, when you're out there truely engaging with life. Sitting at home doing visualisations or affirmations can lead to years of your life wasted, which is why these ideas are so dangerous. You've been put on Earth to engage with the process of life. Taking the most right action (based on the best information/experience/intuition you have available) demonstrates to God that you are sincere in your desire. This is when help or guidance will come. Did I say that life was mechanical? I don't believe this. This doesn't mean the law of attraction needs to be true. The issue is the people use the law of attraction as an excuse not to take action, they are running away from having to actually put in the work to creative the life they want. The people teaching it usually don't describe it as a motivator towards action, rather that visualising enough times is sufficient to manifest what you want. This simply isn't how reality works.

Very pretentious of you. Good for you. Seeing beauty in an absolute sense is not the same as what we are talking about here when it comes to attraction between the sexes. When it comes to attraction we are judging relative human perception of beauty on the level of the physical. Sex is a very primal thing, not something divine. It doesn't matter if you don't like the word, you still judge people based on their appearance. To deny this is self deceit. There are exceptions and other factors play a role too, but there is a strong correlation between an individual's physical attractiveness and that of their partner, ie. people usually pair with people who are around the same level of attractiveness as themselves. Appearance is the biggest variable when it comes to dating. I say it's bull shit because very misleading and will lead men astray, possibly even dangerous. For someone who is very unattractive to approach a girl and just act confident can lead to very negative interactions with him being labeled a creep. Women generally love it when an attractive guy approaches them, but will look at the very unattractive guy with utter disdain and contempt if he does. The average guy will usually get a soft rejection, such as "I have a boy friend", unless he happens to be her type or if be can bring something else to the table such as charisma, "game", or status. It's sad that reality is like this and I would prefer it to be different. Men would be better served by first doing what they can to improve their looks as much as is possible for them. No they can't, not accurately. It takes time to really know someone, you cannot make an accurate judgement of someone by looking at them. Women do not possess some magical power, they are just human beings. They are making assumptions about their personality (which will usually turn out to be wrong). Women are attracted to physical appearance first, not "emotional attraction", again stop lying to guys about this, you are doing them a great disservice. It is much better that men get accurate information so that they can do what they can to improve their situation. Have you heard of the halo effect? Women will attribute positive personality characteristics to the conventionally attractive guy, and negative characteristics to the unattractive guy. Looks are one of the primary factors which determines the personality judgements women make. Yeah people like you lied when I looked for advice on how to fix my dating situation. Just changing my mindset to see myself as more attractive didn't work. What actually worked was improving my looks. Very big night and day difference in how women (and men too) treat me now as compared to when I was over weight. It's pretty sad that people are so superficial, but that's just how reality is. We need to start being honest to men about what actually attracts women so that they can take the correct steps to improving their situation. And for those men who are unfortunate to have been born with unchangeable flaws to their appearance, you can at least stop gaslighting them in telling them it's their personality or mindset.

I'm not sure I agree about this. We're genetically predisposed to enjoy sex with people we find attractive. I've had sex come to me easily before and it was fucking good. All these games that the average man has to go through is just an annoyance and leads to frustration. Sex with a hooker is very different from having sex with someone who genuinely desires you. It seems many people want their to be some explanation or meaning for their hardships, but honestly the modern dating environment in the west is very skewed against men. This doesn't make it more worth it, it just sucks, and if we're honest to ourselves I'm sure most of us would want it to be fairer. So many men now days are deprived of sex and intimacy, this is simply a horrible position be in in your life, I wouldn't want this for myself and I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Having gone long period of time deprived of sex to now being able to have sex with more ease and frequency, I can definitively say I much prefer being able to have access to sexual intimacy, I do not want to go back to having it be hard to have sex. You're reading a bit much into his comments. I don't think we can make such judgements of his character based off of a few forum posts. This is true, as much as the people on here don't want to admit it. Girls will make it very easy for handsome guys to have sex with them; women want to have sex with attractive guys, there's no shit tests or games being played with them. Having lost a decent amount of weight recently I can attest that my success with women is drastically different now, it's like being in a completely different reality. Just not true. The primary factor in determining your attractiveness to women is your looks. Confidence, charisma, energy, and other personality factors play a significant role too, but not as much as your looks. A handsome man will benefit even more from these factors but it's not require for them, all they need to do is act like a normal human being and have enough confidence to physically escalate and they will get sex quite easily. For an average looking man it will be a lot more difficult to have sex, they need to compensate with "game" in order to get laid, and even then they won't get as good results an attractive man. For a very unattractive or obese man no amount of "game" will help them (would you have sex with an obese and unattractive women if they had a great personality? Why are we trying make it out as if women are pure angels who only care about a man's personality?). They want to have sex with attractive men. Being fun is great and will help you to socialise, but if they don't find you attractive they still won't want to have sex with you no matter how fun you are. They may use you for entertainment and then go home with someone they are attracted to. Not true. There will be some variance in how attractive people find a particular person, for example if you take a conventionally attractive man there will be a few women (out of say 100) who will find him unattractive but the overwhelming consensus will be that he is attractive. People are attracted to physically good looking people, there is an abundance of research in the scientific literature supporting this. Why do we have to lie about this simply and obvious fact? Yeah this is bull shit. An ugly person will not magically get amazing results just by lying to themselves about their attractiveness. The fact that you claim to not see people as ugly goes to show how much you lie and deceive yourself. We all (cross-culturally) have a sense of how beautiful someone is. You are not some special pure being who is above this, you're a human. Why lie? Women are just as or probably even more concerned with looks than men. Research shows that when it comes to hook ups women have very high standard for looking when choosing someone to have sex with, whereas men are willing to have sex with women who are less attractive than themselves. When it comes to relationships men will have higher standards for looks than when looking to hook up. Women have a minimum looks threshold which a man must meet in order for her to even consider him a potential partner, this is before he even has a chance to display other personality traits.

Finding a girl(s) that you like more is the quickest, most effective way of getting out of needy attachment.

This is obviously a scam. You've already lost that $750, only thing you can do now is let that go. If give them another $3k expect to lose that too. Take this as a learning opportunity and don't be so gullible next time.

I think this is false. It's very apparent that people vary considerably in their intelligence, we are not all the same. If everyone acted from the highest of intelligence the world would not be in the state we see it today.

Yeah sounds like bullshit, the majority of these man vs women generalisations are. Can't say I've ever heard anyone say this one, to be fair.

It's price is very high compared to where it has historically been. It probably won't go back to pre-2020 levels though.

Law of attraction is not how reality works. It is a feel good idea sold to people who don't like to put in actual work. The general process to actually achieve your material goals is as follows. Get very clear on exactly what it is that you want, do the research to figure out how to achieve it (a great deal of discernment is required given how much false information is out there), go through the process of trial and error testing things out and observe what actually works and does not work for you, take consistent action over a long period of time working towards your goals, and continuously adjust your approach based off new information and feedback from reality.

If that's your goal perhaps just throw it in Dogecoin or Solana. There's possibly going to be a decent sized crash sometime over the next few months so be prepared for that. You'd want to aim to hold until we're near the highs of the cycle (likely in 2025).

Sounds a bit like you're gass lighting here. If what he's saying is true then it seems that there is a genuine concern about his wife's personally or attitude towards him, rather than him just failing to emotionally satisfy her. I suspect that this is the case. I am honestly disgusted sometimes by the way some women treat men who are unattractive.

That sounds horrible, I couldn't imagine being with someone so unsupportive.

@Tenebroso Yeah truth is women are primarily attracted by looks, having experienced both sides (recently lost a fair bit of weight) I can tell you that women will make it very easy for handsome men to have sex. Personality factors, compatibility, ability to provide, ect. will come into play when it comes to relationships, but you'll still need to meet a certain looks threshold. How much experience do you have with women? Have you actually tested this advice and had results from it? Unfortunately, reality does not have to conform to our own ideas of it no matter how nice they sound and how much we want to believe in them. Sex is a very carnal thing. @thierry Much of the dating/pick up advice out there is bullshit and very misleading. Most of these coaches on YouTube are manipulating people in order to sell them their over priced garbage courses. There is some good, genuine advice out there but you've got to use a high degree of discernment and good judgement. Leo's How to Get Laid videos are a very good summary. You also make a good point in that much of the advice that works for some people may not work for you. There are various archetypes that we can fit into as men, trying to emulate someone who's a different sort of guy as yourself may make you come off as very incongruent. Authenticity is important, the problem is you don't start out knowing who you authentically are by default. You've got to go through the process of self-discovery by test things out via trial and error and observing what works and what is most authentic to you.

In my experience focusing on building a connection first just doesn't work, if you don't get them sexually excited they seem to lose interest. (An exception to this may be where you've know a girl for a while through social circles or other situations where you have repeated social contact over time and then you guys decide to hook up). It takes along time, say months or years, to develop genuine connection. How long should we spend try to develop a connection before having sex? You'll most likely end up disappointing her if you take too long to be sexual and she'll move on to someone else. A better approach in my opinion is to get sex out of the way relatively quickly and you can focus of building that connection afterwards. This is simply not true. Women love sex and it's very important to them, probably more so than it is for men. Many women will have sex on say a first date if it's with an attractive guy, they will make it easy for him (of course not every women will, there's variance in how quickly people are willing to have sex). Looking at things from your own perspective; is all you want from a girl a connection and a decent personality, or is their physical attractiveness important factor in influencing whether you're interested in them sexually? Assuming that physical attractiveness is unimportant for women and that it's all about you're personality demonstrates you haven't had a lot of experience in this area. Do you really love someone when you've only known them for a few dates? It's important to be genuine and honest. This stuff is great and will influence your perceived attractiveness as well as help the interaction go in a positive direction. However, you are at some point going to have to sexualise the interaction. You will need to develop to ability to physically escalate well and arouse your date, there's no getting around this. Whether she's receptive to your escalation will come down to how attractive she finds you, which mostly comes down to your looks and your charisma. The biggest way you can improve your attractiveness is be lowing you body fat percentage to 12-15%, if you have overweight you are massively lowering you attractiveness and hindering your results in dating. Realistically you may not be good enough (ie. attractive and socially skilled enough) when you're first starting out to get the dating life you desire. Poor social calibration, lack of social skill, awkwardness, negative energy can kill your interaction with women. Depending on where you're starting from you may need to spend a lot of time working on your social skill and dating skills. And it will probably be brutal for you at first. It's also a good idea to improve your physical attractiveness (ie. lower body fat, gym, groom well, dress well) to a point where you're at least somewhat attractive before you start cold approaching in order to improve you odds of successful interactions, otherwise you will get an overwhelming amount of rejections without seeing much success, which can be disheartening, lead to more social anxiety, and lower your self-esteem.

@BlessedLion How often do you get laid?

You lose weight by eating less calories than you utilise. It's as simple as that.

That's something I really appreciate about how you run things here. I've felt it to be quite off putting with other content creators when they get too pushy and manipulative with their marketing.

Who cares? It's just one girl whose choosing to be closed off for what ever reason, that's her problem, just move on and focus your attention on having fun interactions with the other girls. What does this mean to be a 'sexual threat'? I think you've got some limiting beliefs you need to sort out here. Being attractive is not a threat to women, women want to be around attractive guys. No, do not physically escalate on a girl who is so closed off to you. You seem to be obsessing over this one girl and I strongly recommend leting go of those feelings of neediness. Using your awareness find the emotion of neediness/desire for a certain outcome and simply watch it with your consciousness without trying to resist the experience or change it in anyway. Don't think about the emotion or try to verbalise it (feeding your thoughts with energy will only make things worse), simply place your consciousness on the emotion itself and allow yourself to fully feel and let the emotion run it's natural course. After a few minutes you will suddenly find that you feeling lighter and more free. Continue this process every time negative emotions are triggered.

How do you use DMT for socialising?

There's something very unhealthy about the way you view friendships. Relationships are one of the most important aspects of life and major domain of self-actualisation (along with career and spirituality, ignoring any of these areas will lead to an unfulfilled life). Think about it, you are conscious and there are other conscious human beings who you have the opportunity to experience and enjoy life with, there's something quite miraculous about that. From what you've written it appears that you are on the path to leaving school only to be left with no friends, is this something you'd truly be okay with? Not having social relations can lead to a great deal of loneliness, neurosis, and depression which will impact all areas of your life. I strongly recommend against going down this road. In terms of your career, developing your personality, confidence, and social skills is incredibly important for that too, you'd ideally want to be able to establish rapport with your clients and develop strong connections with you colleagues, it's just as important as having the technical skills in your field. I'd recommend making it a high priority to develop social skills especially while your still young and in school where you're in an environment where you have plenty of opportunities to interact with your peers. Do you, or have you ever enjoyed spending time with your friends? If it is something you like doing then It'd probably be a good idea to play some games with them every so often and just enjoy some time with them. High school isn't particularly hard, you have more than enough time to focus on your studies and have some free time to hangout with friends, and you'd probably do better at your studies this way since you need some time to relax (finding the right balance for you is important). If you truly don't enjoy spending time with them and simply don't click with them, then I'd strongly recommend being proactive in finding the people that you do resonant with, at least on some level, and forming strong connections with them.

@JonasVE12 Wow, thanks for sharing this. I have found this to be true in my experience, the way people respond to me seems to be nearly entirely determined by my own level of energy, the difference is so stark it almost as if experiencing a different reality. When I'm in low vibration energy (ie. anxious, angery, needy, insecure, competitive, ect.) people seem to be repulsed by me and will, for instance, avoid eye contact and not respond with all that much positivity in social interactions. While when I'm a higher state of consciousness (ie. love, joy, peace, collaborative, connected, creative, free/uninhibited, authentic, ect.) people seem to be inherently drawn towards me. I often won't even need to be the one to initiate a conversation, people will say hi to me as I walk past and it becomes very natural and effortless to socialise with all those around me, as if I can feel our underlying connectedness like there's no barriers between us. Attracting women becomes the default, it seems that most women will suddenly light up and have a huge smile just from making eye contact. The problem I'm currently grappling with is that when I do drop down into low vibration energy it can be quite difficult to raise out of it, since the illusion feels so real when you're in it even (if you consciously know that it is false since it becomes difficult to truly remember what it was like to be in a state of love and joy). It appears that low vibration energy blinds you and prevents you from being conscious of how you control your own mind. For instance, when in low vibration energy it may literally feel like the world is against you and impeding you from getting what you want, you don't see that it is you who is creating these beliefs and making the world appear like a hostile place or that you are choosing to feel the negative emotion; all these cognitive process are unconscious. While in a higher state of consciousness you are aware of all these processes and you can simply choose to let go of a negative belief or emotion in an instant and it becomes so easy to consciously use your mind as you've demonstrated here and do things like 'consciously bring up joy and love in the heart'. Do you have any advice on how to raise your level of energy, particularly when you seem to be stuck in the mist of a pain-body attack?